Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

I’ve got as far as putting my makeup on and now my chest hurts again so not going out. Can’t believe this. I keep taking one step back. Why can’t I just get a grip. Feel horrific. Sorry to bring anyone down x

Don’t worry, baby steps, it takes time. I was feeling quite good today until I had a flashback to him breaking up with me and now I feel awful again. It’s going to come and go. You’ll be ok.

Same here with me, I was feeling fine until I thought back to when he told me about what he did. Really brought me down again :( wish I could turn my brain off!

I wish I could turn my brain off too! I'm having a nightmare of a week (another one). Seem to be making zero progress.

I was doing quite well today but just been and had a crying session in the loo! Like it just hits me all over again that I can’t talk to him, I’m not going to kiss him or cuddle him or watch stupid films with him again.

Just phoned in sick again till monday. Hardest thing to do really because i always go to work. I’m trying to think of all the positive things I can do now I’m single and whether I’m mourning him or our short wedding or what. I’m confused.
Keep thinking I’ll start the gym then I just can’t get out of the door (not like me at all)
I’ve just had a little cry too. It’s helps though doesn’t it...sending lots of hugs to everyone on here xx

I'd like to join, 9 weeks in left looking after 3 children the OW very spiteful. Pop on my thread and have a read. Affair, harassment by the girl, divorce and contact.

Let's try and keep each other strong and share the love that the EX partners obviously didn't appreciate or deserve. x x x x

A big old cry definitely helps. Ugh I just miss him! He was my best friend not just my boyfriend and now he’s not in my life anymore and it hurts so bloody much.

So ladies I went out to get myself weighed at slimming world lost 4.5 this week. One stone and a half off in total. Because of the way I’m feeling I completely missed group yesterday but I thought I need to go. My friend is coming round later so I’ve managed to tidy the house which has made me feel so much better. I’m gonna try and pick myself up now because I can’t keep feeling like this.hows everyone now? Xx

Well done! My appetite is coming back so going to try and not get back into my bad habits. I’d lost 3 stone nearly but when I got with exDP did the old cliché of putting on weight so gained a stone and a bit! Not overly fussed about losing loads of weight but def want to shift the weight I gained, and I know eating better will help my mind as well.

I need to have a good tidy in a bit! My fridge is an actual disgrace. There’s stuff in there from before I was single and it’s two and a half weeks now since I got dumped...

I felt horrendous earlier, was trying to have a casual chat with a friend I ran into but tears kept rolling down my cheeks feeling better now but still with that constant sadness underneath everything.

I've been cooking better meals like I used to, been relying on quick freezer food before. On top of washing and housework now, but I do tire easy at the moment. Took my children swimming and park last week, hopefully swimming again tomorrow. And away to the seaside for 2 weeks on Saturday. HE knows this as he booked my coach tickets.

I've started feeling hungry again so this is good. I'm tiny anyway so I was literally turning skeletal so I had to do something about it! I didn't eat for two weeks straight then spend a few weeks barely eating. I'm doing much much better on the eating front now

I know exactly what you mean about the fridge. Mine has got stuff in from when my husband was here oops. Need to get rid. I’ve taken down all our pictures together, our married stuff. Felt awful but we all have to do this. I’ve lit some Yankee candles and my house smells gorgeous. I’m also going to keep myself busy. And I understand about the underlying sadness beneath it all I really do because I feel it but it’s my body and my life and I don’t want to feel like that anymore especially because it feels that he doesn’t feel like that.
Do you live alone? X

We need to keep this up ladies xxxx

Yeah I didn’t have a whole lot around to remind me of him but had a picture I have put away and have put away the jewellery he gave me.

I live with my mum, she’s been v sympathetic

That’s good that your appetite is coming back jonsnow! I am decidedly not tiny so my appetite was never going to be gone for long, going to try not to go the other way into emotional eating.

Can see why people fall into rebound relationships, I’m so missing the physical contact. But I know I’m not ready.

And he's sent divorce papers back signed, he's not contesting, but not completed the child maintenance info and yesterday was deadline so now they've made calculations with out him. SHE told my friend in long messenger convo I'd get £200 a month and - £46 for each child in his household so I'd get £154 a month, she has a child by someone else and my H does not support it according to child maintenance agent her EX has to pay her child maintenance. HE also said he'd get place with highest rent possible so he'd get to pay less maintenance. Well they both wrong HER sums were for a week and child maintenance don't take bills into account.
Also solicitor says my mum can claim car back as she bought it has receipts and bank statements showing she pays road tax. My mum bought the car for herself so HE could take her shopping and hospital appointments as my dad passed away just after she had a hip replacement.

@Jonsnowsghost well done starting to eat again. I was same, my boss (head teacher) said I've lost too much weight and a few parents at the school asked I'd been battling cancer. When your children say well done mum you've eaten today you know you've got to make a bigger effort.

Uuuuuuuugh I was looking through WhatsApp for something I’d texted my sister but it also brought up him saying he’d love me forever

To make things worse, a car then went down our close with music blaring which was always how I knew he was outside when he was picking me up so had a mad moment of thinking it was him - never normally hear cars with music here.

Can I join?7 weeks in.Some of you might have read my thread “you are short and thick”...quick easy break up over something silly. Im on school holidays now so have been really busy travelling,seeing friends.On the airport now on my way back home from Sicily.Every spare thought I have is about him.Its hurting more and more.We are not right for each other but instead of feeling better Im feeling worse!

Thanks for this thread ladies.My friends are getting sick of me talking about it all!

Welcome! I know what you mean, my friends are being lovely but definitely feel they are a bit tired of hearing it, especially as they can’t really say anything they haven’t already said before

Its hard.One day I want to turn back the time,or tell him miss him or just go and see him.Then I remember why we aren’t together and then back to square one....I dont cry I havent lost weight (unfortunately) but Im just missing him.Just want to move on,quick!