Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Thread 169 open for business, roll up, roll up...

Welcome @iamthrough and kudos for giving your iron a proper name. It'll make the thread police happy

@Sunshineandflipflops I hope you know I'm also in your corner. Seeing your xh is an addict you could be an amazing support for Mr Ad.

@Ginmel I know it's all coming from a good place

My ex wasn't an addict (unless you can call a desire for women 12 years his junior an addiction) but he was a lying cheat so...

Oh I thought he was an alcoholic?
An alcoholic in active recovery sounds much better than a lying cheat.

Date tomorrow with Mr Cactus. I felt a bit shit this week after people said he was emotionally unavailable, I've been waiting for him to message me first and we had a long silly chat last night about random stuff which made me smile.

We're going to dinner and then we are watching a live screening of Fleabag (theatre) at the cinema.

We're not been coupley in public so I want to achieve three things. Kiss, a hug and holding hands.

No @Ginmel. When he drank he drank but he wasn't an alcoholic. I think a few others on here have had alcoholic ex's though.

Okay @Sunshineandflipflops

We all have baggage. It is good you know what Mr As's is.

I’m really glad college was great @shitwithsugaron. You’ll probably find that doing it gives you lots more than just accountancy knowledge.

MrSG and I are dreadful PDAers. We have no shame.

Mr Smart would get very embarrassed with Pda which egged me more. I paid for it later though

I do like some Pda though. I'm tactile.

The worst cf I've seen for some years time

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/employment_issues/3686499-quit-my-job-then-found-out-i-was-pregnant

@shitwithsugaron I saw the Fleabag show live last week, great fun. PWB has a lot of stage presence and you can totally see how the tv show came about from her stage show. Bittersweet in parts but a great show. Try and see it if you can.

@SBD1 great choice of date! Have fun!!

shit I'm so glad college went well. I did my degree in my 40s with the OU - you learn much more than your subject, a PP is right.

Ant I also did a sharp intake of breath when you mentioned Miss H - glad she didn't reel you in. I hope the counselling helps your son - it's great that he's engaging with it. My DC wouldn't and you can't really make them when they're teenagers!

I'm quite fond of a PDA and Mr BC and I are pretty shameless ...

I've got up and finally eaten something and now feel

I’m going to fleabag on Thursday 😁

We couldnt get tickets to the live show but thats fine as we're up north. He booked tickets to the cinema viewing on the second date we went to.

He's messaged me a few times today, for someone who doesn't like to "text" he's upped it a little this week. Must show he is thinking of me! It's not over the top, its just on our lunch break etc. We probably won't message til late in the evening which is fine.

He's also come up with a nickname for me.

I'm definitely going to try a bit of PDA tomorrow and see how he reacts. I think greeting someone with a hug and a kiss that you spend a fair amount of time kissing indoors is fair enough. A small amount of PDA after a month seems reasonable to me

He might not have initiated it because he's waiting for me but we will see

Oh shit. I've got a UTI.

I didn't wee after.....

TMI I don't care

Hummmm @SBD1 I'm not seeing the same as you here. You seem to reading a lot into something that's not there tbh. But I hope he comes good for you

I'm doing fleabag tomorrow too. Not a date though.

For those of you doing NC and assuming you don't need to block. Beware. They always come back. I was confidently telling my friends yesterday that Mr S would never get in touch with me again. So who sent me a message last night?! It was a nothing message. I replied and got a nothing one back so it's back to delete and NC. But don't think it won't happen to you!!

@SBD1 do remember the rules. If sounds like you might be over investing here slightly at the first sign of increased contact? I'd always wait for a man to hold my hand first. That feels like a manly thing to do? Maybe I'm old fashioned!!

Sort of glad I don't have any date lined up after seeing this www.thesun.co.uk/news/9896265/woman-3hrs-date-fat-dumped/

SBD1 I’m the queen of UTI’s, you have my sympathy, I now always remember to pee before and after (though doesn’t always work). Had a particularly bad one after a meeting with someone on a hook up site .

I went over to Mr Skinny’s last night, all seemed ok but just ok, I’m not sure if I want ‘just ok’, we are going out for a meal tomorrow night so will see how things go.

I'm not into overly OTT PDA's but Mr Ad and I walked hand in had most of the 13 hours we spent together at the weekend and had the odd snog here and there, which was lovely. We've not actually been alone yet though so there's only so long you can wait!

@Ndotto Wow...he sounds like a thoroughly nice chap

@SBD1I got some awful UTI's with my last iron but I think it's not always easy to pee straight after dtd!