Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

Oh @TinselAndKnickers that’s horrible! Is there anything you can think of to do to cheer yourself up? Sometimes you can’t tho and all you can do is flump around feeling miserable, I know.

We only went on one holiday and it wasn’t wildly exciting but I had such a lovely time. I can’t quite believe it was the only holiday we will ever go on.

Oh that's so sad tinsel. We had a holiday booked for September (if he wasn't feeling that happy why did he book a holiday with me......) but some of my friends are going on it now. We had a couple of holidays together and I loved spending that time with him.

I feel exactly the same. How can he book a holiday with me and sleep with me for the first time in ages, talk about buying a fucking house together... one week later, kisses somebody else and then decides he suddenly doesn't want to even talk to me anymore!

Makes me so angry! I'm going on a night out next week with my friends and I've ordered two semi-sexy outfits and I can't wait to upload to Instagram hope he cries himself to sleep.

Men are weird! How much is heartlessness and how much is just being able to put things in boxes?

We had a holiday booked to Disneyland Florida in October. I got a loan out in my name which he was going to pay back half each. Gave him 2 grand to buy a car out of that. Wasn’t worried as we were married...well obviously we are no longer, haven’t got the money back but I’ve got someone else coming to Florida so that’s ok but it’s not the point.
I might aswell say bye bye to that money. I’ve got a positive feeling today that things are going to be ok. Think positive girlies. ❤️❤️❤️ Lots of love xx

He slept with me the day before he went and kissed someone else!! But no, I'm "not close to him" and he's not been happy.. honestly I just can't get it at all. Is it heartlessness?
I just one day want him to miss me, or just think about me and

Oops pressed post too early. And maybe realise that he did have it good. But deep down I think, is this going to be his "forever" relationship? Because he left someone to be with her (without even breaking up with me before kissing her) that makes me sad as I want him to be as miserable as I am, but I know he must be happy.

Ugh it’s just horrible isn’t it? Really missing him today. Really wishing he would just say he had changed his mind. I really don’t think he will tho and even if he did change his mind I think he prob wouldn’t say as wouldn’t want to mess me around.

Ooo it’s really hit me now not sure why

I've got a bad gut feeling

Out for dinner and it’s a place we’ve been coming to for years so trying not to dwell on it too much but it’s where we came when I introduced A to the family

Hi fellow sufferers.
I'm back from meeting Mr Date. He was/is really nice. He got me to talk about what happened and gave me hugs.

Walked home hoping ExDP had texted or might be waiting. It really helped to talk. Still feeling sad.

Glad it went well! It’s nice to talk IRL.

Had a bit of a cry when I got home, still on the edge of tears now. I just want him back so much. I know eventually that’ll ease but right now all I can think about is how much I miss him.

I'm in the same place herb.
We don't deserve to hurt so bad.
Logging off shortly for . Thanks for being here with me.

Have a nice evening! We will get better, just takes time.

One minute I'm okay - the next I could crawl on the floor and die I'll love him forever as he was such a big part of my life but if he doesn't want me then fuck it what can I do! I'm going to redownload Tinder before I start my new job for a confidence boost

Watched a film with mum now sat here on my own. I can’t believe that I’m basically doing the same thing now that I was this time last year. I was so fucking happy and now I’m just sad and I miss him so much.

@TinselAndKnickers I’m the same, ok one minute (except for feeling like something is missing) and the next I’m in bits. I’ve got tinder but not set up properly, just no point really when I can’t see myself with anyone except him. Cos I’m just like swipe left on everyone cos they are not him. I’ve got it partly to help it sink in that we are over and partly so I know when he’s back in the game even tho I know it’ll feel awful seeing him. Just don’t want to get a text from anyone I know telling me he is on there.

Tonight I am fucking hurting a lot. A friend told me he's changed his tinder bio to something weird that he'd never normally come up with himself so he must have been listening to his weird new work mates.

When will I stop kidding myself that he's coming back? I'm imagining all sorts of bloody scenarios to magically reconcile and it's not going to happen.

Ugh that sucks! I’m dreading seeing mine on tinder cos he will probably use pictures I’ve taken on it. He’d be stupid not to, I’ve taken some lovely pictures of him, but ugh.

I’ve had the odd day dream about it but try to stop myself coz I get really convinced they will happen and they just won’t. If I really can’t stop myself I’ll imagine it happening a year or so down the line, then it won’t hurt so much when it doesn’t happen now.

Even if he has decided it’s a mistake (which i don’t think he has) I don’t think he’d come back cos wouldn’t want to mess me around or risk hurting me again. So it’s just not going to happen. But I want him so so much

Mine used pictures from our holidays and trips that I'd taken, so he's had to scroll through the photo albums of us to get them idiot.

Try to think you don't want him, just his nice qualities and a relationship, which you'll find in time

I dooooo want him tho! Argh! Just want this to be done with now.

I'm sat sobbing because I bloody adore the fucker wish we could take our own advice