Has anyone ever heard of a Twin Flame and if so can I hear your experiences please?

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As above then I have recently found out that there’s such a thing as a Twin Flame, this is apparently more than a soul mate, I’m not sure if I have found mine so I would like to hear about your experiences with your twin flame, if you have any?

Thanks, IF x

Because Quora and YouTube are such reliable sources!! 😂

Because Quora and YouTube are such reliable sources!!

But they publish ‘testimonials’!

I assume that statistically, somewhere on the planet, there must be a person (or a small number of people) who would be more compatible with me/simliar to me than anyone else, but I don't think there's any magical force that will draw us together. He/she/they might be on the other side of the world.

'Twin flames' sounds to me like nothing more than a trendy new word for the age-old concept of a 'soul mate'.

If you spend your life expecting to meet a 'soul mate' or 'twin flame', you may be setting yourself up for a life of discontent.

Real love is much more about what you do than how you feel. And it's certainly not about 'synchronicities' or whatever.

I am not waiting to meet a soul mate or twin flame nor do I really believe in Mr Right, I believe in Mr Right Now, and I believe that there is many ‘the ones’ out there for everybody.

Good!

I was really only asking and it seems people think I’m a young silly girl whose going out with a total arsehole, when I’m not young and I’m single and I’m not in contact with him, or any man, and I was really just wondering if anyone believed in any of that!

I have been single for 3 years next month so I’m quite fussy, at last because I wasn’t in my early 20s that’s for sure!

The problem with soul mates is that you can find someone you think is your soul mate...
...but it doesn't mean that you are their soul mate.

And you can't unilaterally keep a relationship going.

Personally I think "the one", "twin flame" and "soul mate" are nonsense, and potentially harmful nonsense.

People are capable of falling in love more than once in life, as demonstrated by people daily. It's a frequent and common emotion/rush of hormones/human connection. Putting undue value on it leads people to sticking out relationships they should give up on, overlooking major incompatibilities and generally acting against their own interests.

Tim Minchin, as mentioned earlier, is dead on.

Of course there are many people who are suited to us at different times in our lives and sometimes when someone isn’t really ‘us’, then we will convince ourselves that they are because we want them to be. Even people who are suited end up splitting up, divorcing etc, etc, and I bet once upon a time they proclaimed to be soul mates!

I've heard of them.

When you hear the stories described it often sounds like one person (usually the man) is emotionally abusive and leading the woman on for an ego stroke, but the women think he is their 'twin flame' and he can't help it so they put up with it.

By all accounts twin flame relationships sound like they are full of trauma and hell to go through until you magically come together in the end when the time is right. Probably better that they don't exist tbh!

OP, just think of it that some people believe in god and some don't, some people believe in twin flames some don't, some people believe in life after death some don't.

You can believe in anything you want to we all can.

Look into the synchronicity as a previous poster said, I find it all very interesting myself so I think you might to!

I tend to believe in the things many people have said are "silly" but hey life would be pretty dull if we were the same! X

That’s right. Believing in the spurious ‘twin flame’ thing is just like believing in god. So is believing in aliens and the moon landings having been faked and the power of crystals and in fact any implausible thing. Because they are all the same as organised religion. Exactly the same.

Hmmm. Not sure if I believe but I do think it's a nice idea. Can also see how it could be used by abusive people though which is worrying.

If they do exist though, I think mine is my best friend. I've loved her from the minute I clapped eyes on her and still remember how badly I wanted to have her in my life when I saw her for the first time almost a decade ago. She's the one person who understands me without having to try, I never have to explain myself to her, she always just gets it and vice versa.

Midnight yes I was actually thinking that believing in a Twin Flame is a bit like believing in God, having a faith etc, etc, it’s something to cling to when there’s nothing else.

I think I ruined it with that guy anyway and I won’t go into why, that’s a whole other thread, but he usually makes contact when he’s home but this time then I don’t know that he will, I’m sort of waiting on him but at the same time I’m living my life, though it’s not like I have pushed away another man for him, I haven’t met anyone in a while, and I haven’t had sex for 3 years next month but then I was suffering from depression so libido went, and my antidepressants, Sertraline, have made me feel lots better but that too has killed my sexual appetite, I haven’t even masturbated for months either...TMI perhaps or just another thread!!

I don’t actually think I do believe in TF as the points on the videos on YT make, do seem to point to a person that has indeed abused you in some way, just like pp have said!

The points that show you have met your TF I meant to add.

Utter tripe. Same goes for "soulmates".

Exactly what I thought, tripe, and I believed in soul mates many years ago but now I don’t, although I believe that many happy couples will say that they’ve met their soul mate and it’s great if they think this because they are perhaps proof of this.

OP I read up about that twin flame stuff when I met someone I was convinced I had a deep spiritual connection to. Turned out he was lying to me badly. I was not at a good point in my life looking back. It was a fantasy. It’s just crap. It’s reflective of a need in yourself in my opinion

I wouldn’t say that this guy and I had a deep spiritual connection because our relationship didn’t last long enough to really know, we definitely had a connection though, and the last time he contacted me then I was in a relationship and he was rightly hurt by this as months beforehand, I had told his father that I still loved him and he would have told him that, and then months later I’m with someone else! He’s always in the back of my mind though and I know that there’s still feelings there, I just hope to god he contact me soon, his father died last year and I sent him a letter but I haven’t had a reply and I think this is because of something I did, and I’m not going to go into it here, not yet anyway.

‘Something I read on the internet’ really isn’t grounds to believe in n anything, and certainly not to retrofit a dysfunctional long-past relationship into some Heathcliff/Cathy twin souls extravaganza.

The same as opinions on any site really, they are all classed as ‘something I read on the internet’ really.

I also said that it was more a wondering sort of question and in no way am I likening this to Cathy and Heathcliff at all, slight exaggeration.

Apparently TF are meant to be bigger than soul mates and I don’t believe in that so...

I do however think that 2 people can be right for each other but at the wrong time.

It’s not the same, OP. Links to credible peer-reviewed research in journals is not the same as the outpourings of a random loon on Quora or a Youtube video.

And no, I am likening the ‘twin souls’ phenomenon to Heathcliff and Cathy, because the tripe that came up when I googled it (lots of guff about intense relationships founded on ‘turbulence, trauma and pain’) sounded as though whoever wrote it had read and misunderstood Wuthering Heights as a ‘how to’ manual.

Sounds like bollocks.