How should I reply to this text?

[JaysusWept]

Namechanged as I've told my work colleague already about this and I know she lurks on here. (She was absolutely no help - she's probably still laughing about it...)

Background is that I've been single for a couple of years after discovering he was cheating. I have an 8 year old DD.
I am friends with a small group who I have known for a few years - met through kids at nursery/starting school, etc. We do playdates, dinners, drinks out, whatsapp group which is used constantly, helping each other out, etc. We are close and I value all of their friendships.
For the past few weeks I have felt that one of the group, who I shall refer to as C, has been a bit 'off' with me. Nothing I can really put my finger on - I don't always do the drop off and pick ups at school for my DD, but when I have and I've seen C she hasn't chatted with me like she usually would, and 2 weeks ago 4 of us went out for drinks and I felt that there was a bit of an atmosphere when I was talking to her, although she was polite enough. There are people that I am closer to in the group but C and I have always been very friendly and have done many things with just the 2 of us.

Yesterday, I picked up my DD from school and C's husband was there to pick up their DD. The 4 of us walked back together and we stopped outside C's house to finish our chat briefly, before I carried on up the street. C came to the door but didn't come over although she did wave.

At 4pm I received a text from C which read "Doing her usual, all over XXXXX (her husband's name) and doing that stupid fucking laugh of hers" with a couple of angry emoticons.
I replied back "?" and she immediately sent back "Ooops, sorry! That was meant for L (mutual friend in group, but who is very close to C), talking about someone at work! Sorry, just delete!"
I didn't reply to that and almost straight after I received a text from L asking if I was up for a night out next weekend.

C was talking about me, wasn't she? L also wouldn't usually text me about a night out as it would be sent through the whatsapp chat.
I didn't do the drop off this morning, but C has text me (not in whatsapp group) to ask if I fancy going over to hers tomorrow after school with DD.
I'm not sure how best to respond.
Am I being paranoid in thinking that text was about me?

For the record, I don't know C's husband particularly well. I've chatted with him at group things we've attended and a few times we've walked home together if we've done school pick ups as I've got to pass their house on my way home. I am not attracted to him, and nothing untoward has ever happened or would happen, although I may very well have a stupid fucking laugh!

Any advice? I actually feel really fucking weirded out by this.

*life not like

I'm afraid at this point, if I saw the DH on the pick up, I would have to say something. I ask if he knew C had accused you of inappropriate messages and throwing yourself at him when you last walked home. I'd also say that she's claimed that he said that they were from you and has deleted them. I doubt he'd be happy about his DW saying what she has about him.

I’m trying to put myself in K, M and D’s shoes

This is a good thing to do because C's lies are so out there that other people will find it hard to believe that she, or anyone for that matter, would make shit like that up, even if they don't think you would do such a thing.

I would need to hear it from her DH that he said these msgs were from you.

Well the fact that none of them has answered your WA tonight about how your day was and lunch on Sunday them honestly I would ditch them all. Why did K not reply? At least I would have expected her to. Blimey. Sorry OP

Have they all read your message @Jaysuswept?

Jeeez that would have so obviously been you reaching out looking for support. Feel so sad for you

This whole thread is so sad. I'm so sorry you're being put through this. I pray you get some answers, or find some peace amongst it all...

So sorry about all this. Not often there are nearly 900 unanimous messages of support on MN. It's crap they've not replied on WhatsApp. But I think the lunch in a few days is good plan, particularly as the (entirely justifiable) anger will have subsided a bit and your friend will see her friend feeling shocked and saddened after a week of being under attack and wrongly accused, and the reality of this might hit home a bit. I'm not sure people will drop C, but maybe they don't need to, they do need to stop being so mean to you.

I reckon her husband has been complimentary about you to C & C has then gotten twitchy - no fault of yours at all but she's definitely threatened by you.

Been reading the thread. Not sure if this has been mentioned but maybe the other ladies have sided with C because now you are single they think you will go after their husbands. Some women are extremely insecure like that and will ostracise a single woman within a group as they feel threatened by her. C is probably saying look if she can be like this with my husband she can do it to yours too. Even though you haven't done anything.

I'd beware of K tbh, she sounds like the Flying Monkey.

The fact none of them replied to you about lunch tells you everything you need to know. They've taken sides, and it's not with you.

Why oh why are women like this so spineless to go along with bullies like sheep. I've been stung by a group of girlfriends more than once and I'll never put myself there again.

They're all nasty pathetic bitches. Find new mates.

I'm gobsmacked at this thread, how awful for you

What @incognitomum just said ☝️

Sadly you can't trust any of these women they sound like a bunch of bitches .
I went through similar a few years ago (mid 30s) when I met a new group of friends who seemed like the best most amazing friends I'd ever met in my life
Then what followed was constant drama and someone back stabbing someone else etc etc
In the end I ditched the lot of them ! At the time it was devastating like a break up and also cos I felt so stupid that I could have let these nuts into my life ! In the end I soon realized how freeing it was to no longer have them in my life shortly after I met new women who are real friends and it made me see these people for what they are

If not one of this group has stood up to you and would rather keep Queen bee happy then they've shown their true colours
They don't want to lose their social status by siding with you so fuck them all off
They will be sharing every single message you send to them by the way

I hope the fact that you have 865 posters on your 'side' Jaysus brings a smidgen of comfort. It's so so disappointing for you, but there are normal women out there who aren't bitches, although it sometimes might feel hard to find them, they are there. Comfort yourself in the thought that C 's 'punishment' is that she has to live her life, full of spite and toxicity, and the other weaklings have to look in the mirror and secretly know who they are.
Keep your head up, this will be a bad memory one day that you won't even bother giving head space to.

OP I'm so sorry that you are going through this. There is obviously something going on in C life and unfortunately you have become her scapegoat.

If her H approaches you I would be very clear to him what C has done and that you don't appreciate being dragged into their problems and that if there are more lies spread about you that you will look for legal action. And that you expect a full public apology from her. And until that happens neither of them are to approach you.

Just imagine if you’d never got that text ! 😦😦 You’d be blissfully ignorantly bitched about

The chances of one of them coming across this thread has to be reasonably high. I hope when they do they are all thoroughly ashamed

I w been reading this thread since it started and I honestly thought that you'd get an apology from C.

Sorry posted too soon.

I also wanted to say I'm gutted for you.

They sound like children bitching in secondary school and you don't need that.

The others seem easily led and maybe they are a bit scared of C doing something similar to them.

Either way, your Better off out of it and I bet in a few months the other two come crawling back when you have made new friends.

Bunch of bitches is what they are.

How C can be that hard faced with the bull shit I literally can't get over.

Hugs x

Oh op

Honestly. I thought the others just didn't want to stir by making an announcement of 'leaving the group' but I would've replied to your what's app straight away. As a reassurance to you I'm still there for you.

They're all shits. I'm so sorry you have these pathetic excuses for mothers of your daughters friends.

The only thing stopping me from going scorched earth is your dd and how it might affect her and her friendships.

Sorry I'm a million miles away otherwise I would give the bunch of them some home truths.

Well i think the fact there has been radio silence to your message speaks volumes if they are normally all over their phones and reply instantly. Time to move on from these cowbags. I really really hope that the school runs go well for you but like i said- hold your head high as youve done nothing wrong. Ill be thinking of you op x

I'm so sorry these three haven't replied to you. That's just downright mean. Perhaps C has managed to convince them you have done something terrible but it's very disappointing they didn't at least speak to you.

Will you still go to lunch?

I might be the only one but I'd use that lunch to get some questions answered then block them all.

That’s really sad that they’re treating you like this. Very disappointing.