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Has my boyfriend unblocked his ex?

137 replies

hastala · 18/09/2019 17:23

Ok I might sound crazy but here goes.
In the search bar on Facebook when I typed my boyfriends name plus his ex's name nothing came up.
Now when I put his name and his ex's name all posts from years ago show up that she wrote on his wall.
Does this mean he's unblocked her?

OP posts:
coconuttelegraph · 18/09/2019 18:45

Can you set the audience for someone else's posts? I don't think you can block X from seeing Y's posts if you are Z can you?

AmIThough · 18/09/2019 18:47

Maybe she's changed her privacy settings?

Why are you driving yourself mad over this? Is he a lot older than you?

31RueCambon75001 · 18/09/2019 18:49

I think you can. I could pick a person on my fb list and make the settings so that only a i saw their posts. Or that only family see your siblings' posts on yr wall.

But then if you later removed all customisation (restriction) then all posts would be visible to all

hastala · 18/09/2019 18:54

I'm all confused
My friend said it makes no difference if they were blocked too each other that I could still see the posts.
I'm driving myself mad here
He's a few years older yeah

OP posts:
Ginger1982 · 18/09/2019 18:55

Something must have made you look at this.

Blueoasis · 18/09/2019 19:02

Something must have made you look at this.

Agreed.

hastala · 18/09/2019 19:04

He is always on his phone /WhatsApp
I know it's stupid but it makes me so paranoid who he is chatting too.

OP posts:
WelcomeToShootingStars · 18/09/2019 19:06

Yes you sound paranoid and quite frankly obsessive.

Why on earth are you searching her so much??

RavenLG · 18/09/2019 19:06

Am I being paranoid?
Psychotic more like.

hastala · 18/09/2019 19:13

I haven't searched in ages
This was the first time in a while

OP posts:
SparklyMagpie · 18/09/2019 19:17

"I haven't searched in ages
This was the first time in a while"

Bollocks was it!

This isn't right, you say you haven't been together long. So walk the fuck away then! You don't trust him

This is making me cringe so much it's like I'm sucking the worlds most sour lemon

hastala · 18/09/2019 19:18

I know you might say I'm paranoid etc but come on don't you think it's strange how all of a sudden I can see all the posts she posted on his wall ...yet a couple of months ago I couldn't
And no she didn't have me blocked as I could always see her profile

OP posts:
SparklyMagpie · 18/09/2019 19:19

😂 no! I think it's strange you're even going to this level to do this.

I'm out

SparklyMagpie · 18/09/2019 19:20

If he blocked her or not, unless you're on his account it makes naff all difference

Stop stalking! And go find a new hobby

SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad · 18/09/2019 19:21

You are waving many, many red flags OP. Time for your boyfriend to start running

harriethoyle · 18/09/2019 19:21

I fear for the safety of his pet rabbit...

BarbedBloom · 18/09/2019 19:25

If it is your FB then she has unblocked you. Him having her blocked would make no difference to you being able to see her on FB. He may never have had her blocked, she had blocked you which is why you can see her now

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 18/09/2019 19:26

Well if he's unblocked her there's clearly a reason behind it

And there's clearly a reason why you keep looking and doing this search in the first place.

They broke up. He's with you. This really isn't healthy.

hastala · 18/09/2019 19:40

Like I said before she has never had me blocked
I've always been able to see her
But I couldn't see her posts on his wall off years ago till now ..that's why I thought he unblocked her and that's how they are now visible

OP posts:
SparklyMagpie · 18/09/2019 19:43

Oh get over yourself! You're ignoring EVERYTHING everyone is saying to you

So, you're right OP! You just believe what you want to in cloud cuckoo land

Tbf if I was both of them I'd block you

Who even has time for this?? I doubt Miss Marple could even be arsed

loobyloo1234 · 18/09/2019 19:43

Have you asked him OP? You do sound unhinged btw

WelcomeToShootingStars · 18/09/2019 19:44

No. I think it's strange to monitor what's visible on your partner's Facebook wall.

WelcomeToShootingStars · 18/09/2019 19:45

And so bloody what if he has unblocked her!

cherryblossomgin · 18/09/2019 19:50

I was you the first year of my relationship. I was paranoid and would need to search sometimes. Stop before it ruins your relationship. I wasted so much time and energy on things like this and it nearly broke us up. She might of unblocked him? But does it really matter? I am constantly on my phone but I am not up to no good.

AMAM8916 · 18/09/2019 19:52

Best way to find out, go onto her page and see what friends in common it says you have. If your boyfriend is a friend in common then he's friended her again.

I wouldn't bother about whether she is blocked or not.

I don't block people, I think it's so petty and stupid unless there's harassment going on but if I did block someone and time passed, I would unblock them as who wants people blocked?

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