Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

@TinselAndKnickers woo you go! I’m not a drinker but thank goodness cos god knows what I’d do if I got drunk!
Had a lovely meal and spin with my best friend, she’s been great - sympathetic but with a dose of reality when needed too. Was nice to get out but still can’t help thinking about what we should be doing. Going to try and shake things up a bit so I don’t just go right back to my boring pre-him routine as I really wasn’t doing much with my life.
Somehow feeling better and yet bereft at the same time...

@chocolateandcash well done on the no texting! I’m dreading the first time I see him unexpectedly. We work at different ends of town though so I’m hoping it won’t be for a while.

Hi, please please please can I join? I'm a week in, initiated by me but it doesn't make it any easier! I'm really struggling to stay NC. He knows that too. We were together nearly 2 years, not living together though. The good things about us were incredible, like I'd found my 'one' but the bad things were terrible. I'm left an emotional wreck. I can't stop thinking about him. And I miss him. From the minute we woke up till the minute we went to bed we were always texting, FT or seeing each other. But he had a nasty controlling streak and was a narcissistic, gaslighting, compulsive liar.
And I'm angry with myself. For becoming so bloody needy. For not trusting my gut instinct. And for not sticking to breaking up when I've tried before.

@Happyinheels welcome! Sounds like you’re well off out of it although I’m sure you don’t feel like that right now. Be strong with staying NC, you can do it!

@herbsmokedchicken thank you so much. It's so hard. Especially when you shared so much. I know I'm better off out of it but it doesn't take away the pain. I realise I sound totally pathetic!

Ugh dinner was a nice distraction but feeling it now. Thinking about what we would be doing, wondering if he is missing me. Even tho I know he is not a dweller and whilst he might be feeling a bit out of sorts, he’s probably not really focusing on it that much. Especially as this is actually our fourth Friday apart even tho it’s only our second since we split, the two Fridays before I didn’t see him and he obvs knew what was coming so he has had more time to adjust.

@Happyinheels it’s not pathetic! I was only with my ex 9 months and when I’m feeling calm I can accept it was probably only ever destined to be a lovely, short relationship but that doesn’t stop it hurting. Going from sharing everything with someone to not speaking to them is horrible regardless of why it’s happened

He's deleted one picture of me and him from Instagram, but not the others. It hurts so much knowing he's trying to get on the radar of other girls. I love him so much it's so hard not to text especially when drunk

@TinselAndKnickers be strong, it’ll only make you feel worse in the long run

I'm not going to.. I'm just so upset right now

Morning all, how are we all feeling today? I’m not too bad but a little low. Think I had a dream we got back together which has left me a little off kilter.
Think the day I wake up and this isn’t the first thing I think about will be a good sign that I’m recovering but today isn’t that day. Just can’t help thinking about how I should be curled up next to him right now.

Same, not too bad but a little low. Miss waking up next to him and watching rubbish on tv in bed. Every morning I wake up and think of him but its hurting less. Doesn't stop me thinking of him though! Trying to concentrate on my holiday instead.

Hungover and depressed 😂 BUT never text or phoned him

Yes I’m the same would def say it’s hurting less but still keep thinking of him

@chocolateandcash well done!

Two weeks tomorrow already! And yet I still don’t think it’s quite sunk in. Just hate it. Hate it so much.

Have just proper crashed, having a major crying session. Any time I start to feel ok it’s like it hits me all over again. I just want him back so much.

Just set up tinder. Not ready to date again but hoping it’ll just help it sink in for me that it’s over

Made me feel worse

where’s everyone gone?
Feeling very sorry for myself today. Seem to have gone downhill a bit - suppose my first Saturday without him was still in shock whereas now it’s sunk in a bit.

Still around, just moping a bit so keeping offline. Feeling sad and lonely again as it's the weekend. Miss him.

I miss him too. Bloody awful feeling.

Oh so we are all miserable then! Just hate this, I want him back so much. It seems bizarre to me that wanting him so much doesn’t change anything on his side.

Sorry that you're all struggling today, it really is awful 😫

I'm feeling a bit better today, probably best I've felt since it happened but I know tomorrow could be a different story.

@chocolateandcash fingers crossed it lasts for you! I def find it comes in waves for me, usually I think when I realise we would normally be doing such and such - will try and not dwell but think tomorrow will be hard coz was so looking forward to his birthday.

The major sadness of before has worn off a bit and now back to mildly dejected