Help! Exdp renting out house whilst I'm still in it.

[downbutnotout2018]

I have split with ex but still having to live together. However he has stated letting out the loft room with Airbnb whilst we are still there. Not only is he keeping all the profits. This is also a massive safeguarding risk. He is inviting strangers into our home without my consent. The children are young and we don't have locks on the doors. I have contacted Airbnb but they are being very apathetic. The house is jointly owned by us as tennants in common.

I'd change the locks once he's out and not let him or and air bnb clients back in. Throw his bags out.

sunburnt totally off topic, but that beautiful dog would make me want to stay!

font you definitely live up to your name! Good advice there op.

It's not the guests fault so you cant just throw them out.

OP if I were you I would wait until the moment he leaves the house (for whatever reason) and sell/give away the furniture in the loft room.

Literally strip it bare.

(If you can enlist help to do that it would be fab!)

Literally paint the words ‘you are endangering our children’ on the walls

OR

Get a locksmith in to get a lock fitted on that door and pocket the key! Can’t let guests in if he can’t access the room!

Although frankly I’d be waiting until he left and having the house locks changed. He can call the police but they won’t give much of a crap- as long as you don’t let him/them in they certainly wont break the door down.

You’ll get a letter from his solicitor no doubt but action to get back into the house will take weeks if not months- by which point he’ll have terrible reviews by annoyed and let down people!

Don't have a go at the guest, it's not their fault and that would be plain rude. Don't contact the police as I doubt thatwould help but do contact your mortgage people and the tax men as they are the ones who may have power.

Don't change the locks. He is a legal owner too. Follow Fonts advice.

Also you can't review someone unless they review you first so getting the friends to review at this point wouldn't work. I hate Airbnb with a passion right now.

Maybe ask the guests to leave a review detailing the situation?

This actually may be a thread for the Daily Mail. It points to another Airbnb failing.

Winterlife. Yes I feel so powerless and vulnerable right now. An ex is revelling in it and the easy money he's making at my expense.

It's not the guests fault so you cant just throw them out.

Don't have a go at the guest, it's not their fault and that would be plain rude.

Okay, worrying trend here. From one woman to another (or rather a few others), fuck that. Quite simply, fuck that. If you feel like your children's safety is compromised, don't let "but it's not their fault" stand between you and doing something about it. If you're uncomfortable in your own home do not let "being rude" stop you being that crazy banshee who defends her private space and her children. Jeez, this isn't a coffee shop or the supermarket, this is a woman's home where she and her young children are asleep each night. Sure, it would suck massively to be an innocent guest there at no fault of your own, but that is no reason for her to not make them as uncomfortable as possible in the hope that they'll leave. If I were that guest I would completely understand, and the person I would blame for my inconvenience would be the exh.

They're asleep upstairs right now. I'm in my bed with rage in my chest. I literally don't know how I'm going to sleep. I've tried reasoning with ex but he's just brushing my concerns away the horrible twat.

I’m your shoes, downbutnotout, I would retain a barrister and get an immediate court order. I can’t see a judge refusing it, given safety concerns.

Cranky yes you're right. But they're actually asleep now. It's so fucking weird.

How did they get in the house? Lock it and leave the key in the door.

He's let them in. He still lives here too.

I would put a chain on the door so he can't get in to let them in. Cheaper than changing the locks.

As a PP said urgent application to your local County Court. You can do this in person HMCTS website will explain.
The Court staff will help you complete the forms, if needed (but they can't give you legal advice)
You will need to show you are a "joint owner" and that its being listed with Air B n B.

Donate every piece of future in the loft to charity.( some charities collect)
He can't rent it if there is no furnature.
And defiantly take others advice with regards to going to court.

He's really screwed you here hasn't he OP :( And of course I do understand your hands are pretty tied right now, my post was more aimed at the people telling you not to upset the poor, innocent guests than at you yourself :( Can you and the kids all sleep in one room?

While you're waiting for legal actions to kick in soak the mattress - and I mean SOAK IT - with as much water as it'll hold. No-one's going to even try to sleep in that. If he replaces the mattress, repeat. Every time. The terrible reviews will put an end to his nasty moves though.

If he is a legal owner, he can give licence to anyone to enter the property and remain. He could have a gf come and live there if he wanted. If I was in your shoes I would arrange to rent somewhere for me and the dc to live, then apply to the Court for an Order for Sale. (And yes, I know it's not easy, you may not be able to afford it etc etc. but it's probably the only way tbh).

But she is a legal owner as well, with equal rights.

Jesus if that's the case i have a whole summer school holidays of this shit. I'm going to take my duvet and sleep on the kids bedroom floor. It's the only way I'm going to get any sleep. He's refusing to take down the listing. He's even put that there are young kids living at the property in the listing.