“Nicest woman I have ever met”

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This is how my dh described another woman. Would it bother you? It is niggling me!

Depends on context but, surely it’s just a turn of phrase?

Anyway she’s happily married that’s supposed to be a good thing.
I personally would have said this to my soon to be ex without even thinking it might be taken out of context.
I definitely don’t think it’s unaccceptable.

Dappled that’s exactly how I feel a bit miffed.

Yes on occasions they will work closely together but I don’t worry anything will happen. She is too nice!! It’s not about her it’s more about he thinks someone is nicer than me. I am being a jealous twat.

Well aware we are all human and can have our heads turned I would just never say to him someone else was the nicest man I had ever met wether I thought it or not.

@HennyPennyHorror

You know they say, beware of Pierre.

(Nobody says that I just bloody love a good rhyme)

DH often says that I'm not as nice as my mum. He is right.

It really wouldn’t bother me. I think it’s probably just hyperbole. But ‘nice’ is not something I particularly aspire to be either, seems so bland.

I wouldn't even think twice about this. I certainly wouldn't take it literally.

@Happymum12345 and @FairyDust92 you sound almost proud of being jealous harpies! Weird.

Why do some of you automatically assume that the female employee would be up for shagging the OPs husband, even if he did want to? Misogyny at its finest 🙄.

Nice isn’t always a compliment. It can mean bit of a doormat. DH has referred to someone at work as “ having a heart of gold” when he means a bit stupid and a people pleaser.

Agree with this. DP once used the phrase “she had a heart of gold” to describe a girl he was seeing before we met. She wanted a relationship and he didn’t. I asked if he thought I had a heart of gold and he looked at me awkwardly then gave me a list of my better qualities 😂.

An example of her kindness was when he and a friend went to an exhibition and she looked after his mates kids all day at the exhibition whilst they went off.

And I thought to myself...yep I wouldn’t do that! Whilst I’ll happily do favours for people, she sounded like she was trying hard to please.

I'm not very nice. These would bother me:

The most interesting/unusual woman I've ever met
The most beautiful/sexiest woman I've ever met
The most intelligent/funny/witty woman I've ever met (that would be Game Over)

I think it would sting a bit for a second but then I'd realise I was being silly. If that makes sense?

If he said kindest / sexiest / prettiest / funniest I'd be sad about it I think.

I can't really explain why nicest wouldn't have the same effect, I guess the connotations of the word for me are that someone is sweet and vanilla whereas I'm quite feisty.

It's very likely (considering she's super nice) that she will go out of her way to get to know you and be a great employee, it would be a real shame to let this affect your opinion of her.

Dh often says I'm not as 'nice' as people think I am. He does balance it by saying I'm one of the strongest people he knows and that I'm nice with a core of steel. I have to admit he's right about all of it

I think I can help you here OP.

I'm nice. I'm "that nice/lovely/heart of gold/angel of a girl down the road." Apparently I'm quite pretty too and look very young for my 35 years. I'm the person you trust to babysit your kids or house sit or to definitely hand in that wallet with £200 in to the police station. I'm Miss Honey from Matilda. The (many) men around me constantly sing my endless praises saying what a lady I am, how lovely I am, "what a sweet girl".

I'm also seen as a total pushover. Totally sexless. My guy friends jokingly refer to me as "the Virgin Kate" because I'm so "good and pure" (I mean seriously WTAF?) and not one has ever tried it on with me. No one has ever wanted to marry me. I'm somehow so nice its rendered me totally untouchable. I'd make a perfect nanny but that's it. As a colleague I'm the one who is over looked for promotion because I am the nice girl and nice girls can't be ambitious or ruthless enough to go up the ladder. You can't be clever and nice. Or sexy and nice. Or boundaried and nice.

Nice girls rarely get respect. We're a bit grey and insipid and not at all exciting. We're predictable. Dependable. We can't keep a man on his toes. We'll always do the right thing. Wheres the fun in that?

This woman most likely poses zero threat to you. She'll make a great employee. But it's you that's exciting. Not her!

I would hate to be described as nice. I'm quite a fiery arse at times though but only when needed mostly

I agree with EmbarrassingSituation2019. If I heard someone described as "nice" that is what I would think.

Nice is good (especially in an employee) but it isn't very exciting or romantic or interesting.

Yes on occasions they will work closely together but I don’t worry anything will happen. She is too nice!

^

Believe me, she isn't THAT nice.

God all this makes me wonder how I'm described

@HennyPennyHorror - I had a bit of a crush on my squash coach and one day when he rang to change the time of our lesson my DH who had answered the phone yelled very loudly 'Lucious Luke is on the phone for you' - embarrassing or what 😳. Ps: I'm nice too 😄

Don't be a snowflake.. it's perfectly ok to say this about someone.
There are lots of people you know, or meet, who are classed as the nicest people to know, and they tend to stand out from the rest.

I've been described as too nice. This meant thinks everyone is as nice as me and I'm a total pushover.

I am nice. Unless you cross me. However you probably wouldn't notice I was being horrible. Some wives don't like me because I am nice and their husbands like me. I can't help this and am horrified anyone would think I would have an affair or even strike up a friendship with a married manHow in appropriate imo. Pity my ex dh mistress didn't have the same morals.

That aside, she was being nice because she wants the job. She is going to portray as happily married isn't she? No one would mention any personal problems at interview surely?

Your dh sounds rather tactless, personally I would be a bit frosty with him and point out she will be working with you. Won't she?

It wouldn't bother me but I'm not 'nice'. I'm funny, interesting, kind, compassionate.... but i'm not 'nice'. It almost has a negative connotation to me. If someone describes someone as 'nice' i think 'fake'.

Surely everyone is nice in work mode! You are not seeing the whole person.

As said about nice is not exciting or sexy.

I would be disappointed if my DP called me nice it’s very wishy washy.

We ought to be able to see the good in others and be able to compliment them and to witness others doing this without it chipping away at our own self worth. Someone else being the most x in the world shouldn't mean you lose your place. Hold on to your dignity.

Get over it. He probably just means she is nice.

I wouldn't like to be described as that. I'm not so wouldn't. DH and I have a sarcastic wit. I have heard DH say this about other people. I think you are massively over reacting op. I would be more upset if DH said 'the most stylish woman..'