My mood swings are destroying things

[JessM83]

So really down just now.

At “that” time every month I seem to go crazy for 5/6 days. I just can’t stop myself getting really angry and every time I take it out on my husband.

We all have faults but he really is a great guy. Works full time, does the majority of the shopping and house chores yet this month for example I again have went crazy at him.

It comes on so quick I don’t even see it coming. He went for a shower after work and everything was fine then 20mins later he comes down and I scream at him out the room making lies up that he’s lazy round the house, his family irritate me etc. We then spend couple of days to a week not talking.

Almost every month this happens. He expects an apology every time which makes me more angry as he knows it’s not my fault.

Any suggestions 🙏

@ShatnersWig I questioned that and have recieved no response. I questioned it well over an hour ago.

I can not understand why MNHQ are supporting this at all.

Either they are supporting that if an abusers says 'I cant help it' then it's not abuse.

That's an appalling stance to have.

Oddly, I got a response 3 minutes after I posted saying I didnt have a response. But it doesnt answer the question at all.

how old are you OP?

I asked mn to clarify their stance on abuse when the the abuser has a health issue
And their stance on abuse preportrated by women who have health issues.

They still havent answered why calling someone, who has admitted verbally and physically abusing their partner, an abuser is classed as a personal attack?

They havent responded.

That's what I can't fathom. Dad used Curious's own words back at her, and that's a personal attack? Sorry @MNHQ not good enough

Shatner, @MichaelMumsnet has ignored points raised on this thread tagging him in.

He ignored the questions I asked in my email and said he 2as making sure conversations are kept on track and now is ignoring questions.

I would really like @MNHQ to look at this.

I think the post from Curious telling him to fuck off has now been deleted. But how many hours did that take?

I dont understand how MN can support the 'we believe you' like they did, but delete comments for pointing out that committing abuse makes you and abuser and if you havent been dealt with by the police, that you have got away with it. They are facts. Basic facts.

But apparantly, stating facts is more of a personal attack than telling someone to fuck off.

No argument from me. When MNHQ starts censoring people for quoting facts, something is going seriously wrong.

As I said earlier, my ex-wife is diagnosed NPD and BPD. I spent 17 years married and experienced verbal, emotion, physical, sexual, financial abuse. There were times where I genuinely feared for my actual life. I was not believed, even by people who saw things with their own eyes. I was directed by people to try and work out what was wrong with myself so she wouldn't have to treat me that way.

This thread both heartens and disgusts me at the same time.

@samyeagar I'm sorry to ask, are you male? If so, it's fact that abuse against men is so often minimised and are told that they're doing something wrong. Men are even laughed at if a woman hits them and expected for them to not feel pain from physical abuse. It's all absolutely horrendous and I hate how on MN abuse against men is so easily dismissed.

I am really sorry for what you went through, but I am glad you were able to get away from the situation. I hope things are far better for you now.

I am male, yes. Fortunately I had enough strength to ignore what I had been told, and do what I felt was the right thing for me. Had I tried to wait around for a support system, I'd likely be dead.