“Nicest woman I have ever met”

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This is how my dh described another woman. Would it bother you? It is niggling me!

Oh, one of my husband's best friends is the nicest guy. So nice. Really extremely nice.

I could not be less attracted to him.

Nice is one of the lesser compliments between men and women, isn't it?! I don't know...nice. I wouldn't like my husband to describe me as nice.

The key is really how old she is and whether she’s fit. Given that she’s attractive and round your age that’s really the issue. If she was 75 and doddery you wouldn’t care if she was super nice.

Replace nice with bland. Would hate to be described as nice. Poor her 😜

I've just started a new job. I'm sure my colleagues would describe me as very, very nice because I'm enthusiastic, super helpful, have happily swapped shifts if they've asked, have helped them out in other ways, always cheery.

I'm also still on my 6 month probation.

He sees this person during a working week when they can put on the 'nice' face. NOBODY is that nice.

Nice is one of the lesser compliments between men and women, isn't it?! I don't know...nice. I wouldn't like my husband to describe me as nice.

Yeah I would have thought so, infact just a few weeks ago as me and DH were driving along we saw a guy we both know (wouldn't consider him a friend of either of ours but know him through something our son does) and I said "he's probably the nicest person I ever met" and DH agreed with me, I don't find him anyway attractive, he's just a really lovely person, he's one of those rare people that are always upbeat and positive without being annoying, if you get me? DH knew exactly what I meant by that. Words like "Nice" and "Lovely" are, imo, friendly words, not ones you'd necessarily use for someone you were into

I don't automatically associate nice as good.
1 of the nicest people I know has zero opinions on anything therefore never says / thinks differently to whomever she is talking to so as to not offend.
I don't necessarily think this is a good thing.

I'd just say yes she is really nice bet her husband is hot. Cant wait to meet him😉

I'm sure I'm not the nicest woman my husbands met, I'm too grumpy, sarcastic and lazy for that. I am the woman who makes him laugh, feels wonderful to hold and thinks he's fantastic.

She sounds like she'll be an excellent employee, especially if she's in a public-facing role.

I think it's just a passing comment. He may be a bit in awe of her niceness. Part of the reason for that will be that he knows that he isn't that nice himself - and that, if they were friends rather than colleagues, she'd find that out about him.

The risk is that he puts her on a pedestal and portrays his 'nicest self' to her all the time. Not because he fancies her but because he would feel embarrassed at presenting his 'not so nice' self to such a paragon. That would look like a bit like a schoolboy crush on the art teacher. Pure naive fantasy. Let's hope he doesn't do anything so silly, for everyone's sakes.

My experience is that really 'nice' people are often rather naive, lacking insight or healthy cynicism. They assume everyone is as nice as they are. That doesn't necessarily make for easy relationships.

Sorry YABU
Unless you think your DH is the nicest and funniest and hottest person you have met, you are being hypocritical.
Your Post proves that he is probably correct not to considered you.

Unless you think your DH is the nicest and funniest and hottest person you have met, you are being hypocritical.

you'd hope the OP is attracted to her DH and chose him for a reason

Thinking that someone else is the funniest or hottest person they've ever met is one thing, but telling your partner about that another one!
How would you react if your own partner describe someone else as the hottest person they've ever met! That's just rude and unnecessary.

Thank you Frau.

My DH and I agree that my SIL ( married to his brother ) is the nicest person we have ever met - she is kind, funny without a hint of malice, generous with her time and attention despite being super successful and busy, someone who lifts your day just by her presence. I am not jealous of her - aspire to be more like her in her interactions with people and am delighted that she is there as a really good role model for my DDs. She is also beautiful - not that that is relevant in itself but looks have been referenced on this thread.

That’s a really good way of looking at it jellyfish. I am in no way jealous of the lady just thrown by my dh comments. Perhaps I can aspire to be more like her and be “nicer”. Though I feel I am a nice person already she obviously has traits that I don’t

Winter life I am sure you are very nice. You took time to respond to me! Perhaps I need to look at my own failings and perhaps I am not as “nice” as this lovely lady. Doesn’t mean to say he fancies her as said above i just need to get a grip. Just thrown me a bit.

I'm sorry it's thrown you. I doubt DH's intention was to cause you any worry or insecuritiy.

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Winter....
Do you mean that " nice" is superficial, and kind is more genuine/ thoughtful?

No. I think of a nice person as a pleasant, friendly person, one who will go out of his/her way to make you feel comfortable.

A kind person, I think, is one who will go out of his/her way for you to help you in ways that are beneficial to you.