Husband on holiday in Thailand, took wedding band off...

[02shanso]

Hiya! I don't really have anyone to talk to about this (they are all too close, know too much already and it's just too upsetting for me) we have a lot of trust issues in our marriage as it is, some say he's cheated on me, some say not. I have no idea (trying to do the right thing & support and stay for our 2 year old)

He is recovering from pornography addiction (12 step programme), he's been chatting to other women at length about private things & our marriage. Using dating apps...all while married to me.

Anyway...he's in Thailand (I'm at home with 2 year old) with his cousins but he's ventured off alone for the sights and boat trips. He sent me photos and he's not got his wedding band on. But the ring on his other hand is still in place on other photos at the same location.

Should I be worried and am I being unreasonable asking him to take STI tests on his return?

I hope that makes sense, sorry! Thanks xx

Amazing update!
Well done OP!

I remember when you posted before . So pleased for you

@justasking111
Maybe read the thread

Excellent update OP, glad you and your son are safe and happy! Well done

Great news OP
I wish you the very best of luck and happiness going forward to live your best life

Wow.
That is what I call a happy ending.
So pleased for you and I don’t even know you.
But you seemed so genuine and innocent and not deserving of any of that shit.
Enjoy life now love.

What was holding you back from doing nails?

Do what is right for you. Do what will make you breathe freely.
why is being a single parent easier/more fun that being with DH.....!?!?!
Answer this question yourself and take the course of action suggested by your answer.

You are going to feel a lot of guilt and you are not going to feel comfortable in your own life for a good while if you decide to separate. Even years later you may find yourself feeling the odd twinge of regret.

But the alternative is losing sleep over the lack of trust, having regular STI tests, and reproaching yourself for the self esteem issues that are keeping you where you are.

Poop! Should have RTFT!!!!!

Well done @02shanso.

@SSc45 ^^

what AF said 🙊

If you do go the STI route, remember that Chlamydia and Gonhorrea take two weeks to be detectable but things like HIV/Syphilis take 3 months. So you'll have to wait 3 months. I would just ditch him though.

@CrazyToast

She left him in October!!!

@JustStayHome Oops I now see the date of the original post! Serves me right for not reading the whole threat hahahaha.

Well done OP!

Sorry. You have left him. I never read longbthreads. My bad

Get rid now - a 2 yr old will be less affected that older child and its very very clear that he has to go at some stage.

He is selfish to be quite honest and simply has no reason at all to remove wedding ring! I kind of get the feeling you know what the truth is here but don't want it to admit it to yourself. Your worth more than that 100%!

@Rgjt and @Toomuchtrouble4me - it's an old thread. She left him in October and is doing marvellously.

Oops just saw it active and didn't read fully, lesson learned ha! Glad she is doing great now, better off without him

Leave now. It will be tough with a two year old but do it for yourself and for your daughter. Porn addiction never goes and it shows that he gets excitement planning and meeting up with prostitues and Thailand is full of that red light district Pattaya and Bangkok. He thinks you won't leave him because you seem to tolerate. Leave now because they will never change. Believe me 10 years from now and he will never stop. It will come to the point that even if he can't have erection, he will do whatever and take Viagra and Cialis. And also totally ignore you. Leave or rather run as fast as you can and get a life. You can do it. Life with a porn addict is not worth it. Go and live your life and have freedom from this evil.

She left three years ago. Late to the party.

Haha, didn't read the feed but hope this helps to other future readers in this website who has the same problem. Good for her and well done. She left the past and hope she is carving a much better future for herself and her daughter. All the best xx