Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Thread 169 open for business, roll up, roll up...

@Eesha - hmmm, I have seen it with Mr French (who i've been on a date with and have on whatsapp)...it's poss because they've hid themselves? Snooze mode I think it's called?

I can tell you if they're properly deleted - their profile pic etc completely disappears but you can still see messages. And if they unmatch you the whole convo goes.

I think location going on bumble is when an account is snoozed as pp said

it said something like xx is back online again but then no location.

I didn't know bumble told you when they are online. You can disable your location on bumble. @Eesha

@Eesha Hmmm. thinky face. I've never seen 'back online'....that might happen if they switch snooze mode off?? And then on again? Weird

@mytimeoneday maybe....maybe you should umatch him!

I was messaging someone on Tinder, moved to whatsapp - he got a bit like, well not exactly keen but I told him I was unavailable as I was moving house and I didn't know when I'd be available and he kept asking and being pushy so honestly, I just blocked him. He then started messaging me on instagram saying, why did you block me. I didn't get a notification so I I didn't see his message so two days later he said "Good Response" which I did see and I replied "I'm sorry I don't know who you are" (his instagram doesnt show who he is or say his name), he confirmed who he was and I didn't see that to which he messaged again two days later "Good response"

Ugh piss off

It's been just over 2 years for MissTiny and she doesn't seem nervous 😂
She was about the 1st date, today not so much judging by the messaging!
Apparently I came close to being molested in front of families eating their Sunday dinner on our 1st date, and she has requested the next 2 dates are not in public places.
Occasionally I detest OLD, other times I'm glad the internet got invented.

@Ant330 have fun tonight! It sounds like MissTiny knows exactly what she wants. For me it was about 2 years post the end of my relationship and I found it all very daunting but fun! Have a great time!

@ant guessing you don't find that remotely off putting 😉 if a guy who I barely knew did that to me I'd feel like a body part rather than a person

Ha! I've just had my very first phone date with Mr Nuclear - I was quite nervous so literally talked at him for 20 minutes lol 🤣 not sure if I'll be hearing from him again

Still absolutely raging about this blocking cunt. Why do I care so much?!

sunshine I’m so sorry if I triggered you re the fingernail thing. I hadn’t really thought of it as gender stereotyping but I can see that it is a form of that. Unfortunately long fingernails on an adult man are a trigger for me re being molested as a child, a personal issue only of course, so I was kind of focused on that. My XH growing his was a nightmare come true for me.

I really hope your DC is getting the support that they need 💐

@Pinkdoor It's the OLD digital equivalent of being sent to coventry. Cuts off your right of reply. Negates you. Not even enough respect to say 'Not for me'. For them - as simple as pressing a button.

Just had a message from Mr Nuclear - he said I sounded nice ☺️ I hate long fingernails on anymore male or female they are dirt magnets!

@Pinkdoor blocking you is just so RUDE!! As is ghosting. It's like 'where are your manners?' When did it become ok to treat people as entirely disposable?!

@Eesha i believe the Bumble location disappears when they haven't accessed the app for 4 hours. It should come back once they open it again. I'm not aware that you can actively hide it.

@Eesha oh and the "back online" is when their snooze expires. It might be that they picked snoozing for a certain time and it is over (without them having opened the app yet).

Ginmel I think it depends - if someone said that to me after a first date where there had been no mutual flirting - yes, but if the sparks had been flying around certainly wouldn't mind - I had a 3 year relationship after a first date like that!

I think blocking/ghosting is not just rude, it’s a power game played by misogynists/misandrists/people-haters: once they think they have got your interest it gives them some sort of weird kick to cut you off. They are nasty people, but it is ALL about them and nothing about you.

Well in a fit of late night boredom I had a bit of a swipe despite supposedly being on a break from OLD Matched with someone who has a brilliant sense of humour, sounds lovely etc and agreed to coffee tomorrow. Internet stalked him obviously, and learned from facebook that he was only widowed in May. Seems awfully soon to be dating again.....what do you think?

Haven't been on the thread since Mr Viking cancelled on me, but today I matched with someone on Tinder, and our schedules aligned so we met this afternoon. His pictures do not do him justice. Wowza. I about fell over when he walked up and spent the whole date feeling completely ridiculous, self conscious and giggly. He asked me out again for next week and we've already chatted a bit on WhatsApp this afternoon.

I will call him Mr Hong Kong.

putastrawunderbaby I was engaged to someone who died very young on Christmas Day one year - I met someone the following May - he was just what I needed at the time but never a long time prospect so be a bit careful !

How lovely @morenicecereal and @onlymebutdifferent

@CassettesAreCool that's very true

@putastraw I think men do typically move on faster. Also if it was a longer term end then he may have done a lot of his grieving..