Dating thread 166: Who dates wins

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Marlboroandmalbec34 if you block them, then swipe left on the chat, you see more * in grey. Touch this and it gives you the option of deleting the chat. They then disappear from your WhatsApp message list, and as they’re blocked they can’t contact you.

I would also go into your contacts and delete them there, sometimes my iPhone seems to pull numbers through from WhatsApp into my contact list.

I despair- just matched with someone and he messaged straight away.

Him - interesting photos 😉
Me - sarcasm 🤔
Him - I mean on the submissive side
Me - I have no idea what you are on about
Him - 😅😅 yeah right.. arse high whipped.. you know the score😉 I am direct and know that look..

I have no idea what the hell he is on about - all my photos are head and shoulders shots out with friends, one full length selfie shot and a pic (fully clothed) on a beach 🤦‍♀️ old is like pulling teeth 😖

That did it sidge ooooh that felt good 😁

Haha never what is wrong with some people.
I am in a funny mood I might just message loads of random matches some absolute bollocks tonight

Hes elaborated that it's the full length photo. Again fully clothed - actually Jean's and a jumper - taken in my living room purely as I didn't have any full length photos and wanted to show I wasnt a skinny minny - absolutely nothing 50 shades about it whatsoever 🤦‍♀️

Hi ladies, quick question. Are any of you on the larger side? I’m a bit overweight and conscious about trying OLD. I look at myself and don’t like what I see looking back at me so am a bit concerned about the types of men that I will attract and if it progresses, the DTD bit frightens me to death! I am just out of an 18 year marriage (well 8 months out) so bit fragile. The thought of getting naked with someone new is very scary!

Can't imagine a proper dom would make a comment like that @neverexpected2 He's a twat.

@Neverexpected2 it’s grim isn’t it? I had a head and shoulders shot of me just smiling and got told “you look like a right goer” 🙄🙄🙄

How they get that I do not know. I think it’s just fishing, hoping you’ll take the bait for sex talk.

Lost on me then sidge 😁

Hedge I'm not skinny and started old having come out of a 21 year relationship, the wrong side of 40 and having had 3 kids. I was scared as hell to even try it let alone go on dates and get my kit off in front of someone new - however I've not really had a problem getting matches, have had some good dates and have dtd a few times with new people since starting and none of them ran off screaming in freight at the sight of my naked body 😉

Be brave

Hope it's okay if I join the thread. I have been lurking but this is my first post. I have one iron who I will call Mr Carribbean and I am very much on the smitten bench with him even though it's only been a month and because of his work and kids we have it seen each other 6 times.

Happy birthday sunshine hope you've had a good one.
jesuis great news re your weekend with Mr C and him caving on Sunday morning knew he would
😂
ant sounds like you've handled things with miss H well
Welcome to all newbies 👋

Evening all! I need to catch up on the thread, summer hols have kept me too busy to keep up

I think some men on OLD are just caught in s fantasy world where every single woman they see is a goer/sub/Dom whatever. Basically an object. Yuk.

I have played a bit in the dom/sub scene and none of the real doms ever treated me like an object, ever. This was all on fetlife. Yet some of the men I just chatted to on pof had no idea what the d/s relationship should be like, which is mutually respectful.

Welcome to the newcomers again. Top tips are read the rules on page one because they really do make sense.

Well I’m still talking to Mr Bucket; we had a long chat about stuff and he did apologise for the lie he told; he said he understood why I wasn’t happy and we agreed that even though it’s ridiculously early days we’d both just be honest about stuff. I’d so much rather deal with a hard truth than find a lie out later on. We’re seeing each other this weekend...eek

That was my point ginmel, they don’t know what they’re talking about. I have a sub (Mr Mad) and I treat him with respect whether we are playing or not.

That's great news FMFL

3rd date went well, I think I’m perching on the edge of the smitten bench, all seems a bit too good to be true and I’m waiting for something to go wrong. He seems very keen and has asked to see me on Thursday, there’s definitely chemistry but I’m worried I will mess it up by treading too carefully and coming across as cold. He cooked me dinner which was quite a big deal for him as he doesn’t really cook (and I he knows I used to be a chef), we then went for a walk and then back to his 😋. I still can’t find and red flags.

Oooh Love that sounds good!

Happy Birthday sunshine. Sounds really promising Love and Jesuis. Sorry Ant but everyone is right, block and move on otherwise it's a headfuck.

MrWow is on holiday with his kids this week.

I got a msg from an old date this w/e randomly asking me out as he's in town. He read FB and noticed I was 'in a relationship' so apologised. Later he sent me drunken messages telling me he loved me. To cut a long story short, I thought about it but said no. I love MrWow. But it's made me think about our future. I want a proper relationship for sure. I am sooo physically attracted to MrWow and the sex is still amazing that it makes me overlook other failings.

love maybe there aren’t any red flags because he’s actually ok? I really hope so. Have got my fingers firmly crossed for you

The apps are terrible. I can’t do it anymore. Hardly any men on Guardians Soulmates. Shall I try Match? OkCupid? Looking for a serious relationship.

@Lovemusic33 that's great news and you deserve a bit of happiness.

Thanks for the birthday wishes. I had a nice day but my kids weren't very well and last night my daughter spend the night in with me and was up at 6am puking 🤢☹️

I've got a question about the Bumble filters when you live in a holiday destination? Has anyone else found that you're matching with people way outside your miles radius because they've been to your area for work or holidays and checked bumble?
I had a lovely chat yesterday evening with a gorgeous fireman who I would have happily met up with, except he lives 230 miles away and was in my area last weekend for a wedding.
Am I missing something here?
Do other people drive 230 miles for a date or a ONS?