DH and DD can't get on

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Posted about this before about a year ago, when my DH was shouting at DD and scared her. Things improved dramatically after that and he was really trying.

Now things have slid back into the old pattern. He doesn't open his mouth without nagging or criticising or telling her off. I don't think he's even conscious of it. So she gets defensive and starts getting annoyed. So he gets annoyed and has more of a nag. She shouts, he shouts, and it all escalates.

It's getting to the point where I worry about going out for an evening or a weekend away because I don't trust what's going on at home.

'Cant get on' is blaming your daughter. Asides from her being six, nobody 'can get on with' someone who is emotionally abusive. You need to leave your husband. This is the kind of thing that messes with someone's mental health for life. Get away before the damage gets worse.

Your daughter is only SIX?

Get rid of him, he's awful.

OMG she is a little child and your job is to protect her! Grow a damn spine and dump the asshole you're married to

I thought you on about a teen! Get rid of him OP!

JFC, your poor child is going to be ruined because of this abuse. You have no choice but to leave him, don't you understand that?

I also thought you were going to say a teenager (I have two and know they can be obnoxious). A six year old however is a completely different matter. You are her protector op, she is so young. You really do need to leave before the damage is irreparable.

Do you have dc and if so what is he like to them?

Wow! Another one who thought she'd be a teenager. That poor girl.

You really think a 6 year old is choosing "not to get on" with him? This isn't her fault, it's him. He's a grown man, he should know fucking better! Please, for the love of God, get rid of him before he inflicts irreparable damage on your little daughter :(

Is he willing to get help with his temper?

Also your thread title saying they don't get on is worrying.

They are not equals who need to 'get on'

He is an adult who needs to not be a cunt.

I too thought you were talking about a teenager - not that that makes it any better - but at six years old she is already learning an awful lesson about how men treat women.

I know it's easy to say on here but I really do think I would make him leave.

How is he with you when you 'annoy' him?

Bloody hell, it was bad enough thinking you were talking about a teenager, but 6 years old! You need to seriously sort his behaviour out or remove her from the situation.

She's only little

Why is he treating her like this?

The fact that you are afraid to leave him alone with her says it all. Is he her father?

She’s 6! What the hell could she do to ‘get on’ with her abusive dad? He can leave and maybe return if he’s in counselling starting next fortnight and you can visibly see the difference after min 3 months.

What’s stopping you from leaving him?

Oh my word this is dreadful!!

6!!!!

You HAVE to leave otherwise you are complicit in his abuse of her. Just horrendous.

Six. Can't get on?! Poor little girl.

She is six? Six? It’s abuse. You are condoning it. Save your fucking baby. Today.

To be fair though if the OP did leave him wouldn't he be entitled to access and maybe 50:50?

Op, I'm wondering if you grew up with an abusive, bullying father, because anyone who wasn't would never tolerate this kind of abuse directed at their child.

I had a bullying stepfather.

Husband is DD's biological father.

Why does a grown man need to shout at a child to get his point across?

Please do what's best for your daughter.

Husband's father bullied him as a child, too.

Thank you all for your responses, I think seeing it in black and white just brings it out how bloody WRONG this is.

It's like boiling the frog.

So why are you allowing it to continue?

SIX! bloody hell