Husband broke my glasses on purpose

[Sickofit1]

My husband has just intentionally broken my glasses, we had a huge row which escalated from nothing. I have pregnancy hormones and he just fuels it, then says he’s leaving us, then I started having a panic attack not because he said he is leaving because I couldn’t care less just because I can’t believe he would start this crap over nothing in the morning just before i’m about to drop the kids off. He never stops if he puts me in that state which just upsets me even more as I just feel I didn’t do anything to deserve this and can’t understand why i’m always in this position. Anyways then he intentionally broke my glasses and sunglasses so I can’t even drive, I couldn’t drop the kids he had to as a result.

I want him out but he doesn’t leave. I refuse to leave and disrupt the kids out of their home. I’m not willing to make a domestic scene as I don’t want that on my kids record. Is there any right I have just to remove him without making it sound really bad?

What would you do if your daughter was in your situation. You seriously need to wise up your putting yourself at risk.....he is a bully and he is not a decent human being who obviously has a nasty side of him when he has had a drink. Breaking someone's property is disgusting and your glasses is controlling can't you see that. Put your big girl pants on and do what any normal person would do report him to the police, get legal advice and get divorced. Stop worrying about what other people think this is your life and you only get one

@user1497997754

Relax, he’s already moved out
I actually think the police have better things to crack on about than my glasses being broken. When it goes down the route of legals I can mention it to a solicitor
But you’re seriously deluded if before u’ve even spent one night without him I’m already sorting out the divorce.
We have money tangled up, a house, kids and their expensive to work out who’s covering what who’s picking them up when
Divorce just as a legal thing is the last thing I really care about right now
Some people think divorce is the click of the fingers it sorts everything out
For Christ sake I’m pregnant like I’m going to get divorced tomorrow

I’ve separated from him
And now it’s about my kids and sorting out what’s best for them and looking after my bump

I don’t think I need anyone’s advice now, people on here put me in a worse mood the was their communication is so hostile- as soon as I defend myself and send a same tone message back I’m the bad guys.
Thanks for those who have been supported. Bye

OP I'm genuinely curious - what did you want from this thread?

I can’t believe the things that you’ve typed OP. You come across as snotty and ignorant. Goodbye!

For your information I know exactly what is entailed in getting divorced as I have been twice so I am in a much better position than yourself so don't patronize me. I actually after reading your posts don't think you are a nice person and you have treated the majority of the people on here disrespectfully you asked for advice and you were given it whether you choose to take it is up to you. But your attitude is very high and mighty and not endearing. I am glad he has left...I wish you well in your future and hope everything works out.

I think OP that clearly you don't think that there's really anything wrong with your relationship. Crack on. I hope you'll be very happy whatever you decide. I feel sorry for your kids though.

Bizarre!

God OP are you still at it? 🙄

I’m glad that you and your children are safe.

Op
He committed a domestic criminal damage you just needed to call 999 and he would have been removed and quite possibly prevented from returning for a while giving you chance to weigh up your options.

If he won't go and he does similar again call 999. I'm a cop if you need any further advice.
If you call 999 you don't have to press charges . Also look up NCDV. They can help with restraining orders etc even if you don't press ahead with a police complaint.

@hellenbackagen op is not interested in help and thinks we are all ridiculous for suggesting this is domestic abuse because she's not weak like the women who need women's aid. Don't waste your energy!

you have the right to stay in the family home with the children, but im assuming that he has the right to not leave? Could you offer to buy him out? Surely hes not happy either, or could you insist on selling the house and buying something smaller or in a different area

So what do you want more, to remain in the family home or move out?
To remain you need the assistance of professionals, to leave you have the means to do it yourself

OP if things escalate later on I don't think you could tell your solicitor that he broke your glasses as there'll be no evidence. It will pretty much be your word against his and he could even lie and say you also broke his sunglasses too etc. If you got the police involved they would have come and took evidence and possibly cautioned him which would scare him off. Right now he could just return next morning and pretend nothing has happened and the bottom line is despite what he has done, he still have the right to be in that house.

According to your first post it sounds like he gives you panic attacks quiet frequently. Why did you decide to get pregnant again before sorting out your domestic issues ?

Majority of people have told you that even if you feel safe you still need a trail of evidence on record. Otherwise in court it will be "hearsay".

I’m guessing your current pregnancy was unplanned. I can’t fathom why anyone would deliberately get pregnant by an abusive asshole like this!

Hi @hellenbackagen
Thanks I will have a look at ncdv

It's a good resource sickofit but will help your cause if you report to police even if you don't want to pursue it .

Good luck