Break up support thread 2

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Carrying on the supportive previous thread that ran out of space!
@herbsmokedchicken definitely that, although I wouldn't as I'm not a cheat....

Occurs to me there might be lurkers here thinking “Jesus will you get over it and stop moping already?!” we probably seem so tragic to anyone who isn’t going through this! We will be ok. We will get there.

I wish I could bring myself to be friends with him so I could have him back in my life. I’m not even close to being ready for that. I hope one day it’ll happen, as last time we saw each other it still flowed so well, I’d he sad to lose him from my life but I know right now even if we had a good time, I’d be secretly hoping it would make him fall in love with me again.

I think I'm slightly moving forward. I'm mo longer crying 24/7, I'm hurt by what he did, and hes managed to move forward, like the last 3 years meant nothing, but that shows me I'm a better person than him. I feel so angry with him, and the thought of him in bed with another churns my stomach. I'm trying to keep myself as busy as I can, I've wasted enough time and energy on that twat, now is the time to look after me.

That’s good you’re feeling better mumcomehere! I’m having a shit couple of days but am due on soon so could be that. I just miss him so, so much.

So I just tried to imagine us getting back together, which obviously I appreciate isn’t healthy but sometimes I indulge to make myself feel better, but couldn’t picture it. Can remember old times but can’t imagine new ones. Doesn’t mean I don’t still want to get back together cos I do but I guess the fact that I can’t imagine it anymore means maybe it’s finally starting to sink in? That or I’m just too tired lol

Birthday tomorrow. Want to tell him so much that's happened. In two minds of how I feel - half of me wants to be all nice and lovey dovey. Second half wants to key his car.

How was your second day tinsel?

I’ve got ages to wait before anything like my birthday or Christmas, hoping by then I’ll be feeling a lot better, I hope you still have a lovely day tho. Anything planned?

I know what you mean, part of me would love to chat to him, part of me just wants to shout. Just been crying again. I just miss him so much

My brother's just told me twat is on dating websites 😂 he's making himself look so desperate. Feel sorry for any poor girl he catfishes with years old photos I took of him

Binge watching love island instead of doing anything productive cuz why not

Ah so let me tell you about my dream before I forget. We were in some lounge I don’t know irl, he was sat with his legs stretched out facing away from me. I was watching some random online video then he laughed and I realised he was watching the same one on his laptop. I was like, we are watching the same video but not together. So he shifted some things next to him like I could sit next to him but even in the dream we were broken up so I was like oh I get to sit next to you? And then before I could move he turned so he was lying on his front and suddenly I was too and he had his face right up to mine and now I can’t remember if he kissed me or if he let me kiss him, just little butterfly kisses, and I said I miss you but can’t remember if he said it back. Then I woke up. Was a lovely dream for the seconds it would have lasted irl then when I woke up, crushing disappointment that it was a dream. and I know the feeling of it will prob linger all day. And I know it’s just a dream and doesn’t mean anything but dreams like that always make a little part of me think oo I’m psychic it’s a sign. I don’t think it’s ever actually been a sign but I’ve been like that forever, little part of me has this hope. So will try and fight it off but prob gonna feel off kilter all day.

Shattered as well. Not sure exactly when I got to sleep but was before half 12, so earlier than the rest of this week so far but not ideal either. I’ll be sat there watching tv and be so tired can hardly stay awake but if I go to bed, all the thoughts start swirling and I can’t sleep.

Morning

Happy birthday @TinselAndKnickers

I'm still on the right road I read through all my messages on here and the first thread, and I can see how far I've come.

I'm even thinking about going out with girls saturday night.

Oh yes happy birthday tinsel despite it all I’m sure you’ll still have a lovely day! 🎂

Yes I’m the same mumcomehere might have had a bad few days but I’ve definitely improved so much from six weeks ago.

Going out will be good! A bunch of us that used to hang out a lot but have drifted away have arranged to see each other next week so that’ll be nice

Walking to work, wondering if I’ll see him. Never usually see him and I am there around the same time every day. Even tho seeing him was absolutely horrible, there’s a little part of me that wants to see him

Didn’t see him. Prob for best. And actually thinking about it, he wouldn’t have been in the lane he was in if he had been going to work so not sure why he was there, prob a one off

Happy birthday tinsel!! Hope you have a lovely day 🎂🎉🎉

The lane he was in yesterday that is

How are we all feeling today? I’m feeling better than yesterday but still low.

Hi.

New poster to this thread. Splitting up with my boyfriend of 18 months. Lived together for a year. He doesnt want a baby and I do. He’s moving out next week.

Feels really tough at the moment. Our relationship was good other than the baby thing - which he sprung on me recently. Until then he said he always wanted one..... trying to make our last few days together fun but just get upset everynight. Looking forward to him going now.

Oh wow that’s hard swer, was it a difficult decision to make? I don’t want kids and my ex was on the same page, I worry that I’ll meet someone who wants them and it’ll be a dealbreaker. You’ve got to do what’s right for you tho, if he can’t give you what you need.

herb Yes it was really hard. Really really hard. Neither of us wanted to break up. I almost wish he’d cheated or something to make it ‘easier’.

But I know it’s the right decision.

That’s very strong of you though to know that it was the right decision.

Thank you :)

Today is a “oh my god he broke up with me” day. anyone else have those? Days where it just keeps hitting me that oh my god, he broke up with me. Think it’s prob coz of that dream this morning.

Yep hitting me today. I was also in the no kids camp, as was he. I'm also worried about not meeting someone on the same page too! Plus the fact that a lot of people by now already have kids, I dont want to be a stepmum. Miss him loads, he used to come round on wednesdays :(