Dating thread 170: Know your worth

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

@ilovefreckles I an sure no one in here would swipe for a laugh. That's not cool and treating others as we'd like to be treated.

I don't like girl either or even worse, gurl. Insult my brain as much as my eyes. Cheers for that.

I live a good hours drive away from Mr Ad, or two trains for him as he doesn't have a car but we like each other so it's not a problem.

I would rather have a wider search criteria in terms of distance and find some one I really click with then just 'settle' for those within 10 miles.

I think as with most things, the context matters. So my last iron called me something I'd hate from anybody else. But likes from him. However referring to women as 'birds' on a dating thread is not cool. Regardless of your first language.

I agree with you @Sunshineandflipflops one of my ex's lived at the other of the country and I would travel every other weekend to see him or he would do the same. Or I would meet him if he was travelling with work etc. We always found a way to see each other. Because we wanted to.

Mr S and I were an hour's drive door to door. Was never an issue as we wanted to see each other. He did most of the travelling bit I drove to his sometimes too.

I think the word begging with "b" I used few pages ago was in this particular case justified but it is not a word I use daily, or ever used before. Seriously, that was a special case. My error in judgement was probably pasting the bio- but as it contains no personal details whatsoever it was easier than trying to condense it.
With regards to swiping right having no intention to chat, some of you admitted doing that @lifegoes @KhaleesiTargaryen @supercali77 and I'd say majority do exactly that. For their own reasons...

I’m sure we can move on from it :)

With regards to distance, just got to remember that irons will come and go, don’t get too hung up on it and I’m sure the right lady will come along

@ILoveFreckles You said at the time the word 'bird' was used a lot to refer to women in your first language. So which is it - part of the language, not daily, or never? Why on earth was it justified? When did I admit to swiping right with zero intention of chatting? Never happens. Sometimes I swipe right and further looking at their bio on the match means I realise they're a long way away, or i don't like something i particular. Fact is, both women and men get matches that don't chat - it's just the nature of OLD.

Please don't speak for me @SBD1
I took offence at the term 'bird' and continue to do so.

@ILoveFreckles never once said I swipe right with no intention of chatting. So please don't EVER put words in my worth. ESP those that are so full of it.

I've actually come off OLD as I've stated mainly because I've just gone through a situation. Which left my heart not in it and felt I couldn't even find anyone to match with.

If I actually swipe right on someone and it's a match. I WILL entertain a conversation. However if I find that the conversation isn't going anywhere or I don't feel it. I move on.

Does anyone else enjoy looking at their block list? 😊

Oh I didn't know you could @saltysally although I looked at mine on the Instagram the other day and was shocked at how many I've blocked from OLD on there

Should say this is on fab. Maybe other sites don't make it so easy. It's like a history of my last few months on fab 😂

@saltysally hahahaha! I sometimes look at my WA blocklist. My fave is when they're blocked everywhere. The super cock super block

Oh just as fun @supercali77

I try not to block on WA. Well I do but I have a process.

I block for 2/3weeks. Then unblock and delete. Because I hate having their number in my phone.

Only one person I had constantly blocked was an old FWB but then he got back in and unblocked him 😂

I block on WhatsApp, then delete their number from contacts then just add the phone number manually to the phone block list. I think that's the right order.

Distance is a difficult one I think if its worth the effort then it'd be made.
Things are moving on well but fairly quickly with Mr Young, I know we could slow down if needed but both seem to be enjoying the pace. He's coming to mine this weekend and dtd is on the cards. I've only slept with one person before and I'm nervous! Other than wine, any tips?!

@KeepCalmCarryOhFuckIt - I like doing the whole prep thing. Sexy music. Glass of wine. Waxing etc. Perfume. Nice lingerie. DIY pedi. For myself before they're around. Gets me in the mood feeling ready

@saltysally their number stays in your blocked contacts on WA tho

I'm glad you clarified on yourself @supercali77 I was starting to think you did that with them. 😜

I would agree with @supercali77 though @KeepCalmCarryOhFuckIt Nice bit of time beforehand to prep. Nice underwear. Make yourself feel good for you

Yes it does @lifegoes stops them attempting to return in a few months though. I do delete after a bit of time though too

Haha @lifegoes I read @supercali77 's post the same way. 😂

Yeah that's why I delete it. Because I get tempted to text them in a drunken state 😂