Dating thread 166: Who dates wins

[Ginmel]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@Marlboroandmalbec34 no, not rude. Just a bit funny and cute. Just was a bit woah! 😊

What's boring about MrPleasant? Asking for a mate 😬

It's weird being on pof. Different issues of course to fab but similarities too. At least the men on fab read my profile. Had an iron just disappear which was fine with me because he seemed to lack a sense of humour. New iron on fab. He's not having a name yet

Have seen a few fab men on pof, all of which I would love to block. Shame you can't block anyone you've not spoken to.

Oh you are all scaring me now! As is this thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3664700-Giving-up-Dating?pg=2

In my desperately slow journey towards signing up for OLD I have spent the night at a friend's house looking at her pof account (which she has only half filled in with no photo as she isn't really ready to date yet, we were just looking).

We favourited a few men who didn't look crazy and one messaged her - without even seeing her photo or any description of her. Is this normal? Brings the concept of blind dating to a whole new level of desperation doesn't it?.

Anyway, I have half filled in a pof account and got stuck at 'headline' WTF? What do people write that isn't cheesy or lame? I write for a living and can't think of anything that doesn't sound like innuendo. This is terrifying! And just seen the comments from Ginmel and am not looking for a swinger, fab or otherwise.

So ... pof - normal men at all or all sleazeballs?

Headlines! FFS. Any tips?

And what's your opinion of the gloom-fest of the 'giving up dating' thread. Is it REALLY that bad?

Yours, alarmed of the North....

ndotto I've not found it hard to find a good sexual connection. I've dated 4 men for more than one date over the past 12 months. I slept with them all (I did have other dates I didn't sleep with!!) and had good chemistry with them all. I'm seeing someone now that is more akin to a FWB as, although he makes me laugh and the sex is great, i don't see him as having long term potential.

What I am more concerned about is meeting someone with real long term compatibility. I'm currently reading Mr Unavailable and the Fall Back Girl which is helping me see some of the things I do, or don't do, which means I keep dating men with no long term future.

It's rare ndotto relax a bit!

Side note I subscribed for a month and am amazed at how men haven't been on a few months at least and this in London.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 He has met most of my friends, he survived the rugby lads night out, well, just about! If there wasn’t the additional awkwardness he would have met best friend already. BF has been prewarned to behave if he does come.

Just back from a lovely couple of days and a night with MrC. He's asked if he can come and visit me and meet my DD next week for the day whilst holidaying in Cornwall. I said only if he thought we were serious about each other. He said of course we are, he really wants to meet her and see me on my birthday so that's our next milestone. No one mentioned the "L" word, and the sky didn't fall in 🙈

Seeing him move a herd of cows so I could walk the dogs safely through a field, 'cos I'm a complete scardy cat and they're big close up, actually made me swoon a bit. You can keep diamonds and fine dining, men doing manly things then making the tea is where it's at for me 😂🥰

Off to catch up with everyone's news now 🙂

I am back on the apps! Mr B seems to have gone cold all of a sudden and I’ve spent the day moping...read the rules, pulled myself together and have a new iron already! I shall name this one Mr Frog.

@fmfl potential Prince, or French? 😂

@Rick hahaha! I’m hoping prince!

@fmfl You can get high licking some frogs 😂

I am looking forward to getting home and actually having the possibility of meeting anyone who I match with on Bumble!
Am having a great holiday too but, balancing act!

Blimey Simon that sounds like a good night for me!

Another pof fact which most of you know. The online status seems screwed. I can see a guy who hasn't been on pof since Saturday but if you look up his profile, it is always has a green button which you'd think meant he was onlinem

Hi everyone 👋 I've been looking at this page for so long but haven't posted yet, I've got an issue can anyone help with? I've had date 5 with someone who I really like, we've already dtd lots 😳 he ticks every box for me, I've been dating for 2years and never felt like this. We've had lots of very fun dates that have been amazing but I feel like he is still dating others. He has mentioned that he isn't on tinder anymore and when I told him I wasn't dating anyone else he sort of told me he was on the same page. He keeps telling me he wants to see me again and really likes me but I can't shake this feeling. I'm not sure if it's me just looking for problems because I actually really like him or if I can sense him dating others.. I'm trying to play it cool but I just can't help it!

rickdeckard Mr Pleasant has just not moved the convo on. He sends me pics of what he is having for tea (nothing exciting) and asks me every if I’m ok and having a good day but hasn’t asked about my job or any details of my life. It’s just going know where. I have tried but I’m bored. Tbf he’s probably bored too as no date mentioned!

shitwith I know, I know. I cannot believe he is away. First time in ages I have really wanted to meet someone. Ahhhh a man to climb 🤪

simon I think you should introduce them then!

jesuis he wants to meet your daughter? That’s a much bigger step than the L word surely?

gym can you just ask straight out if your exclusive?

Hi all,back from holiday and still chatting to Mr mk via txt. I've never chatted to someone for so long without meeting,its been a good week now.
The earliest we can meet is next week. Really hoping there is a spark or at least a good connection after all this investment!

gym I think you need to have the exclusive chat and find out where he's at. Hopefully on the same page as you.
I do know what you mean though,about looking for problems,I am the same. But he says he really likes you and if his actions match his words,that's all good

SimonJT - better to get that hurdle over with sooner rather than later and as it's with other, all the better.

JeSuis you are not a scaredy cat, cattle regularly cause fatal injuries to walkers, especially when they have dogs. Mr C isn't being all manly just to show off, he is being responsible and looking after you.

Aaagh I have uploaded a profile. Had a sinister message saying 55 people want to meet me, which seems unlikely after 15 minutes, I'm not Angelina Jolie FFS. Many of them look quite (very) odd. I shall go to bed and see what is occurring tomorrow, to quote Nessa from Gavin and Stacey...

I may be leaning on you lot for advice very soon...

I thought that the exclusive chat after 5 dates would be too soon. If he told me that he was still dating I wouldn't be able to show my disappointment and what if I put him off? I'm already invested in this and have deleted my dating apps so early as I've finally found someone I actually like. If I did have the chat how would I do it? Face to face? Or message?