Dating thread 164. Fortune favours the brave

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Well I am off the smitten bench, didn’t last long only had chance to rest my legs. Will update tomorrow. Feeling pretty blue ☹️

@CassettesAreCool Go for it, I am definitely punching where MrNN is concerned, but then I was when bf was my partner and then became FWB, it’s worth giving it a go!

More than one iron on the go is far too tiring for me. Even though Mr TDB is just a fwb and I'm not expecting exclusivity from him, I genuinely can't be bothered trying to squeeze more than one man into the margins of my social life. A few weekends ago, I somehow ended up with a ONS, a visit with my ex-fwb (tho not ex at the time obvs), and a date with Mr TDB. I was knackered. Won't be doing that again.

Oh no, Marlboroandmalbec34, I hope you're ok.

Oh no @Marlboroandmalbec34 hope you're ok...sending hugs

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I hope you’re okay and manage to sleep well tonight.

Oh, sorry to hear that @Marlboroandmalbec34 

And @SimonJT if you look like that violin player you are supposed to look like then I don't think you're punching at all!

Sorry to hear that @Marlboroandmalbec34

@Marlboroandmalbec34 sorry to hear that 😢. Hope you're feeling ok and manage to not think too much about it tonight xx

Oh no @Marlboroandmalbec34 that's pants.

MrS has been definitely cooler. I hate this guessing lark. He should be coming over next Saturday but I'm getting a bit meh with it all.

Chatted to two potentials this weekend too. Except one lives in Swansea which is four hours from me and one more local (only an hour) but despite matching up on lots of things, has been really honest and said he doesn't want to get with anyone who has any children. Darn it.
Wanting something slightly unusual in the dating world makes all this so much bloody harder. I'm already ready to give up.

Mr dadbod stayed at mine from Friday eve till this morning. I feel smothered.

I've sent a txt saying I need to cool it and happy to have a drink once a week. I feel so mean but i just wasnt feeling it today when he left. He was great in bed,but i couldnt sleep,couldnt get on with my jobs,it was all too much.
Feel like we rushed all the dates and it's all gone pear shape.
Whether we do start again with once a week and take it slow,I dont know. I'm all confused

So 1 month in from leaving stbxh and no where near ready for dating but reading updates to make sure my skin is thick enough if the time ever comes for me. Good luck to everyone.

@kerkyra why on earth did he stay for nearly 2 days?! That's one hell of a date!

Never give up, ratbag or marlboro 💐 but moving on sometimes is inevitable

I dont know. I said I was kid free and we just carried on through the weekend. So stupid! I made an excuse this morning and he left and it was like hugh relief.
I'm so fond of him but not sure the attraction is there. I just hope he isnt reading this as I feel awful.

@kerkyra sounds like it was too much too soon? I can see why you felt smothered. What has he said to your cool it text?

.kerkyra. that is quite weird, don’t feel bad though, it is easy to get carried awsy

It was a nice reply
'Hi,yes it was a good weekend,we can meet up for a drink. Like I said,I'm not rushing into anything so am happy with your suggestion'.

Which has taken the pressure off me.

Mr Hot has asked if he can send me a song in the morning. 💕💕💕

@kerkyra sounds like you're singing from the same hymn sheet. @CassettesAreCool oooh sounds ace! MrTall is always sending me songs ☺️

I once had an iron who recorded songs to send to me - wonderful voice, I particularly loved You Were Always On My Mind. Total swoon

@Marlboroandmalbec34

Mr 5in1 text me this evening to apologise, his phone had run out of charge last night and he'd just got home and charged it. I rang him and he answered, sounded absolutely mentally physically and emotionally drained. He apologised again and wished it had been otherwise, and was going to pay me the full price for the hotel until I explained what had happened.

I believe him entirely now.

We resumed some light normal texting tonight.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 we are here for you.

@CassettesAreCool Go for it, 6 years is not much. Tbh I found the men I attract now are mostly younger. I am 36 and dating 30-32. When a woman is hot, she is hot you deserve some candy lol
I said the ball was in his court as it seemed he was saying that he needs sex to keep dating, and I said there won't be any for now.

Update from MrChef - he sent a few scattered texts. Exclusivity comes after sex, he wants to postpone the conversation for now and arrange next date. So all good for me, but I am now on alert and will drop him if he hints it is a "condition" for dating again.

I only one free night this week and I am wondering if I should spend it with him (all my eggs in one basket) or go for that drink with MrFlu (rescheduled from today). I think I want to to the latter.

Glad you've heard from him @coffeeandchocolate9 hope his mum is OK too of course.