“Nicest woman I have ever met”

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This is how my dh described another woman. Would it bother you? It is niggling me!

I don't think nice=doormat, as some have suggested. That seems a bit unfair. However, it doesn't sound like much to worry about unless your DH is in the habit of trying to unsettle you with his comments. She could be a genuinely lovely person and deserve the compliment. Some of the 'nicest' people I know are not necessarily my favourites or people whose company I'd crave over others.

My friend's DH said this about me! She thought it was hilarious and always brings it up if I see her husband.

My DH is a charming and polite man, who often makes comments like that in passing. "The nicest woman/man" something we both use to describe people who, for example, are the "heart and sould of the office" etc but they also tend to be the people who aren't any good at setting boundaries and who constantly get walked all over (not by us, but you'll know the kind of person I mean). Nice is not something I aspire to be in life - sure, kind, polite, well-mannered, but nice always sounds superficial to me. Decidedly not bothered by that.

DH also has described other women as "insanely smart", "one of the funniest people he has ever met", "a truly good person", or "crazy talented", to just mention a few. All it does to me is that I want to meet them all and want to have them as my friends, they sound awesome!

OP if he seems unhappy, talk it out, but leave the poor nice woman be

A close relative of mine was told by their manager, you are seriously the nicest person I’ve ever met. This was as they were saying goodbye as my relative was leaving the company with mental stress due to staff shortages, pressure to sell, push loyalty cards ect.
Yeah people can be too nice.

Dh had known had met her many times before she came to work for us due to her previous job. He has always spoke highly of her work wise.

Thanks for all the opinions seems a really mixed bag but tons of common sense. Probably is more to do with my own self esteem. It has not caused an issue between dh and I as in we have not fallen out about it. It’s just stuck in my mind and I genuinely wanted to know if it would bother other people.

Thanks for all the responses

I would probably feel a twinge of jealousy, if I am honest, but then I would clearly recognise that other women are nicer than I am, and that they deserve praise for that.

Being "nice" isn't being "lovely" or "sexy" or "beautiful" - it's not any indication of romantic feelings. It's a kind of moral quality, really. I think my friend Andrew, who is a vicar (I'm an atheist) is one of the nicest men I've ever met because he will do anything for anyone in a totally selfless way, but there's no way in a million years I fancy him or would ever want to be with him.

He has put her on a pedestal. You can't really have an extramarital affair with the nicest person you've ever met.

Depends on the context.

I'm definitely not the nicest woman my husband has ever met. He's probably second only to my dad in niceness.

But I'm the woman he loves. Don't think he'd be that into an incredibly nice woman in a relationship.

Reminds me of the Friends episode where Monica told Chandler someone at work was the funniest guy ever-
It was Chandlers USP so he panicked-I'm sure it was a passing comment and not a side by side comparison with you.
Also "the nicest person in the world" might be quite dull so you will shine by comparison...

When people say what they think nice means, it's always so different.

I bet a lot of men who'd use the adjective 'nice' mean ''smiling, pleasing, accommodating, never complains, puts others first at her own expense, feminine, not finishing her sentences loudly when interrupted'' and this is not the goal of any sensible person.
Another person said that nice is having no malice, and I think that is closer to what I think of as nice. But if you have no malice it's usually because you are emotionally healthy.

So nice = emotionally healthy. ie, no passive aggressive behaviours leaking out because you're genuinely authentically happy with who you are.

A lot of people are trying to come across as nice and they can't quite manage it so they come across passive aggressive. Interesting in my opinion I've had a few occasions where men have described somebody I found passive aggressive and manipulative as ''nice''.

Be wary.

If he’s in ‘awe’ of her it doesn’t bode well

You might find she’s the least nice person you’ve met when she starts shagging your DH.

I would be offended if my husband described me as "nice". Who wants to be "nice"? It is synonymous with boring in my mind. I always think of Tim Nice-But-Dim if someone says someone is nice but maybe that's just me.

Of all the things my DH could think about me, being "nice" is very far down the list! I would be really upset is that's the first thing that would come to mind.

Who would describe their husband like that? Oh, he's nice.

There are a few people who are genuinely the nicest person you've ever met, and they are lovely as friends usually, doesn't mean it's a goal for the rest of us.

Of course it would not bother me in the slightest, why should it!

I think I'd probably feel a bit stung, but then I'm not particularly nice myself, so I wouldn't take it too much to heart.
I might probe a bit to find out he meant exactly by nice though - sometimes nice can be a prelude to other things, so I'd want to be sure.

I have some absolutely lovely, kind, selfless and amazing friends. And some do get taken advantage of and I wish they would stop being nice to people who take advantage of them.

I'm very nice and helpful too and I do put myself out for other people too much too, but not as nice as my nicest friends. And I also have friends who have great qualities but can be a bit selfish too.

For some reason I would not mind DH describing a colleague like that

But it would bother me if he said she was the prettiest woman he ever met, or the most awesome. He did not marry me for being the nicest woman he ever met after all, and I would in all honesty not expect him to think I am the nicest woman alive!

DH once starting raving about an amazing woman at work and it really got to me, as I was not feeling particularly good about myself (or anything) at that stage (PND).

If he would do that now, I'd take the mickey, as would our teenagers

It's about how you feel about yourself. If you are not feeling great about yourself, for whatever reason, this kind of comment can sting a bit

Solitude I’m not no so what you have said makes sense. Thank you

I can see where you're coming from, but - my husband once said he thought my Granny was the nicest person he'd ever met - and that didn't bother me at all :) She was lovely, very kind and thoughtful, but he certainly didn't fancy her!

Dh would know better than to say that! A serious case of foot in mouth there.

We have a friend who is relentlessly nice, as is her husband.

They’re great, but terribly dull in their chirpiness. I’d hate to be described as just nice.

I’m sure there are much nicer people than me around!! So no it wouldn’t bother me. Now, if he said she was the prettiest/sexiest etc... 😡

Wouldn't bother me.

Reading this thread has made me remember that I told DH this about a neighbour. It was absolutely true though, he really was the nicest person I'd ever met and very handsome.

DH happily agreed with me, self confidence is a wonderful thing.

That one off comment wouldn't bother me it would be if he kept on about her after that, that would bother me.

I'm fully aware that I'm not the nicest person you could ever meet. I have a good moral compass and people say I'm kind and funny. But I'm definitely not the nicest person you'd ever meet.