Do I have any right to be mad /jealous?

[reddysteadygo]

Started seeing him in may.
At the time there was another girl interested in him (one of his friends girlfriends friend)
Anyway due to me being on holiday for two weeks I haven't seen him for two weeks.
Assuming he would want to see me this weekend.
He text me saying he might be going to the races on Saturday and the girl who fancies him will be there.
I'm mad.
I know we aren't official but surely if he liked me enough he would rather see me?
Not put himself in a position with someone who clearly likes him.

it's gonna turn me batty

That's the plan.

God I feel like total shit today.
Last night he said he was more than likely going to the races or doing his garden instead.
He turned it round so I felt like I was in the wrong for asking him to do something.
He said I had turned the conversation weird.
He plays mind games with me,some days he is all over me and others he gives me nothing.
He didn't finish the conversation last night he said he was going to bed and no text this morning.
I feel so ridiculously low.
I don't understand why he doesn't want to spend time with me if he likes me.

He's not that interested in you, beyond playing mind games and trying to control you. Why are you still pursuing this? He's not a kind person. Why won't you listen to the advice everyone is telling you?

Because some blokes have issues.

That's why.

Now he's gaslighting you, making you think you were in the wrong - bit of an abusive tactic. This man is horrible. Stop being desperate and needy for him - you are never going to get what you want from him. Block him and move on.

For the love of god...... Block the asshole.
Why are you putting yourself through this for a bloke????
It makes no sense.
Stop it.
You now sound desperate and needy and those are not attractive traits and will certainly be putting him off.
Be strong.
Show him you don't a give a shit about him.
Leave him to his mind games.
But for your own sanity please stop this madness.

You know he’ll just get worse? If this is him after a few weeks imagine a lifetime like this and be bloody glad you got rid before it’s too late

Tough love OP but:

I don't understand why he doesn't want to spend time with me if he likes me.

Simple - answer: Because he doesn't like you enough.

Come on, FFS you're being ridiculously passive and just letting someone treat you like shit.

Do not be someone's back up plan!!!

Just take control of the situation end - it's only been a matter of weeks and you have a issues in the relationship already.

FOR YOUR OWN MENTAL HEALTH - JUST END IT!!

Yes you do.
How immature and unkind.
Forget him. Hopefully you meet someone better suited to you soon

31!! dear Lordy! I thought you were going to say he is 16!! Get rid and move on!

Don't waste your time, he sounds like a messer!!

This thread is really painful to read. OP why are you ignoring all the very sensible advice you've been given? It's like watching a car crash. This man is bad news. He's terrible for you. Look at state you're in already and it's only been a few weeks. End it. Stop responding to his texts. Block him. Then go do some work on your self-esteem and when you feel ready, go find a man who treats you well and actually makes you feel good about yourself!

Why are you still even speaking to him?

Block him and delete his number.

I think he likes you OP but he is trying to make you jealous. Like he is so eligible all the girls want him. He might just be insecure but I still wouldn't bother with someone like that. If he is insecure he could have a lot of jealousy issues of his own.

Just take charge of the situation and txt him that you're done.
That way you can move on onto better things. Have someone who treats you right. X

He doesn’t like you. He likes messing with your emotions because it gives him an ego boost.

He’s a wanker. There really isn’t anything to work out beyond that. Please bite the bullet and drop him.

It doesn't matter what his reasons are for doing this. It's making you feel crap so that's it. You are in complete control over that. Just walk away and give yourself a big pat on the back for not putting up with that shit.

Raise your standards.

I thought you were ending it.

He's playing the hot & cold + triangulation game (pitting you against a potential rival). You know the only way to win this game? fold your cards before he plays his next hand. Pull the rug out from under him.

You' re letting your self-respect go down the pan because you're seeking his validation (he likes me) - the only one who can rescue your dignity now is you (I like me)

Once you've ditched this bozo - text your pals and organise to go out this weekend, play some Lizzo, be a bad ass

I've been out with my friend today,we went to the seaside for a couple of cocktails as it's lovely day.
He text and I haven't replied and I never text him back.
I'm totally done.
I'm fighting a loosing battle
I'm tired and want to find someone who won't do this.
It shouldn't be this hard

Ah well done @reddysteadygo in a few weeks if you stay strong and don't have contact with him then you'll be meh about him, promise!

He wasn't worth your time or headspace. Like my mum used to say "one day you won't even remember their last name." True dat!

Enjoy your friends and the lovely weather - so much better than a bell end making you question yourself

@reddysteadygo Yaaaaaaas! Another woman saves herself from a fuckwit. You'll feel better soon enough. x

I'm so please you have ended it.

If your resolve ever waivers, watch this

He has loads of other good videos too.

You might also want to watch this which explains his underlying motives for wanting you to be jealous and why he enjoyed it

@Jaffacakesaremyfave Aw yeah! Another derrick Jaxn fan. haha. It helps that he's 'oooooo momma'

He's deliberately doing other things on saturday, just to dick you about and make you wait. Tell him it's lucky that other woman is still after him as he's free for her after all....

It shouldn't be this hard
At last!!!! That light-bulb moment
Well done OP.
I fear this won't be the end of it though.
We are here when you need us.