Do I have any right to be mad /jealous?

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Started seeing him in may.
At the time there was another girl interested in him (one of his friends girlfriends friend)
Anyway due to me being on holiday for two weeks I haven't seen him for two weeks.
Assuming he would want to see me this weekend.
He text me saying he might be going to the races on Saturday and the girl who fancies him will be there.
I'm mad.
I know we aren't official but surely if he liked me enough he would rather see me?
Not put himself in a position with someone who clearly likes him.

He's clearly not bothered about you if he hasn't asked to see you since you've been back. Maybe he's been seeing this other girl while you've been away?

If he has preplanned going to the races, then I don't see why he should cancel, you can see him another time.

Either you trust him or you don't. The fact someone fancies him is there is irrelevant.

It's not pre planned.
His friend just asked him yesterday.
I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to do anything together instead and if he says no ...there's my answer

I'm sorry but if he was keen on you he'd want to see you as soon as possible.

If he wanted to see you he'd invite you to go too.
He's not going to pass up on an activity with his friends for someone he's been seeing for 6 weeks, sorry.

How did it come up about that girl being there? Did he say "I'm going to the races and Susan will be there" or did you ask whether she'd be there.

He said my friend has invited me to the races and "girls name" will be there
She's still trying to get me after all these weeks ha ha
That's what he said

He is trying to make you jealous OP, is he very young and immature?

He wants you to be jealous.
She clearly isn't going because she's 'trying to get' him. She's going because her friend is going.

I wouldn't be surprised if he's interested in her.
As I say, otherwise you'd be invited.
He'll also use her being there as a reason not to invite you because he 'won't want to upset you or make you feel uncomfortable'.

He said I'm not sure if I'm even going to bother going.
Last week after a night out he was telling me about a woman who was all over him even tho she was married.
I'm just jealous/insecure all the time
I don't like the feeling

Yep DEFINITELY wants you to feel jealous.
If she was all over him, he would have been encouraging it.

You being jealous is great for his ego.

If he never told me,I would never have known.
It's ridiculous

He is 31.

God get rid! Things like this will only get worse, he clearly just trying to piss you off and make you jealous. Why would you want someone like that? You are worth more than that.

Oh he's playing you like a fiddle! honestly just end it and find someone who is really interested in YOU and not game playing by gleefully telling you about all these women who find him irresistible!

Dating someone should be fun, not a misery!

Don't play the pick me game. When men want to date someone they don't play games. He's probably loving all the girls on the go - so to speak.

Oh god tell him to do one. That kind of crap is for 14 year olds!

Either he's dumping you slowly or he's trying to make you go overboard to secure him.

Ditch him.

He has been messaging me loads since I've Been home.
Messaged me all holiday..it's just confusing.
He seems interested but I do think (going from previous gfs) he likes girls to feel jealous.
A comment he made a while ago saying it's fun at the beginning when they jealous.
I don't find it fun
I like to no where I stand.
I'm not clingy or anything and if someone says I'm only dating you then they can do whatever

I'm seconding CCquavers advice..........don't play the pick me game. Move on.

I wouldn't ditch him because he's going to the races just after youre back from holiday.

I wouldn't ditch him because he's at an event with a girl who likes him who is also a mutual friend.

I'd ditch him because he's bragging about the other girl liking him. Trying to make himself look like the big man and make you jealous.

Fuck. That.

Next!

Sounds like a dickhead.

Sounds really boring.

Why are you bothering?

Tbh it's making me question myself.
I've always thought I looked ok (not stunning or the most beautiful girl ) but I was happy with myself.
Now I'm paranoid that these girls are nicer
I just want him to be happy to see me.
At first he said he couldn't believe I liked him and he felt 20 foot tall ...well if that was the case why mess me around like so.

It wouldn't matter if you were the most beautiful, fittest, richest girl in the world.

He wants you to think you're sooo lucky to be seeing him because he's so in demand.

Just walk away OP, please.

Go silent. Block. It's already miserable six weeks in. Red flags as far as the eye can see. He sounds about fourteen.

He will ruin your self esteem if you stay. It will takes years to recover. What is the point? You need to love yourself enough that you can see useless nasty men for what they actually are and be able to say no, I am worth more than your shite behaviour,