Break up support thread

[TinselAndKnickers]

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?

Oh I bet it will, not that I run myself but I’m assured it’s very good in times like this.

So are we all going to do something tomorrow out of our comfort zone? I am going to go for a run come rain or shine haha.

Good for you! Not sure for me, I have tentative plans to meet friends depending on work but if not, maybe I’ll get out the skipping rope I bought like two months ago because I thought it would be good exercise. The neighbours will enjoy that.

I’m on holiday and think my relationship is over. I don’t want to hijack your thread. Just needed to write this down somewhere.
We’ve had a massive argument. It’s been a long time coming. Think we may have been papering over the cracks for a while. Been together 3 years.
I’ve looked into earlier flights but none available. And there’s no spare rooms in the hotel either.
Feeling really awkward, incredibly sad and desperately lonely.
I text my mum and she wasn’t much help. She really thinks he’s good for me and loves that I finally found happiness. Shame she was wrong.
Laying in bed with him next to me but we’re not talking. It’s excruciating. I’m so unhappy

Lol 😂 I’m sure they will. Good exercise that and will defo keep you distracted.
Feeling slightly more positive than I have been. Tonight was a total disaster again crying constantly. Just wish I could forget the nice lovely memories and focus on the bad. Because he was an arse at times and did things to annoy me. Really need to think of them haha

@Chocolatecake12 how awful that it’s while you’re on holiday and you’ve nowhere to go. Don’t make rash decisions in anger, but don’t be afraid to move on either - as devastated as I am by my break up, I suspect if he hadn’t done it when he did we would have still broken up down the line. If it’s not right, it’s not right.

Yeah Pittle I always seem to feel my most positive after a big crying session! Def healthy to get it all out.

@Chocolatecake12 oh dear I’m so sorry. Where are you on holiday and for how long?
Has there been problems for a While?
You must feel very lonely. We are all here though x

I won’t say where I am as it’s outing. We come home Thursday. I feel sick. I can’t sleep.
It’s nice to be able to write it down.
Sorry for anyone else going through this. It sucks.

Sorry to hear you're going through it too Chocolate.

Mine was so out of the blue, no wind down, no different behaviours, no arguments just all of a sudden met someone else then decided he wanted to be with her instead after knowing her one day. It's completely crushed me. I'm doing better but it still hurts so much.

How are we all feeling this morning? I started to have another dream about him but luckily my alarm woke me and cut me off!

Have been waking up during the night which is so unlike me usually. Not feeling too bad at the moment though. I think it’s finally starting to feel real and more normal, instead of just totally surreal. Still hard though.

Not feeling too bad today :) who knows what will happen in the next few days but I'm taking this as a good sign

Yeah I’m currently feeling the best I’ve felt since it happened. Still got the lump in my throat and was welling up when talking about it to my sister but def feeling more positive today. Will prob crash later but I seem to be bouncing back better each time.

Still feeling fragile but the pain in my chest isn’t there but this tends to happen at night time more. Glad you are all feeling a little better. These are always positives.

We are getting there!

We will survive, as long as we’ve had weetabix we know we’ll stay alive etc etc

Currently on quite good spirits clearly let’s see how long it lasts!

Can I join the pity party? Two days no contact now. We’ve broke up before but this time it feels like it and I’ve left him with only my email for contact regarding our two year old. I’m so sad and disappointed but it was years of gaslighting and letting me down so I know this needs to be it but I still for some reason love him. Every time I cave in and contact him but I’m determined I really am this time I just have this constant feeling of tension and unease atm though

It must be so hard, even if you know it’s the right thing, you can’t just turn off your feelings. Stay strong with the no contact!

Definitely can't turn off your feelings! I still love him despite how horribly he's treated me.
No contact is the way forward, I can't remember how long it's been, think about 4 weeks since we last spoke? I still want to message him every day but it's getting better slowly

I’ve just read something on a break up forum that is really good. I don’t however know how to put the link in to here for everyone. I have got a screen shot if anyone wants to google it. Just reading it has made me feel a little
Better

I’m feeling myself go a bit downhill now. Still feeling better than last week tho! His bloody home town still keeps popping up tho!! Go away!

Keep going back to our holiday, was nothing special but it was so amazing, just can’t believe it was our one ajd only.

Can sort of imagine being with someone else now (not that I want to yet) except my imaginary person is the same race and body type as ex, likes the same stuff...that was already my type tbf lol but I’m basically imagining him with a different face I think!

Yeah Pittle what is it?

Oh ignore me picture wasn’t there when I said that, shall google it

Sorry I can’t put the link on, it’s really good. Hope you can find it on google from the picture. X

Yes I found it, will read it again later but had a quick read and it’s interesting, some good points, thanks for sharing!

Yes it has showed me a little
Bit of insight about the relationship etc. It’s actually made me get up have a shower and I’m going to go out. I’ll probably crash tonight but gonna make the most of it while I can

Yeah take advantage of it whilst it lasts in case you crash later. That’s what I did the first week or so when I was struggling to eat, any time I felt OK I would make myself eat something.

Weirdly I feel OK eating at work now but still struggle to eat properly at home.