Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

Been at work fifteen mins and already got major sensory overload. Which I would normally tell A about cos he was the only one who got it.

“Not too bad”, not to be sniffed at considering how rough we’ve all been this week! Fingers crossed we all have a better week next week

Did lots of crying when my toddler fell asleep last night now back up with a smile on my face for his sake. I unblocked ex last night to send him photos of a day out we had the other day and then blocked him again, my anxiety is through the roof with it all. How’s everyone else today? Hope everyone has a good weekend x

Finding it quite hard thinking about the fact that last time he went home he was raving about me and how happy we were, and this time I’ll probably not be mentioned or just a brief “yeah it was a shame it didn’t work out”. I hate that he’s probably over it by now, and I’m still here struggling.

Feeling a little better than I was yesterday. But then again through the day I’m ok ish. It’s night time where it gets me. Plus weekend I spend time with friends and going out tomorrow night. Due to all the weight I’ve lost my pretty dresses fit me again.
There are going to bad days and good days and not so bad days so we have to all go with it whatever May come. This isn’t going to last forever despite us thinking it is.
@Jonsnowsghost-having a man leave you for another woman is horrific and I really feel for you but that’s his fault, not yours. You haven’t been replaced. It’s highly likely that he will do the same to her so I would feel sorry for the girl. Your self confidence and self esteem will of course of been knocked but the best revenge would be to get up, and show everyone including him he’s nothing but an arse.! I feel that my ex will have another girlfriend in a few months.
It’s been 3 weeks today it all happened so I’m going to try not to think about it to much. Xx

Oh I am feeling CRAP today. Really, really low. Haven’t eaten yet tho so hopefully I’ll feel better once I’ve had some lunch. Think it’s partly knowing I won’t see him after work, partly this trip home reminding me I’m not a part of his life anymore. It’s so hard. This time last year I wanted him so much and somehow I’ve ended up in the same position!

Oh herb, so do I. It feels like the pain will never end. Maybe food will help. I just want to cry.

herb, try to make new friday evening plans. Do things that please you.

Yeah trouble is no one is around to hang out with today! Think mum and I will have something nice for tea and hang out tho. I just hate this so, so much. Despite that, I’m definitely doing better now than I was so I know I’ll get there but ugh it just sucks. Why did he fall out of love with me? Ok I have already established I probably know why but still...WHY?! Why did it have to happen to us, when everyone said how amazing we were together and we were so happy?

Same with the feeling crap. He knows I miss him, he doesnt care at all. Doesn't care about me. Just happy with his new woman.

I feel a bit crap but also a bit sorry for him, because I know when I'm moving on and happy, it's going to hit him like a sack of shit sounds petty but I want him to be more miserable than I am!

Mine cares...if we spoke and he knew how I was feeling, he would feel bad. But he doesn’t love me. And I think he’s just fine now. So I dunno I guess at least I know he does still care for me.
Can’t lie, want him to just come back and be like oh made such a mistake I’m so sorry please take me back

@TinselAndKnickers it’s understandable! As amicable as my break up is, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t imagine him being tormented with envy upon seeing me with a new man...

Going to try and perk up this evening, got loads of books I want to read and some knitting projects i want to crack on with.

Was knitting a blanket for him, not getting that out for a while! Think I will still finish it but obvs he ain’t getting it.

I just can't seem to do anything. I want to cry. I can't focus on my work.
I have no friends and soon I won't have a job at this rate.
Managed to eat something but it didn't make me feel any better.

Sorry you're all feeling so bad. I'm the same! Truly shocking day. Have been literally shaking with the anxiety/sadness and general panic about everything. Thankfully my work friend took me to the pub for lunch and a chat which did help to ease the endless negative thought cycle. But ultimately I'm still in so much pain.

I hope when the novelty wears off it'll hit him too! And I'll be long gone. The urge to check his social media is so overwhelming but I cant as I know it will hurt me. But I just want to click it!!!

And it’s such a cliché isn’t it? How many songs, books, films are about getting chucked? Billions of people have gone through this, for as long as humans have been making emotional connections. And we’ve not yet found a way to make it not fucking hurt! But we will be ok. This time next year we will prob be thinking wow, a year since I had broken up with soandso and I was so sad, seems like a distant memory!

I know reading some of my posts back we sound like a right bunch of losers! One day when we're less mopey we can laugh about it

Well I unblocked him for some strange reason and he texted asking if he had any mail so I said no but I’ll let you know if you have.
He then asked have you moved on then? So I said have you, thinking he would say no and that he missed me but OH NO do you know what he said

I’ve been speaking to someone else that’s it!!!!

OH MY GOD. His true colours have come out. 3 weeks we have been split from a marriage. Can’t get this round in my head. Well it’s made me stronger already. No more tears wasted for a man that doesn’t care, disrespectful and a complete waster. I was so good to him and I’m wondering now if he was texting this person before we split xx

What a cunt flap! It's so strange how they switch up and try and block it out by chasing anything that gives them attention isn't it?

Well the jokes on him because when you move on and speak to someone else, he'll be crying himself to sleep

Thank you that made me laugh “cunt flap” hahaha seriously though. How could anyone do that. It was only a few weeks ago he was all over me telling me how much he loves me. Wow wow wow. Well onwards and upwards now for me.
I’m taking my wedding rings off tonight. Wonder if he’s told this new lady that he’s just broke from a marriage very recently.
I text him back saying well that’s made me move on even quicker now. Don’t ever text me again.
Really need to start divorce proceedings now. Might get my holiday out of the way. What an absolute twat. X

pittle Rebound relationships aren't great so it will probably cause him misery.
Bet my vile exDP will be with her this evening. Probably every evening this week.
Oh sadkitten, I know how you feel. Big hug.

Oh wow Pittle, what an asshole! You deserve better for sure

Hi everyone- just checking in!

Love the cunt flap comment, wish I could speed up time and not feel so pathetic 😔 big hugs to all, I'm going to try and keep occupied the weekends are hard!

Leaving work to just go straight home feels as shit as I thought it would. But I guess maybe next week it won’t feel so bad? I just hate this. Like it’s probably not even occurred to him what we would normally be doing right now