Falling for your best friend......what to do and how to deal with it???

[h585hrf]

Hello people,

Sorry to crash your forum, but I need some advice.

Over the past few month's a good friend of mine has gone through some tough times and I've spent a lot of time with her to help her out, we're really close, have lots in common and have a great relationship. The problem is that I've realised recently that I have started to catch some feelings for her, I don't think she has any idea that these thoughts are going through my head, and, while we are really close i'm sure she doesn't have any deeper feelings for me. We're both single and in our mid 30's.

The question is what do I do???
1 - Confess all in the hope things work out, risking our friendship.
2 - Bury it and carry on regardless, this is simple, but it really kills me when she gets excited about a new date she's got and the like.
3 - Distance myself from her to get a bit of space and get over these feelings, this would probably involve explaining to her exactly why.
4 - Open to any further suggestions.

I'd really appreciate any input on this because it's just driving me up the wall at the moment.

Hello OP. How did you get on today?

Well....??????

?!?!??

Hope you didn’t bottle it!

Sorry team, I didn't get it done.....really annoyed,....It wasn't really my fault though, her bike broke midway through the session so she had to bail out and head home when I was going to say my piece at the end of the day....I am going to have to find a way to get it done this week.

What a shame.

I hope you have better luck this week. Please update us, I for one am very invested!

Noooooo! (I'm not over-invested, you're over-invested, shut up)

Can you help her get her bike fixed!?

Good luck when you get round to it OP.

At the risk of stating the obvious you can't be best friends as you are forever anyway. If she gets into a relationship her new DP is unlikely to want her BFF who is actually in love with her spending loads of time with her. Equally when you find a girlfriend you would have to distance yourself. So I reckon you have less to lose than you think

Oh no! We waited all weekend for an update!
Good luck when you get around to do it

At the risk of stating the obvious you can't be best friends as you are forever anyway. If she gets into a relationship her new DP is unlikely to want her BFF who is actually in love with her spending loads of time with her. Equally when you find a girlfriend you would have to distance yourself. So I reckon you have less to lose than you think.

This is a really good point.

Any updates Op

Watching with interest

I reckon he's wimped out!

@h585hrf
Have you told her yet? It sounded like you'd found a good way to ask without putting too much pressure on the relationship.
I see a lot of similar threads, although not usually from a male perspective, and I hope you'll let us know if it works out or not.

Good luck!

Weekends have come and gone, any update? 😎

There must be an update by now, the suspence is killing me 😂

Not quite the same OP, but I made a male friend last year. After a lot of messaging online, we admitted we had feelings for each other. We've been together 8 months now. Neither of us had any idea we liked each other. He was also oblivious to my flirting so I assumed he didn't feel the same. He finally twigged and asked me outright and I admitted it. He then said he felt the same.

What happened OP? I need to know! Did you get together? Hoping for a happy ending