Husband on holiday in Thailand, took wedding band off...

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Hiya! I don't really have anyone to talk to about this (they are all too close, know too much already and it's just too upsetting for me) we have a lot of trust issues in our marriage as it is, some say he's cheated on me, some say not. I have no idea (trying to do the right thing & support and stay for our 2 year old)

He is recovering from pornography addiction (12 step programme), he's been chatting to other women at length about private things & our marriage. Using dating apps...all while married to me.

Anyway...he's in Thailand (I'm at home with 2 year old) with his cousins but he's ventured off alone for the sights and boat trips. He sent me photos and he's not got his wedding band on. But the ring on his other hand is still in place on other photos at the same location.

Should I be worried and am I being unreasonable asking him to take STI tests on his return?

I hope that makes sense, sorry! Thanks xx

Yay well done OP, what an amazing update!

Oh that is a great update @SSc45 an I am so happy for you and your DS
I posted just 3 posts above your update as CaptainJaneway62(I change user name every couple of years or so).

I wish MN had been around when I was your age because I would have taken the same advice as on here instead of wasting 18 of my best years on a someone who was a serial cheater...it's a long time ago now but it will always be my biggest regret that I stayed with him more than 12months.

Anyway it's amazing how life changes for you when you finally find yourself again and have the courage to make the move.

Really very happy for you OP

Really pleased for you op. Great news, glad you are doing well

I didn't even need to bother worrying about an STI check, I told him before he even came back home to stay in the spare room. He didn't mind though, gave him the space and privicy to set up dates and send pics to other women. I just love how you guys weighed him up after 1 or 2 posts, we would have been married 6 years last month!!! I don't know any of you but you all helped me massively!!! I got help from women's aid and started the freedom program (until covid put the breaks on it) and I cannot believe how blind I was! I'm excited about my future now!!!

Good luck and all the best xxz

Just leave him

Sorry didn't see It was an old thead. Well done OP xx

Zombie, came on to think how the heck are they holidaying in the middle of lockdown lol

Eeek! Not disregarding the fact he's really thick, he's also a cheater and/or a wannabe cheater- and his still at it. Time to draw the line OP and start a new life without him.

YOU ROCK OP!!!

Good for you, here’s to great times ahead for you and your DC

@LemonadeAndDaisyChains the OP posted an update around an hour ago with a different username....I also clicked to see how someone was in Thailand during lockdown 😂

Porn addiction + a visit to Thailand. I hope you don't let him touch you OP, or at least he gets an STI test 1st. I went to Thailand with friends for our birthdays years ago, and viewing the behaviour of men who'd travelled there is sickening. They can and do indulge all their porn fantasies, mostly with girls and women and ladyboys years younger than them. They are sex tourists and they make my skin crawl

Also, well done OP, really pleased you're enjoying your new life

perhaps he had an insect bite and his finger swelled up

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

Bright times ahead. OP, well done.

Great news, pleased for you OP x x

Hooray! So glad to hear that, OP. Welcome to your new life. May it be wonderful.

What a great update OP, wish you and your son a safe and happy future.

@SSc45
Well done you, onwards and up wards . I wish you the very best in your future life. Good for you on getting out of a toxic relationship. It's not easy but you've managed to achieve the first goal. Live long and prosper 💐

@SSc45 well done, good luck and have a happy life

I just wanted to update everyone, I took my son and left on 9th October 2019.

Well done, and thank goodness you didn't end up trapped with him in lockdown!

Congrats OP! You're free :)

@SSc45 you are the best! X

Colleague of OH goes to Thailand on business regularly has done for many years, he has a whole other family out there including a child. He has enough money to run two families. His wife has no idea.