Cheating.

[Michellepebbles86]

Ok, so I need help! I have no friends to talk to about this and it’s driving me crazy.

I suspect my fiance of 4 years is cheating on me. Again. We live together and have done for 3 years.

All the signs are there. I just can’t prove a thing and even if I did he would deny it. 2 years ago 2 desperate women found me on Facebook to tell me they were messaging and had slept with him. He denied both and still does to this day. I forgave him and moved on. Idiot I know!!! All was well until about 6 month ago.....

He keeps his phone on him constantly. Even if he wants to show me something on it he will screenshot it and message it me. He leaves the room to talk on it. It’s always on silent. Not enough to warrant a worry I know but here’s the rest..... when I ask to spend time together he’s always too busy. Too tired. But can go on his xbox all the time. Can make time to go meet his friends. He’s also stopped making any kind of effort with me not just with sex but cuddles, hugs, etc.

I was casually on BT site querying a bill and his mobile is on it. So I thought I’d check why the bill was so high in case he was ordering stuff. There’s a number that he’s ringing every day on his way home from work, on his way to work and throughout the day. It’s also being texted at times when I’m either still asleep in the morning or have gone to bed at night. Alarm bells right!?? Am I being paranoid? I haven’t spoken to him for three days because I don’t know how to feel. If I say something, he will deny it point blank. Also he has a knack of turning things around on me whenever I say I’m unhappy with something. So I just don’t. I can’t afford to leave him or kick him out right now. I feel so trapped with all this info, these feelings and what to do!!!

It won't feel like it now but you are so going to be ok OP. And until you are don't be afraid to lean on us, you have lots of support here

I think you're bloody amazing 🥰💐

I posted a picture to Instagram before and everyone was immediately like - wtf has happened you look so tired!! Thankfully I only use that account for weight loss/body pos/etc people so none of friends or family are on there. I’m really trying to keep busy but the horrible thoughts are just building up. I miss him. This is harder than I thought it would be but by no means does that mean I’ll take him back. I’m guessing this will also get harder before it gets easier. I’ve deleted all pictures, numbers, contact etc so I can’t ever have a moment of weakness. I feel so tired.

You're a stronger person than me. He sounds like a coward

He certainly is that. The best thing he can do now is to just stay away

Flipping heck OP. Hold your head up high, you should be so proud of yourself. Your ex sounds like a cunt. You are and will be better off without him.

Just to say well done again for how you've coped today... and what timing for DS!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

In response to your above post, you might have moments of weakness, and I really think that's okay, have a little cry, then open all the windows, wash your face, go for a walk/open a bottle of wine in the garden, and carry on. You know the sadness will fade, it's what you'd tell your own children.

I hope you will be opening a bottle of wine and turning the music up cooking your roast tomorrow. Hope you get a good night sleep.

I’m doing the whole garden tomorrow, finishing the bar in the garden we started making, re arranging my added new wardrobe and yes I’m hoping a roast will be on the cards 😍 no wine, I’m going to stay away from that I think and focus on my weight loss. In the past couple of month I’ve lost nearly two stone so I’m going to keep going and smash my goals 💪 Thankyou xx

Nothing of use to add, you’ve had some great advice here, just wanted to add another voice to the cheerleading chorus. Keep going, girl, cry when you need and I’d say look after yourself but I think you’ve already done that in the best way possible. Very best of luck, you deserve it.

Yet another cracking update!! So so impressed xx

Great update 💐

I’m struggling to sleep so I’m hinching the house. Also treated myself from the money I made selling some stuff today to an oil diffuser and essential oils.....get rid of the negative energy and vibes that are lingering. Right - I’m gonna Zoflora that fucker outta my house and outta my life. Bye felicia 👋

Well done

Did you get any sleep? Or is the house sparkling!?
I'm picturing friends - Monica with the floor shiny machine in the boys apartment because she needs to be the host!

I slept about 3am ish. Feel terrible today, so so ill 😷 think it’s jusy down to stress etc. Haha yeah I’m a bit like a Monica the way I clean, I use it for my anxiety as it helps. So much to do today! Having a coffee in bed and making a list of today’s jobs. I look like absolute shite but I genuinely don’t care atm. The littlest snuck into my bed last night and just kept putting her hand on me telling me “she feels she has to keep doing that”

It’s all bagged. Everything. Ready to go on the front. I feel like a weight has been lifted. I’ve put in everything he ever bought me and me him because I need a clean slate, start anew and need to heal. May have accidentally broke something but he can still have it 😊 now to sort out getting a tattoo covered! I’m taking five minutes just to stare at it all in the hall. I feel sick. But I feel relieved.

Well done OP, a day at a time 💐

You are doing amazingly well onwards and upwards 💐

You are actual wonder woman!

I’ve prepped a Sunday roast, weeded the garden and me and my dad are finishing building the bar out there. I’ve blocked and deleted everything. That’s it. All done.

Well done OP

Thankyou so much everyone. Yet again I feel myself praising and thanking the kindness of strangers. Xxxxxx

You're amazing OP. Also, how gorgeous is your littlest 😍

She really is. Although she told me I’m now a single Pringle and there’s plenty more fish in the sea 😂😂😂 told her we’re just focusing on us now. No need for any man in my life apart from my dad and my son

You are doing amazingOP I'm in actual awe of you....hope you and the people who matter have a lovely Sunday, if I were you I'd ask what time he's planning to be picking his shit up then leave it on the doorstep, you don't need to entertain him bollocks anymore