Help! Exdp renting out house whilst I'm still in it.

[downbutnotout2018]

I have split with ex but still having to live together. However he has stated letting out the loft room with Airbnb whilst we are still there. Not only is he keeping all the profits. This is also a massive safeguarding risk. He is inviting strangers into our home without my consent. The children are young and we don't have locks on the doors. I have contacted Airbnb but they are being very apathetic. The house is jointly owned by us as tennants in common.

[downbutnotout2018]

Willow. Thanks for sticking up for me. As you said. I tried to stop the first lot. The MIL and grown up SDS happened to be there at the tine. After me being very assertive and telling the people repeatedly the place was not going to be suitable, MIL told me to back down and not argue in front of guests and kids. So I'm not submissive at all. But you'd be surprised how you might act when confronted by this kind of situation.

[giantnannyknickers]

Hope you're ok op? Have you had any update from air bnb?

[downbutnotout2018]

Shit frankly. He is still renting the property out. I have a solicitor appointment first thing tomorrow. Airbnb have done nothing despite me mentioning safeguarding concerns many many times. I feel so utterly powerless. He is literally laughing in my face. He won't discuss it rationally.

[Kazplus2]

Can't you remove as much furniture as possible, supply no bedding, towels etc. Advise 'guests' that they have to be home by 9pm or the doors get locked from inside etc.

[brownjumper]

Why don't you book it? Then no one else can? Preferably with his bank card

[downbutnotout2018]

It would cost me a fortune to do that brown jumper!

[Kazplus2]

Who cleans the room in between, changes the bedding etc.

[downbutnotout2018]

He does Katz

[Kazplus2]

So can't you just go in and remove it straight afterwards?

[pebblemix]

I can’t see anywhere where you’ve explained the money situation? Are you at least getting half the income for the room rented out? Legally that’s yours right? Have you seen a solicitor yet?

[sincethereis]

He isn’t even considering his children !

[downbutnotout2018]

Yes he's keeping all the profits. Claims he needs them to pay the bills as he's not working no one will out up with him

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Have you tried to get a court order? That will be your best bet here... or somehow not sharing the property with him anymore but I'm guessing that's not possible.

I wasn't intending to cause distress earlier in the thread when I said AirBnB were unlikely to get involved - it's not uncommon for joint owners of a house to disagree about it being rented, I've seen it before, sadly.

[giantnannyknickers]

@downbutnotout2018 dismantle and remove bed from house when he's gone from the house some evening. Or else change the locks on the house: he sounds like an absolute prick. My ex was and is the exact same. I'd also sob him into revenue.

Hope you have good friends and family supporting you OP. These toxic mind games are not fun, especially with young kids in the house. Do you have a good support network?

[downbutnotout2018]

Thanks Anchor if joint property ownership is a common issue I'm stunned Airbnb don't have a policy on it.

[waterrat]

You need to involve press and social media to shame Airbnb. This would be a moment that a tabloid newspaper would be genuinely useful.

[downbutnotout2018]

Water could I do that privately? I'm a very private person.

[ChubRubTub]

What are the cancellation rules for the room? Could you get a friend to book it and then cancel just before any charges would apply? It would give limited time for real bookings to be made?

In the longer term you need to get the help offered above re the court order, but this might help in the short term.

[PaterPower]

Have you actually taken steps yet to get a court order OP? It’s clearly the only way you’ll resolve this and you could have started the process by now. Instead you seem to have remained very passive about it all.

Posting on here, whilst potentially useful to get things off your chest, won’t make a scrap of difference to the situation at home. What steps are you taking to resolve it?

[Soontobe60]

OP, it's very clear to me that this man is not going to leave this property, so you're going to have to. Whilst all this crap is going on with the AirBnB, you need to be making sure that your financial situation is as good as it can be.
Meanwhile, every time someone else comes in to stay in your loft, you just tell them that the room is no longer available and your ex has rented it out without your permission. You need to put your children before your embarrassment FFS.

[Ash39]

Just wondering if there is any update OP? Hope you managed to get them out of of your house

[Marmozet]

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[HappyLoneParentDay]

Why haven't you called social services OP?

[prawnsword]

This is crazy ! I would be getting on the twitter & tweeting all the ceos of air b&b!

If this was on AIBU section surely your daily mail might be interested in this problem!,

[downbutnotout2018]

Have had legal advise and will be acting on it (won't go into details here). In the meantime he has had a bad review (hahah fucking karma) and I've convinced him to unlist it. I am utterly utterly shocked about how unsympathetic and useless Airbnb where about the whole situation though. They disgusted me with their negligence to be honest. I flagged up several issues with them but nothing was done over and over again. I would happily tell my tale anonymously to the press. I wouldn't want to be identified though, for the kids sakes.