Thanks @KhaleesiTargaryen from what I remember of your profile you have nothing to be insecure about. If you can avoid mentioning anything then no one will have the foggiest.
@WooMaWang sorry I wouldn't be so crass as to say warts and all. It's funny the parts that you can find so attractively put together (clavicles and the shape of the back of the neck totally made my brain fog over with desire in one notable case I keep having to tell myself to forget about)
@lifegoes Yeah I understood you were talking from the statistical point of view and excluding blokes on the thread (though maybe we need to be included as I'm sure none of us are perfect either). I think I was a bit defensive there ! Sorry about that. I'll explain and maybe you'll see why ? I think the endings of a long term relationship are so multi-factorial and complicated as to not be capturable by statistics. I can say I became exhausted, and I couldn't meet her needs, I can say I tried ever so hard for the sake of our child, and that so did she, but we weren't seeing things clearly, that an earlier affair had put a rift between us, that the trust was gone, that respect was lost. But so, so difficult to assign a cause when those are the symptoms of things gone wrong somewhere much earlier. Honestly either of us could have/should have pulled the plug before all of those things happened. If she called time then the stats. swing from the man to the woman doing the ending, and the (untrue) accusation of me having an affair gets reported as the truth in the surveys.
I do understand your interest in the aggregate behaviour of blokes in how they behave to end things too, there's tons of examples here on the relationships board of the misogyny and anger that leads them to utterly disregard their home and history in the relationship. It truly shocks me.
The picture is pretty awful if you look at statistics in a certain way though - there are so many relationship failures compared to successes as we have to go through what ? about half a dozen or so, before we figure it out. But if you look at eventual outcomes most people get there, so you could skew it the other way and say the statistics say we mostly end up happy and not with a guy/woman that cheats on us. Please no-one come along and says the happy people are just in a slow motion failure - I'm trying to be positive here.
Umm, dating. Barely a mention of it - sorry !