Devastated

[tracy081276]

Please can anyone give me hope that I'll be ok. I'm 42 and my partner left me after 23 years and 5 children together. This was 3 months ago. Initially i thought it would blow over and he'd be home. I thought he was depressed and needed a break. In the previous 4 years i have been through a lot emotionally. My mum died 4 years ago and i tried to resusitate her but i failed. I tried so hard. Then full hysterectomy so going through menopause for 3 years. He was never there to comfort me , i did everything round the house and for children. I think I'm having a breakdown . Trying to be positive for kids but feel like im dying. Hes now dating someone else. I'm sorry this post is all over the place . Just dont know what to write.

He will end up a sad old man, your daughter will realise one day.

Another bad day! I really want to cut contact with him altogether ! Each day he says something that knocks me back to square one ! Talk about kicking someone when they're down ! He's got all the control. Decides when he'll see them and said he'll see them when hes not busy with his girlfriend! I need to think of me now. My terms ! Just so difficult.

Sorry to hear your having a bad day keep contact to just about the kids you are doing really well be kind to yourself

Sending you hugs Tracy, he's a nasty piece of work, don't let him get to you - you are worth so much more xx

Thank you ladies , i wish someone could give me all the answers ! No escape from my mind! Hes confessed he's not stayed overnight cause the woman is married .....i said hope she leaves her husband for you cause you'll spend all your life looking over your shoulder!!

The only way through it is though it. I would cut off all contact that isn't specifically about the kids and organise mediation to sort contact. Plus cms for maintainenece. And while you're at it, change the locks if he has a key and make sure all of his stuff is out of the house.

How are things op

It will not feel like it I know but longer term you will see he did you a big favour— a bloke who never takes you out, never buys you dinner etc and yet you have looked after 5 kids— stuff that nonsense!! I would say the other person is welcome to him!! Give yourself a bit of a head wobble and think I am capable, kind and worth so much bloody more than that!!

Hiya ladies , things getting bloody worse but im getting stronger thankfully! Hardly sees kids at all , turns out the other woman is actually married ! He wasnt just sick of me but sick of the boys ! Says he'll see the kids when girlfriend busy !! Now im absolutely disgusted with the vile person he is !!