Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

@PennysPocket I don’t think it’s crazy but probably worth buying some lovely new sheets and making yourself sleep in the bed before too long. But I get it, I place a lot of importance on “things”. Forced myself to wear the top I was wearing when he broke up with me the other day coz our break up had nothing to do with the top so no real reason not to wear it!

Not crazy no. I’ve had to buy brand new bedding etc. It’s the grieving process. And like you wish I could fast forward 6 months. We are all here together though and to be honest I’d be lost without this thread x

I am worn out.
It is taking so much effort not to miss him, think of him and remember all the bad stuff he did. It feels like it was easier to love him.

I have read lots of threads today by women that are 6-12 months in and that's helped a lot. It's like it's proof that as shitty as I feel now it won't last.
I am sorry we are all here but pleased we can share how we feel without judgement

Definitely. I think we all know deep down we will be fine in a years time but our hearts and heads don’t catch up quick enough.
I’d like to read those stories of those women. Is it on a thread on here? X

I want him to come baaaack even though I don't really. We'll be okay.

We will but isn’t waiting to be ok a bitch! Keep struggling to sleep and I know when I do I’m dreaming of him even tho I can’t remember them.

Ugh what an absolutely awful nights sleep. Thunder and lightning kept disturbing my dreams and waking me up. Work is gonna be great fun!

He was my first thought again when I woke up but my second thought was that it's Monday and I have made it through another week

The threads were different ones in relationships mostly older threads of someone's break up journey. All of them came out the other side after a few months and were happier that they were rid of such shitty men.

I am very grateful for this thread but so sorry we are on it iyswim

Yeah I dreamed about him literally before I woke up so he was my first thought too!

Mine is genuinely not a shitty man, he’s a lovely man who just didn’t sustain his feelings the way I did, it’s very sad as on paper it was all still going so well but wasn’t fair on either of us to keep it going if his heart wasn’t in it. Just makes me so sad tho.

10 weeks in. I only saw him for 5.5 months but I fell in love and fought we were the real deal. He was still dealing with his marriage break up and finding who he was on his own and how to manage his relationships with his family.

I miss him every day. Cry daily. Want the pain and the feeling of what I've lost to go away.

Yeah I was only with mine for 9 months but still hard. Think the speed of it has made it hard to get it to sink in - this time last year I had a massive crush on him. Then we got together in October, all seemed so amazing, celebrating Christmas, Valentine’s Day, my birthday, went on holiday, got into a routine and then less than a year later it was over and now I’m back where I was this time last year and I can’t quite believe it still.

Well that’s the morning done, how is everybody doing? I am having a bad day but with little sleep and on my period it’s not surprising.

We were together a year and a half, which is why I don't get why he didnt say anything before if he had issues with me, he had enough time! Still thinking about him a lot, I still just can't get my head around it all. We were supposed to be going to Reading next week (and it's his birthday) and I'm really sad I wont be going or be with him on his birthday.

Yes I found A’s birthday really hard, we had had such a lovely day on my birthday and I was looking forward to spoiling him and I really struggled.

Remind me jonsnow, how long are you now? 3 weeks yesterday for me and I still can’t entirely believe it.

8 weeks tomorrow is when I found out about the cheating, a few days later until officially "over" and I still can't believe it. What he said was so horrible and made me feel so bad about myself, but it was just excuses so he felt less guilty about what he'd done and to make himself feel better about going off with her. Weekends are really hard and every day I miss talking to him. Worse when it's around the time of something we've organised (like next week) I remember sitting at work waiting for the reading tickets to come on sale and being so excited that we got them :(

We were going because his favourite band are playing on his actual birthday, I've been listening to them loads recently to get ready (I didnt really know them before but I love them now!) And it makes me feel a bit closer to him. I'm so sad I'm not going to see them as they put on a great show. I'm sending him the tickets when they arrive because they are his favourite band so he should go (and because he gave me the holiday, seems only fair he has them) which is why I'm not going. But I know he will take her instead :( at least the tickets both have my name on ha ha.
Hopefully he'll have bought some more and I'll just go on my own and try and avoid him!

Ugh that absolutely sucks! It’s so hard to get your head around isn’t it, so happy with plans for the future and then it’s just...over? Like today I am really, really struggling to believe it, that that’s the last holiday we will go on or the last Christmas. I just don’t get it. I miss him so much today!

8 weeks of pain, it’s awful isn’t it? And dunno about your one but mine would feel awful if he knew how much I was still hurting.

I'm day 2 NC. I've hardly eaten or slept. Feel like shite.

I've got hotels and flights booked that are non refundable and no one to take his place.
Wonder if to just go alone? I'm so angry I've spent hard earned money on a prick who chose drugs over me. I hate to wish my live away, but I wish it was Christmas so by then I'd be long over this arsehole.

Really awful. I think if he didnt have someone else already he probably would hate to think that I'm still hurting but because he's got her he probably doesn't give a shit. Tbh I think he probably knows (my instagram reflects my moods!) But he's probably just choosing to ignore it.

I had hotel and flights booked too, I gave them away to a friend (they paid for the name changes) and i booked a separate holiday as i couldn't face going where we booked on my own, and i absolutely did not want him and her going on a holiday that i planned for us. He gave me the holiday so i will give him the festival tickets (although I'm probably more out of pocket than him!)

On a TMI note it’s four weeks since we last had sex and I’m missing it. I don’t want to just have sex with anyone tho. Just him. But I’m really starting to miss the physical side of it.

I was out today dropping off DC and we passed each other in ours cars. I am pleased DC had already being dropped off cos I burts in to tears immediately and had to pull over.
That's the first time I have come close to seeing him in 3 weeks.
I feel broken all over again.

Non if I had a holiday paid for ( I spent Al my money on twat face so can't afford a holuday) I would go on my own. Perfect opportunity to get away and clear my head. Where is it you have booked?

I miss the sex too. Although the last 6 weeks before he dumped me it was rubbish and not often.... I suppose he had already checked out by then.
I cannot imagine ever sleeping with somebody else Chris I can't even sleep in my own bed!! Buying new bedding at the weekend as suggested my one of you lovely lot so I hope that changes my thinking.

Chin up ladies we are nearly through another day.

Aww Penny that must have been hard! I’m dreading seeing A out and about but he’s a home dwelling type so may not happen for ages yet!

Went to the beach for a swim after work and first time I’ve actually managed to swim since it happened, I’ve paddled but for some reason haven’t been able to actually swim. Felt nice but also wrong for some reason. Maybe cos last time I swum we were still together?

Well done on the swim herb and it's good you enjoyed it.
Everything feels wrong because everything reminds you of them. My friend stayed the weekend and I cooked bacon sandwiches for breakfast... I couldn't eat mine as we always had bacon butty on a weekend. I mean how bloody stupid is that 😂😂

I am going to have a drink in my local at the weekend. We always used to go as its so pretty and fab location. I haven't been since we split so that's my goal on Saturday.

Maybe we all need to do 1 thing a week that reminds us of them or that we used to do with them?

I'm still a one person pity party.