Dating thread 170: Know your worth

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

@Notcoolmum Ok.

hahaha, maybe i should start waxing as part of foreplay

Wax them @supercali77

Whilst I agree that distance shouldn't be a deciding factor for the right person, I would think the woman with the toddler has probably thought ahead and decided it won't work for her long term. Personally I think she's been sensible and done you a favour by not deciding this a few dates, weeks or months down the line.
Personally I'd be ok with an hours drive each way for the right person, but I do that every day for work so it's not an issue. For others I imagine the thought of a 2 hour round trip for a date probably sounds a right ball ache!
But complete contradicting myself, dating somebody who lives 4 miles away is very convenient!

Waxing as foreplay @supercali77 😂

@SBD1 this thread often attracts input from men who are here either for not very ethical tips or to troll. They always let their misogyny slip through by their use of language and their opinion of the women they date/swipe. Obviously it's a public site so anyone is able to read and post here. But to my mind these particular men do not uphold the ethos we create on this supportive and non judgemental thread.

I actually find their presence helpful as it reminds me that nowhere on the internet is actually a safe place.

Posting someone's bio with the sole intention of mocking them was cruel and unnecessary as was the comments freckles made about transgender people and sexual orientation. I reported the comment and was pleased MN removed it.

Thanks will definitely do that. I think I might buy some new underwear! I'm definitely in the mood 😂 it's just biting the bullet and saying yes. He's quite forward so I'm hoping will just take the lead!

@notcoolmum Honestly, didn't see it and it wasn't me "forgiving" the comment, rather I just wanted to get back to our friendly dating chat. Because THAT makes me happy. As it happens, anyone calls me bird can expect a swift jab in the ribs

@SBD1 fair enough. But I won't let misogyny pass me by. Not here. And not in real life. Our regular make posters are lovely. And I'm grateful for their input and insight.

Slightly put out that Mr HK hasn't contacted me this afternoon - we had loose plans but he said he would let me know either way. He's too fun for my own good.

Hoping to pin him down for drinks this weekend at least. He's a laugh and I need a laugh right now.

I don't know how much to ask of him as a fwb/FB. It feels like we're straddling the line between the two, and sometimes I'm cool with that, other times I like the friendly aspect too.

Well the thread has been very enlightening today.

Weeping and wanking is a thing, I thought it was just me. @DustMyselfOff, sorry you're still suffering

And then waxing ... what the hell, I think I'll treat myself to that too (and name change )

(As you were, facetiousness out of my system)

@ILoveFreckles the choice of someone online from such a miniscule amount of information, to make an introduction, is essentially frivolous wouldn't you say ? There's no feedback loop as compared to real life. It's annoying in the sense that it makes us feel quite ..disposable.. the rule about having a thick skin and not investing too much early on applies, but it's part and parcel of the whole process. I do sometimes think it's rotten and broken, but then I remember the good times and decent women I've met.

Tempted to put weep, wax and wank as a fab status update and see what is the reaction. Actually probably not. There would be men up for it

Hahaha I really laughed at weeping and wanking @HairyArsedMan I think we've all been there

Kik is shutting down btw. Not that I used it

www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-49809449

I have two new irons
Mr Power and Mr Bald. Mr Power seems quite my type.

Making a mental note of weepingandwanking as a future mn name change

I’m howling at weeping and wanking

dustmyselfoff I was thinking exactly the same thing!

Personally I love my superlative current user name, so I'm keeping that for now!

@Ant330 Mr Fireman had toys. I think if sensitively asked etc it shoud be fine but I agree to buying them together.

@ILoveFreckles dont think anyone siad they swiped for shits and giggles? I've swiped at first glance then sometimes just felt a bit unsure and unmatched or it's expired. Nothing wrong with changing your mind.

I think you come across a bit judgy (see above ) and with the women looking for a family at 37+

Have to say I really don't want like that s+g expression either.

@saltysally sorry - I was quoting @ILoveFreckles

Oh I know @khalessi wasn't aimed at you

I have my own collection of toys, no way would I want to use any bought by or for another woman or with another woman in mind. Mr BC likes to surprise me with new toys ....

I live in a London borough (begins with a B) and was told by several men OLD that it 'wasn't London'. It is). I live in Zone 4 and it takes an hour to get to my Zone 1 office - that's the nature of London travel ....

I have date number 2 tonight, I haven’t dated in years. I’m very wary though. This guy is hot and I mean beautiful, toned, athletic everything and i’m middle aged over weight with 2 DC. I’m not being down on myself but I honestly don’t think we are well matched because he’s out of my league so why would he date me? Has he got a wife? Is he a conman? Hopefully i’ll find out more when I meet him at 8!

Bats, khalessi, more nice and sunshine - you have PMs

I met Mr Power for a very quick drink
No chemistry.

Hope to meet Mr Bald on Saturday. He's intriguing