Help! Exdp renting out house whilst I'm still in it.

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I have split with ex but still having to live together. However he has stated letting out the loft room with Airbnb whilst we are still there. Not only is he keeping all the profits. This is also a massive safeguarding risk. He is inviting strangers into our home without my consent. The children are young and we don't have locks on the doors. I have contacted Airbnb but they are being very apathetic. The house is jointly owned by us as tennants in common.

Bloody hell OP that's awful.

I'd be calling Airbanb and in no uncertain terms telling them you have brought this up with them already, he is advertising to the whole world there is YOUNG CHILDREN living at the property and they are allowing domestic/mental abuse and failing to a dress a safeguarding breach.
Tell them if they do not take immediate steps to have the listing taken down you will be posting directly to their social media and contacting news outlets.

Also I would be contacting social services, stressing the fact he is advertising young DCs living at the property and any shady Tom Dick or Harry can book in and stay here with no safeguarding in place whatsoever. Also I would be stressing that fact to the police.

Don't bring it up with your ex as he will be revelling in your discomfort.

If you are both tenants report him to the landlord for subletting.

Actually, next time your ex goes out change the locks. He's going to have to live somewhere else if he can't keep your children safe.

Who is cleaning the attic room OP, changing the bed linen, washing and drying it, hoovering etc ? I’m sure there are standards...how come he is looking so smug given it must be quite time consuming doing all the above and I can’t imagine the profit margin would be that vast.
Why did the guests ignore you when you said they weren’t welcome ?
Sorry about the questions but it doesn’t make sense as it’s your house too and easy to hoover at 6am.

Is he doing this to force you out? Does he realise if you and the kids go he’ll not see them as much? Defo need legal advice. I think the first appointment with a solicitor is usually free. Make one and see what they say, being clear about any requirements you have for legal aid so costs don’t mount up. Or go to the citizens advice. Good luck. This is an awful situation.

Get some prawns. Hide them in the room..
They will stink in this heat..

No one will want to stay, the reviews will be bad .

I'm so sorry OP this sounds horrendous, I cannot fathom a father advertising to strangers that he has minors in a house come and stay....

TBH I'm all for standing my ground but I would have leave/ get legal advice asap.

Legal advice for him

Socail MEdia for Airbnb make a fuss do what needsome says

You need legal advice, now.

I can't see AirBnB doing much if your ex has bookings; they won't want to have to find alternate accommodation for the guests. They may suspend the listing afterwards but there's a few of us on this thread that believe that as tenants in common, he can legally let part of the property even without your permission, as can you.

I suspect a court order will be required, but a solicitor really would be the best person to advise you on this.

This is awful. Can the police not help at all ? Like if you rang and said there's strangers sleeping in your house and you don't know who they are, surely they will have to come question them ? This would make for a bad review.

If it were me I'd have to make the guests stay miserable. Ok so it's not their fault but you need a bad review and there's only one way of getting one. As others have said really mess up the place, noise, noise is the best way to get a bad review, get the kids to play noisily, question them when you see them, have a terrified look in your eyes and pretend to cry and sound panicked, ask then who they are and why they are in your house, pretend you know nothing about the Airbnb .

There's not a hope I'd be quiet with this, I'd have to be very vocal, if he gets good reviews there'll be more staying.

For goodness sake! Can people read the whole thread before commenting?!?

PRAWNS IN THE CURTAIN RAIL HAS BEEN MENTIONED SEVERAL TIMES AND IT'S BEEN ACCEPTED AS A BAD IDEA.

And similar suggestions, also, I should add.

Is it not classed as sub letting if the property is rented (I am assuming it is rented due to you being tenants in common, forgive me if I am wrong)? May be worth checking your tenancy agreement, this could easily put your tenancy in jeopardy. Unfortunately if you get caught sub letting against your tenancy you will be punished the same as him, by having the tenancy revoked and being evicted.

He is definitely being a class A prat - it sounds to me like he is trying to drive you out of the home by hook or by crook, and this way he is also making some money from it. I wouldn't have dared enter the house as the guest if I was told not to! I would have tried to get a refund from Air BnB and find a hotel. I couldn't stay somewhere I'm obviously not wanted, and wonder if they had been pre-educated that you wouldn't be happy.

They own the house. But it could be against the mortgage details.

OP, does your ex want out or you out and trying to put pressure? Have you considered selling and going your separate ways?

Media/social media might help airbnb take action.

If he can let it on air B&b, so can you. A few double bookings might get the company's attention

Put a lock on the spare room door and don't give him a key!

He's very cunning by the way. I locked him out once and he got in using a ladder once. I have no idea how. Any direct action is likely to cause an escalation on his part. I think this is his way of pissing on his territory and forcing me out. I think that's where the smug attitude is coming from. I saw the husband emerge from the loft room at 10am this morning. He looked a perfectly reasonable person. But of course he has no idea what is going on behind the scenes. I can't bring myself to make a fuss, it's so horrendously embarrassing. I'm going to have to go the solicitor or Airbnb route.

I would see a solicitor immediately.

I’d also post it all over Airbnb’s social media.

Go both routes OP and then Police if he escalates

I suspect he is trying to get you out indeed. Go to a solicitor to see what are your / DC’s right to become sole tenants of the house until they are 18.

Hi OP try contacting the National Centre For Domestic Violence and see if you can get a Non Molestation order, these can be granted quickly and will give some breathing space to sort getting to court, it may also hold weight with getting Air bnb to act.
www.ncdv.org.uk/are-you-suffering-domestic-abuse/how-the-law-can-protect-you/

I would make a Twitter account and post just what you've told us really. It's amazing how cooperative places can get when the world know how shit they are. And you could name a newspaper or an MP, the more the merrier. Just hope you can get this sorted out.

Is your husband home when these "guests" arrive? If not, simply don't answer the door.

Can you invite someone else to stay in the loft room while DH is out? Guests can’t stay if the room is already occupied!