Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Thread 169 open for business, roll up, roll up...

I am the only one who hasn't done OLD? I am not sure I have time for keeping numerous men on the go

I think a few of us have meet ups tonight. I am going to dance class that dancing man will be there. Thought I would feel excited but feeling shit about my life in general and that's effected my mood. Also not been out this week or exercised and that hasn't helped. Will try to perk myself up before tonight. I really do hope he is as nice as he seems and that he likes me. I guess I will get an indication by how much time he spends talking to me (my first class here) and how much he spends catching up with the people he knows there - he is a regular at the class and it hasn't been on over the summer. Will have to wait and see.

I also want it to work out as I have signed up for speed dating in beginning of October and would rather not go tbh

"I know it feels like a big step but ask him out on another date, everybody can feel a bit nervous about seeming pushy initially, but I recommend taking the bull by the horns.
Worst case scenario, he says no and you can move on having wasted no more time on the wrong person, best case he says yes 😉"

Thanks to @Ant330 for above I have indeed taken the bull by the horns and asked Mr Boat out. He replied this morning saying yes He'd like to!! Now we just have to work out a date we're both free - if it's not one hurdle its another!! LOL Still at least I don't seem to have scared him off so I'm nervously hopeful!

Well done Iamthrough - for asking him out! I think guys really like this tbh!

Of course we do 😉
Well done Iamthrough
I'm on the plane woohoo, meetings moved around, going to be a crammed day though!
MissTiny's to look forward to later 😁

@iamthrough Well done - fortune favours the brave!

@Ant330 Oooh this is going to be a long day and night for you

@shitwithsugaron I'm sure everything will be fine - messaging and phone calls are no subsitute for a massive hug. He obviously feels secure enough in your relationship that he can talk about his ex (a bit too) freely without worrying you'll fly off the handle - save the handle flying off for us.

@neverexpected2 Love those contented moments when you're own little bubble of just you and him. Such a nice thing for him to say.

@HairyArsedMan

I can't remember who it was that's chatting to someone 14 inches taller - all I'll say is be careful what you wish for - there's 10 inches between me and MrC - on the whole I love it because it makes me feel teeeeeeeny tiny, but it makes some things nigh on impossible without preplanning , and even holding hands when we're out is a bit awkward unless I've got heels on. My default shoes for going out are now 5 inch wedges which take me up to 5'11 and then he's 5 inches taller than me. We def do PDA - if we're not holding hands/arms around waist/hand tucked in the other ones back trouser pocket there's something wrong.

Re nails, he's always looked after his hands despite doing loads of manual work, they are a thing of beauty. One day he needed to cut his nails and I passed him my Leighton Denny glass nail file, he was amazed at it and didn't realise such a thing existed. He's a convert.

Not sure when I'm seeing him this weekend, waiting on the STBXH to consult his very busy social diary to see when he can slot DD in , but even if DD comes with me, I will be seeing him. We're discussing Christmas plans...

Good luck to all those on dates tonight.

So I also took the bull by the horns, already arranged to see Mr Cactus during the day on the 22nd. He informed me last night he has to go to his mums tomorrow night so I can't stay over or anything which makes me sad. And then he's away in London till Sunday night and will be tired. Can't see him during the week as I have DS.
Then next Saturday I am driving to my mums in the Lakes and theres a bike race on in the area so I can't ask Ex to look after DS in the evening so I can go see Mr Cactus. However Ex is getting the train up to spend the day with DS (he suggested we have a family meal, er no) so I am going to go spend the day with Mr Cactus. It's his birthday two days later so I'm going to casually hide his present and tell him where it is when I have left. I hate people opening presents in front of me.

Date night tonight, I'm meeting him for a drink for an hour, then we're going to watch the screening of Fleabag and then will eat afterwards.

I didn't cycle to work today so I don't have to waste time showering ten miles of sweat off me. Drove in paid £13 for bloody parking. Heels on, work dress on (I usually wander around in doc martens, leggings and a baggy shirt) I look the bomb.

If I told you what I did for a living you'd laugh at how I manage to get away with dressing like an emo teenager.

Lets just say, GDPR and me are very good friends and its my bitch.

Texted blocker man from my work phone and told him he's a pathetic arsehole. Then blocked him.

@Pinkdoor YAS! They really shouldn't get away with that crap

Good for you @pinkdoor they should be held to account for such shitty behaviour. I e been tempted to text Mr S back and ask him what the bloody point of him contacting me after 3 months of NC was. Especially with such inane shit as 'you look great' but I don't want him to know he's gotten to me.

Out with Mr B last night for his birthday. Seeing him again this weekend. We aren't official as I don't see him as Bf material but we Have now deleted tinder. Bloody OlD. I must be the oldest teenager on town!!

@SBD1 I got a bit confused. Are you seeing Mr C tonight and tomorrow? Which night can't you stay? How does he know he will be tired on Sunday?

So....Mr French is totally consistent, lovely, sweet, but more introverted than me and I am an extrovert attracted to other extroverts. I'm wondering - do I give him some time....I suspect he may be a little nervous. I'm conscious of myself being headfuckey in this scenario. I don't want to mislead. I'm seeing him on sunday and not sure whether to...say something? What? Or just see how it goes?

I have a date tomorrow with Mr california and one next week with Mr Spain. It's ridiculous how incapable I am of connecting with anyone from the area at this point

@supercali77 I'd give Mr French a chance. We always want to meet a lovely, consistent man... until we meet one!! Love how you are dating the world!! Do they live locally at least?

@Notcoolmum yeah they do. I'm weaning myself off the out-of-towners for now haha x

@Notcoolmum I'm seeing him tonight. Usually on the weekend DS goes to his grandmas, I'd go to his house or he'd come here for the night.

He's helping his sister move house and he goes to bed really early because he is just one of those people who gets tired and needs to sleep. It's not an excuse, I've seen it in action. Fell fast asleep on me at 9pm whilst we were watching TV. Had to nap after a 3 hour dog walk (we ended up napping for 4 hours). I think the latest I've managed to get him to stay up to was midnight and thats only because I arrived at his at 11pm. It's having an effect on me because I used to go to sleep at 2am (I'm a gamer with US friends) and now I go to bed by 11pm at the latest haha

Wow @Ant330, Miss Tiny is keen! I have been talking (constantly) to Mr Ad for over 3 weeks, seen him 3 times (the last time being for 13 hours) and the closest we have got to dtd is him offering for me to stay at his after a meal we are going to in his home city because I can't get a train home, and even then he offered to sleep downstairs, bless him. I obviously declined the last part of the offer

Regarding long nails..I have big issues with gender stereotpying and feel a man can have long nails, just as a woman can. Whether we find that attractive is a personal thing I guess but then I don't find long nails attractive on any gender.

Oh @Sunshineandflipflops why do you always have to bring things back to gender stereotyping. You really take things a bit personally. It's just an observation that people don't like long nails on men.

Awwww @Ant330 this sounds so positive. I'm so happy for you, you deserve this.

@Pinkdoor Well done. He's a a disgrace and I'm so pleased you said that and then blocked 😂

@supercali77 Give him a few more dates and see how it goes. Often we are so used to the shit, when the good comes along it feels boring.

@lifegoes yeah it's what i'm thinking, take it slow.....wean myself off thrill-seeking dickheads.

@lifegoes I guess because my child is going through a really tough time because of their gender identity and it's gender stereotyping that makes it so difficult for them to be themselves in a world where kids are told they can't do this or that because they are a boy/girl. And because my job is to try and prevent children getting bullied for being 'different'.

Sorry, I forget this is a dating thread and will let people get on with talking about just that. Good luck to everyone, I hope you all find what you are looking for.

@Sunshineandflipflops that can be difficult. I lost my niece to bullying so fully understand the world we live in. But it also concerns me when people can't say something as freely as I don't like long nails on a man. And is made to feel there's something wrong with saying that.

I guess because I treat people all exactly the same, I dont see gender, race or sexuality in anything. I don't jump to see an issue that isn't there.

@supercali77 exactly. You can only try.

Sunshine it's been a while since she dtd last 😉don't think she's in the mood to wait. Not complaining she's lovely and fit!
I'm now up north, where's the sun gone????

@ant330 It was 18 months for DTD for me, and I started to get really nervous about it. When it finally happened with Mr Cactus I didn't shuttup up about it for about a week. AND THAT WAS ONLY A WEEK AGO LOOOOOL

So I'm still talking about it...

I went 4 years without sex!!! And I got back in the saddle in a beautiful villa in Italy. Not too shabby!! 😂🙈

18 months for me too. I got back into the ring with the worst headfucker of my life. The sex was predictably.....unlawfully good

I get where you are coming from Sunshine.

Does anyone know much about bumble location disappearing and why?. Matched with someone yesterday who replied to my message so thought potential there. Location changed a few times then disappeared so I'm thinking to delete as haven't heard anything since. I just haven't seen a location disappear.