Dating thread 164. Fortune favours the brave

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Oh don't say that Peanut, I think MissH and I would definitely be classed as in each others pockets compared to most on here who see each other once or twice a week. Weds will be the only day we haven't spent time together this week, although we did wake up together on Weds as well 🙊
To be fair though my ex moved in with me after 4 weeks and we spent 23 years together, so I have history 😂

@Ginmel thanks it was good to get one under my belt; thinking back on it my body language was probably awful and I didn’t know what to do re: hello/goodbye etiquette so I am treating it just as a trial run!

Urgh, feeling a bit low today even though I’m trying really hard not to. Done Parkrun (new PB😁), some batch cooking and I’m going out with a friend tonight but can’t help feeling a bit sorry for myself. There’s a big music festival going on today which I should have been going to with the guy who dumped me months ago, and I know he’s going with his new girlfriend. I’m fine most of the time but just occasionally it hits me all over again and I feel so sad. Not much luck on dating sites either, I’ve been messaging some men but then they just disappear or I seem to be the only one moving the conversation forward - very dispiriting. Anyway moan over, get my daughter back next week and we’re going away in August so I’m going to leave dating until after the summer - thanks all for listening

@Ant330 I'd love to see MrSAS more but between our kids it's impossible. How do you do it?!

@Sunshineandflipflops this is my problem with MrTall...I've been lucky as my mum took my DD for 3 weeks whilst I recover from knee op but she's back on Monday so we won't see each other for over a week. So used to seeing him every 2 days or so.

@Peanuthedz I’m really pleased you’re enjoying being on the smitten bench ☺️

It’s not unusual in my ‘world’, plus lots of fun can still be had without penetrative sex.

Shall I put you out of your misery?

Sunshine she only loves 15 mins away, we've synced up our child free days, her kids see their dad 2-3 times a week and she has an older teenage daughter so her boys are happy for her to pop out for a couple of hours if the daughter is there. My son is also on holiday with his mum at the moment so I have more free time than usual.
It's not all overnighters, sometimes we'll just pop for a couple of drinks or something to eat or a quickie

@Ant330 how long have you been seeing MissH?

7 weeks

Is that from first message to now? MrT and I are a couple of weeks behind you and we were worried that things are aping a knit too fast but we're pretty perfect for each other. I think when you find it you need to run with it. You sound so happy and it's nice to get a male opinion!

No from 1st date. We didn't message for long as we'd actually met irl about 6 months before.
Yeah we're really happy so going with the flow. I think while it's good then make the most of it, I've spent years feeling miserable, so am thoroughly enjoying this feeling and I miss her a lot when I'm not with her.

So, no big surprise that Mr Hot - who sent me a pic of his passport - turns out to be con artist: he started telling me some complex bollux about contracts in Dubai and agents and stage payments, I expressed mild but sceptical interest, he then asked for £500. I said no chance mate, bye, then he said I am sorry before I got round to blocking him. So insulting, no harm done to me but I’m quite indignant 😡

Second date with Mr Courteous was fun, though he rather uncourteously gave me a hickey 😂

Cassettes, I aspire to your lifestyle 😂😂

@CassettesAreCool hickey buddies 🙈

Thankfully I've only ever had a hickey on parts that not many people see 😂

We didn’t get quite that far sunshine! Actually Mr Greedy gave me one last week on my neck that had only just faded when Mr Courteous went in for the kill today. Before this weird cluster I don’t think I’d had one in, what, 40 years???

Has anyone else been asked for money but an iron? Still seething.

Can I join the party?

Just now I had the rather depressing exchange below, with a guy. On Bumble, which I thought was more ‘decent’ than tinder or pof. This is quite common

All normal - we match, he compliments my appearance, I say thanks and likewise, chat about how long we’ve been single, about what he was watching on Netflix, did I fancy one of the characters on there, me saying no.
Him: You have a great smile
Me: Thanks, that’s lovely
I’m thinking of the next quest to ask when he says....
Him: Please please please don’t take this the wrong way, but are you stupidly well endowed in the chest department? Because I think you are but I can’t tell because of the way your photos are cropped.
Me: {Unmatched man without missing a beat}

Help! Why am I attracting creeps?

It’s the name of the game I’m afraid igetknockeddown. I found Bumble worse for it than Tinder 😕

@Sunshineandflipflops That’s the key, somewhere covered up. I used to make sure F left with one, and MrNN before we were exclusive, a nice little keep away he’s mine stamp.

Also I keep meaning to say, everytime I see the thread title I think of the RHCP fortune faded.

@Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain one of the first messages I got on bumble was 'fucking hell, you're fit...what size are your tits?' So at least yours was polite!

I'm still at Mr Gs. We've had a wonderful 24 hours. Going for an evening walk now. 👍

I've never had anything like that...or dick pics (other than from Mr Art recently). Maybe I don't look the type 😂

Mr Art has just losses me off a little.

Last night he was at a party and said it's a shame I'm wasn't free, then just now, he's out at the pub and has said it's a shame I have the kids this weekend. I told him I don't see it that way.

This is part of the reason we stopped seeing each other as he couldn't understand/deal with my lack of availability. My kids aren't an inconvenience (although I could happily give my teenage daughter away right now) 😤

*pissed me off!