Help! Exdp renting out house whilst I'm still in it.

[downbutnotout2018]

I have split with ex but still having to live together. However he has stated letting out the loft room with Airbnb whilst we are still there. Not only is he keeping all the profits. This is also a massive safeguarding risk. He is inviting strangers into our home without my consent. The children are young and we don't have locks on the doors. I have contacted Airbnb but they are being very apathetic. The house is jointly owned by us as tennants in common.

[JustGettingStarted]

If you want a lot of legal advice, try r/uklegaladvice on reddit.com.

They're a busy sub and strictly moderated - they'll delete suggestions regarding making noise, etc and focus on what you can do legally.

After about 24 hours have elapsed, your question will be picked up by r/bestoflegaladvice, where people can say whatever they want so long as they don't cross post. As the OP on the first forum, however, you'll be allowed to comment.

Between the two, you will get plenty of useful advice and support.

[JustGettingStarted]

Actually I think it might be 12 hours before the "best of" forum will pick it up.

You will get a ton of attention on reddit.com. Especially once it crosses over, because that is not just UK, but includes all the legal discussions.

[giantnannyknickers]

He sounds like an absolute dick! You'll be glad to have gotten rid of him.

I do think it's a major safety issue that he's listed kids on the air Bnb posting.

Can you tweet, Facebook air bnb about your concerns and publicly shame them into removing the post?

Ah as side note I'd be recording all of this, screen shot the listing, extra income etc for when you do go to court. It's vindictive and disrespectful behaviour to you and the kids and the courts won't look well on it.

[LannieDuck]

I think you need to either:i) get AirBnB to act, or ii) get ex to back down.

i) Media pressure. This is one of those times you want the Daily Mail to pick up the story with a ludicrous headline like "AirBnB is helping my ex to rent our flat to paedophiles... while my children are still living there!"

Maybe twitter could help. I'm not good at how to get media exposure, i'm sure others could advise.

ii) You need to figure out if this harms him in any way.

For example, does he hope to get partial residency of the kids? Then you need to start being smug and happy around the house - sing to yourself, smile and be in as good a mood as you can. When he asks, you can cheerfully tell him that you've won! That he's shot himself in the foot and there's no way he's going to be allowed the kids overnight after he's endangered them like this.

The aim is to place a seed of doubt and get him to quietly back down without a fuss.

[Ronia]

There's a 'report.this listing' function on air BnB. Can you get friends and family to mass report the listing? Might bump it up onto Air BnB's focus of attention. Or you could pm people on here if you know them (just wary obviously of sharing with people you don't know).

[Wakeupalready]

I have no useful legal advice, but if you are going to continue to deal with this shit re Air B'n'b /him and the police and want to destroy his listing and reviews, a sure fired way to absolutely stink out a room in a non obvious fashion is the following.
Buy one raw prawn or even a shrimp. If your curtain rails are hollow, unscrew the end and poke it in there.Put it back together.
Poke it the hem of the curtain, behind the bed - anywhere small and discrete. Leave it. With the heat in Britain right now that room will be uninhabitable in a day and for several weeks after you remove it.

The inclusion that children are living in the house is surely a child protection issue though? That would be the angle I'd use I think.

[Fannybaws52]

Even if you get AirBnB to pull the ad your banker ex will think of something else. Go see a solicitor and report him to SS.

[7yo7yo]

Let the kids stay elsewhere for a couple of nights.
Get some mates round and make his and anyone who stays nights a misery.
It’s the only way to deal with this kind of shit.
The bigger the better so some nice strong male mates and yes, trash the room.

[downbutnotout2018]

He's isolated me so much I don't really have many mates, particularly no big burly ones.

[Singlenotsingle]

There are other sites that do the same as Airbnb. So reporting this to Airbnb and complaining won't stop him.

[newmomof1]

05:50 when you woke was the perfect time to get the hoover out!

[funnylittlefloozie]

Some people are really ridiculous. Trash the room, put prawns in the curtain rail - this is the OPs home, it is where she lives with her children. Stupid suggestions like this could harm her children.

Phone a solicitor, OP. Go to court and get an occupation order (this is domestic abuse, you will get one). Playing silly games isnt the answer, using legal routes is.

[YouJustDoYou]

OP, can you not do things like fully soak the mattress? Hairs in the bed? It might seem petty but at least it'll start the complaints coming in for the listing if Abnb are too apathetic to take the listing down.

[RaptorInaPorkPieHat]

Start sleeping in the loft room? would that work? or trash it completely so people can't physically stay in it?

Bloody awful situation for you

[Windygate]

Please follow Fonts advice.

[HennyPennyHorror]

So what are you going to DO OP?? There's lots of advice here. I don;t advocate "putting prawns in the curtains" but you have to seek legal advice ...or get hard with AIR b&b. Get on their social media....twitter...businesses HATE negative attention on their feed.

[TheCountessofFitzdotterel]

I really don't think it would be wise for the op to do anything that could have her painted as unhinged or allow anyone to create a 'six of one, half a dozen of the other' narrative.

[ysmaem]

Contact airbnb! And tell them exactly what's going on. That's appalling behaviour of your ex's part.

[rainbowstardrops]

What an utter bastard he is! Air b&b aside, what are your plans for separating?
You definitely need to get professional support here. And fast!

[HennyPennyHorror]

Ysmaem she has already and they're a bit meh about it. I think she should post on their Twitter about it. And their Facebook.

[HennyPennyHorror]

Is the house mortgaged? Report him to the mortgage provider or threaten to.

[titchy]

See a solicitor, get an urgent occupation order. Take screen shots of the listing, including where he says there are children in the house. Formally email him that you do not agree. Get your evidence in order.

[EL2019]

Can you explain the situation to the guests and ask them to write a negative review because of it?

[latexsalesman]

I think your best bet is legal advice and getting evidence of everything. Photograph the people coming in if you have to and of the room being used. If you're scared of him though you should try to leave.
I'd be trying to get out and force the sale of the house as soon as possible while informing ss of his antics.

[CallmeAngelina]

So, is your ex doing all the laundry, cleaning and room turnaround required? Is he not at work?
It would be a shame if the spare bedding went missing. Or the washing machine packed up.