Help! Exdp renting out house whilst I'm still in it.

[downbutnotout2018]

I have split with ex but still having to live together. However he has stated letting out the loft room with Airbnb whilst we are still there. Not only is he keeping all the profits. This is also a massive safeguarding risk. He is inviting strangers into our home without my consent. The children are young and we don't have locks on the doors. I have contacted Airbnb but they are being very apathetic. The house is jointly owned by us as tennants in common.

[Winterlife]

Print that off, down. I believe that puts your children at risk.

I urge you to seek legal advice. His property rights do not trump yours.

[Flowersandpineapples]

This is a huge child protection risk if there are strangers staying in your house. Can you sleep in a room with your children to keep them safe? Seek legal action immediately.

[Brenna24]

Bloody hell. That appalls me that he would put that in the listing. I think that you are going to have to sleep in the kid's room from now on. The previous poster who recommended a court application sounded like they had the best plan. Definitely print off the wording of the advert too. I would be tempted to speak to social services as well and find out their take on that, as drastic as that sounds.

[Trethew]

Can I suggest you ask MN to move this to legal to see if any of the legal bods can help

[downbutnotout2018]

I'm off to sleep in the kids room floor. Wish me luck. Night

[downbutnotout2018]

Thanks I have a thread in legal but this is more active and has been a support.

[Winterlife]

Do you think he is doing this to drive you from the home?

I can’t imagine any other reason a father would list that type of information on an Airbnb listing.

You could link the listing here, and posters could report it to Airbnb. I would have no issue reporting it as encouraging pedophiles. I’ve never seen a listing that brags about children being present.

[BizzzzyBee]

I asked people to leave last time and they walked right past me and stayed anyway
Sorry but they wouldn’t be sleeping in my home. I’d chuck their stuff out the window, scream, bang on the door, blast music. No way would they be allowed to have a peaceful night’s sleep. And report him to social services, his endangerment of the children will go in your favour when it comes to custody.

[TheGodmother]

I agree, I'd be knocking on their door telling them to leave! As soon as they arrived!

Kids' safety comes first!

You're sleeping in the floor, feeling angry!

Fuck that!

I don't understand you at all!

Short term, knock on the door and get them the fuck out your house.

Long term, through the courts as PP has advised.

Why do women let themselves and their children be walked all over?

[GeorgiaGirl52]

Call SS. He is advertising your children as part of the package! Might as well say Welcome Pedophiles! Go to a shelter and tell them you and your children are in danger.
Also get the names and addresses of the guests and tell them their information will be given to the police. They might leave faster.

[hadthesnip2]

I'm with @cranky on this one. No way would I put up with that shit. My kids mean more than a couple of disgruntled 'guests'. You have to get tough OP & fast

[EKGEMS]

I'd probably murder him in his sleep after including the children residing there in the listing

[thequeenoftarts]

Do you have any friends that have dogs with fleas?
Or itching powder in the bed haha, tough shite they know full well your not happy allowing them there, so on their heads be it

[HennyPennyHorror]

Get on AirB&B's twitter....tell them that they're allowing DOMESTIC ABUSE to happen in their name and that you will sue them.

This is coercive behaviour on your ex's part and that's now recognised in court!

[RebootYourEngine]

I would have been up at the attic asking them to leave. I would be kicking up a fuss with ex and air bnb. He's no father if he thinks it's ok to put his children through this. Does he want a relationship with his children?

[IAskTooManyQuestions]

Slightly different scenario, two colleagues co bought house, pooling funds to get on the housing ladder. Along the way there was a falling out and one person left the property but rented out their 50%. Other colleague had to put up with this stranger in her house - shared kitchen, living space, bathroom.

The mortgage company did not give a toss so long as the mortgage was paid.

It is not a police matter - no crime has been committed. Whether the Op likes it or not, her Ex still lives in the house and can invite in who he pleases. The police are not going to get involved in this.

All the ridiculous comments up the thread - ignore them - frankly trashing other peoples belongings, spray painting walls, selling furniture is illegal.

The only recourse is social service and children's safeguarding. You might be able to get him removed from the property. Show them the advert where he includes children in the house.

[SD1978]

Do you rent or is it a mortgage? If renting, contact landlord ASAP. If mortgage, then prohibitive steps. I agree regarding twitter or social media to 'out' Airbnb if they are refusing to deal wth it.

[IAskTooManyQuestions]

The Op said they jointly owned it as tenants in common

The house is jointly owned by us as tennants in common.

legaldictionary.net/tenants-in-common/

The legal term “tenants in common” refers to a form of ownership in which two or more people own separate shares of the same real property. In tenants in common circumstances, each person holds an individual, undivided ownership interest, which gives them an equal right to use the property or transfer their ownership interest.

[downbutnotout2018]

Well I'm wide awake now. Been on the bedroom floor all night. I'm exhausted. This all feels outrageous.

[snitzelvoncrumb]

Op you are going to have to make the guests stay awful, it doesn't sound like you can do much else.

[downbutnotout2018]

"Tenants in common have a right to unrestricted access to the entire property, regardless of the percentage each owns. If the property earns income, each co-owner has a right to a percentage of the income equal to their percentage of ownership".

From the link posted upthread.

[downbutnotout2018]

I reported the listing last night but it is still there. I fucking hate airbnb and their apathy.

[snitzelvoncrumb]

Why don't you watch TV, very loudly

[snitzelvoncrumb]

When they leave glue the window closed, and spray something really awful. Tell each guest they are being used in a cruel game and are not welcome. Just be extremely annoying and loud, you will get terrible reviews.

[downbutnotout2018]

He's been lording it around all day yesterday. I think he enjoys the power to ride roughshod over my feelings