Do I have any right to be mad /jealous?

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Started seeing him in may.
At the time there was another girl interested in him (one of his friends girlfriends friend)
Anyway due to me being on holiday for two weeks I haven't seen him for two weeks.
Assuming he would want to see me this weekend.
He text me saying he might be going to the races on Saturday and the girl who fancies him will be there.
I'm mad.
I know we aren't official but surely if he liked me enough he would rather see me?
Not put himself in a position with someone who clearly likes him.

Due to work /kids Friday night and Saturday are the only days I can see him
So if he makes plans on those days we don't see each other

I feel you're ignoring a lot of the replies which I can understand as it's hard to hear.

I think he probably likes you but the real question is are you prepared to be made feel jealous for ever?
A partner is meant to make you feel like you're the only girl in the world. My partner of 13 years still makes me feel like that everyday. Like I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen. He's good looking and I know he gets flirted with but he doesn't flirt back.

Just think about what you want.

Bin him off, he's an immature twat!

Dump and block. He’s acting like a twat.

What the hell !

You had no plans made and so nothing was stopping him from arranging a night out at the races with his mates. You aren’t even together - expecting him to see you is your problem not his. He isn’t a mind reader nor an events organiser.. if you wanted to see him you should’ve/could’ve asked him yourself?

Maybe he’s telling you this girl will be there to be open and honest. Imagine if he didn’t tell you and the day after you saw photos of her next to him all over social media - you’d be accusing him of lying to you then!

Look.. you aren’t a couple. You could’ve asked him to do something that day but you didn’t, he had no other plans so why shouldn’t he have a day out with his friends? Because I’m sorry if a guy I wasn’t even with expected me to cancel on friends to see him I’d be telling him to piss off.

You sound controlling. You’re expecting him to read your mind. You wanna do something with him? Then ask him. Don’t expect him to not make any plans just Incase you wanna see him

At first he said he couldn't believe I liked him and he felt 20 foot tall ...well if that was the case why mess me around like so.

That is the reason, you dingbat. You're too good for him, he knows it. If he makes you feel shit and insecure, you'll beg to be picked instead of thinking, 'hold on, I'm better than this'.

'Last week after a night out he was telling me about a woman who was all over him even tho she was married.'

Ugh what a knob

'He said my friend has invited me to the races and "girls name" will be there
She's still trying to get me after all these weeks ha ha
That's what he said'

Even bigger knob

Bet he's loving telling you all this shite.

@RRJR

Missing very important bits of the OP's posts and getting to very wrong conclusions.

I asked him if he wants to do something with me on Saturday and he said he can't as he is going to the races now deffo ..
So clearly would rather see her than me
I don't think I want to keep seeing him after this
He knows she's after him,she's still sending him messages on Facebook
He hasn't seen me for weeks
Any one who liked someone would want to see me.
I'm done with it
I feel like total shit

Don't feel like shit.
Just take back control and dump his sorry arse.
You don't need someone like that in your life.
He's making you feel like shit and you don't need or deserve that.
Learn for next time that at the first sign of this bullshit you dump!

I'm going too
I'm not putting up with this
I know we aren't a "official" couple but we are sleeping together,going on dates,texting daily
Is it so much to ask for him not to go out with a girl who he knows fancy's him and has been messaging him instead of someone he is "dating"
I feel sick

Bare in mind he's only telling a small section of the truth.
Why aren't you invited to go? It's not a private event...

Tell him to fuck off.
I had a guy like this, tried to act like his behaviour was normal and I was mad. I aired it out with friends.
I ended it as quick as it started, told him he brought to much drama and his need for attention was planned sad.

Next guy I met was my dp, after the first week he sent me flowers. Has never told me about other women, or acted in such a way.

I'm glad you're done, it's the right decision. I think it might be really important to you later down the line to walk away with your head held high now though. Don't tell him it's because he's messing with your head, just tell him it's not working for you and you don't want to hear from him again. Let him wonder what's wrong with him for a change. There's nothing wrong with you btw, you've spotted there's something not quite right with him early doors and got yourself away from him, well done

The worst thing is when we are together we get on so so well.
Have such a laugh,it's just a shame he is like this.

Well he IS like this, and doesn't deserve you. Down the line you'll laugh at his antics and wonder why you ever bothered!

No need to feel shit now - his behaviour had you feeling shit to start with. Now you can dump him with your head held high. Plan treats for yourself and a good night out with mates.

Doesn't matter how many good points he has if his bad points are going to chip away at your self esteem. If someone gave you a cup of tea that was 5% shit you wouldn't drink it because it was 95% ok would you? You can do better OP

He's a jerk. Block him and move on.

Thanks everyone

Mate, you know you deserve better than this. The headspace you're giving an absolute tosser is ridiculous and underserved! This should be the best bit, the easy bit, not game playing and him making you jealous. It is cruel. A really cruel thing to actively try to make you jealous. He's even told you that he enjoys making people jealous.

Going to the event to mark your territory is a huge mistake IMO - end it now otherwise you're going to go and he'll try to make you jealous in person / not say you're a girlfriend etc and you'll feel even shitter.

Message him to say you're not feeling it so you wish him well but let's not see each other anymore. That's what I'd do anyway. You're wasting so much mental energy on a dickhead who is trying to make you jealous and laughing about it!

And what she said ^ great post ThatCurlyGirl

I wish MN had been around when I was 28!!
I wasted a lot of years on this type of man child...years that you can never get back.
Dump and block the selfish idiot!

Tell him she is lucky and she can have him.
He's no prize. You can do much better, he is a knob and behaving like a child.

I would not see or have any contact with him again. It is clear he is not interested in you. I would say he is disrespectful of you and your feelings too. Also disrespectful to the woman who is going to the races with him. Maybe do her a favour and forward the texts where he is saying can you believe she is still into me, and the married woman all over him texts.

All I'm looking for is someone who is happy to have me and just me and not need to do all of this

You're never going to have that with this person.