What is going on with my coworker?

[FloMo98]

I had a lunch meeting with my coworker who's married. We both sat down across from each other and I noticed that he started tugging on the collar of his shirt for a few seconds. Then, he started touching his face. He started rubbing his mouth area and the sides of his face with his hand throughout the start of our conversation.

Soon after, he started copying my actions. I hand my elbow on the table with the tips of my fingers rested against my lips and soon after he did that same position that I was in. Or if I were to shrug my shoulder while talking to him, he'd shrug his shoulder right after me while he'd be listening.

Since we know each other well, this coworker of mine would usually give me a friendly hug and I'd accept it. Most of the time after he starts talking to me after the hug, his voice would get a little shaky while speaking. But this time before I left, he stuck out his hand for a handshake and I shook it. He's never done that to me before.

Why did he do that?

Lefty that made me laugh!

@flomo98 been there. This is how I knew it had gone too far. It's not normal to have that extended amount of eye contact with a platonic friend. Physiologically, intense eye contact does increase feelings of intimacy. But it's a false intimacy. It can never replace the real connection he has with his partner.
@OpinionatedCyborg It was hard. Everyone wants their ego stroked. It took me a while to accept that and to accept that it didn't make a bad person. Acting on would have.
@lefty1 you're naughty, am I allowed to have a crush on you?

@Pinkgin22 I blame the men absolutely, but I have a low opinion of any woman who goes after a man she knows to be unavailable.

A diagram would be much appreciated.

Tbh the mimicking your actions and weird gestures are a red flag, OP. Is this your co-worker? RUN LIKE THE WIND. He will use up all your emotional energy with his constantly getting trapped in glass boxes.

😂

He's just a co-worker with no feelings towards you and now feels uncomfortable around you since you told him you like him. So now he is nervous (pulling in his collar) and wants to keep his distance (handshake).

You sound like you fancy him and the feelings are ot mutual. He is married anyway so why are you even giving this any thought?

**"I hope you enjoy the warm weather such as yourself." But then he quickly fixed by saying "such as today."

That sentence doesn’t make sense even before he supposedly garbled it. What was he trying to say? Who speaks like that? Sorry op I’m not buying it. I’m calling bullshit.

If by some miracle this post is genuine then I’d suggest you take a step back from this man. You’re both playing with fire. You know he’s married so trying to analyse his every word and gesture, desperately looking for clues that he fancies you is pathetic.

In answer to your original question however, there is absolutely nothing going on with your co-worker unless you want it to and I suspect you do.

Oh god you've posted about this before haven't you op?

I really think you need to leave this man alone and accept he's not interested.

I'm cracking up at these responses. So funny. OP dont give it anymore headspace. You are embarrassing yourself.

You really fancy him. Initially, he thought you were a mate, hence the hugging, but now he's realised you really fancy him and you make him nervous, hence the twitching and so on. The handshake is him pulling away from you.

He doesn't own a rabbit, does he?

He's married work colleague FFS.

Hugging him and making mooney puppy-dog eyes at him at work is very inappropriate and unprofessional. And all the 'I like you, I like you tooooo' bollocks.

You sound about 14 to be honest and totally self-absorbed. Back off and let him get on with being married.

Omg I hope you're 17...I really truly hope you're not older than 17

Oops first time I've had a message withdrawn

After reading your description of his behaviour when in your company I think the poor chap feels desperately awkward around you as you are clearly infatuated with him and he doesn't feel the same way about you!
Leave him alone, stop hoping for more, he doesn't sound interested in you in that way at all.

Congrats cuppa I remember my first one ( think I've only had two or three ever ) and after the initial shock wore off i realised I felt like a "proper" MNer.....

Feeling a bit left out here. Don't think I've ever trembled. Is it nice?
Any advice on how I should go about it?

Stop trying to have an affair with this man, it makes you a nasty person.

Were you prom queen at school last year?

@Lefty1 That photo made me choke on my lunch!

smiling really big while he said it

how fucking old are you? 8?

Yeah I'm sensing the OP is on the younger side of life here, how old are you OP?

I think you guys are being a bit cruel here...if he was single everyone would be egging her on.

Just because he's taken doesn't mean it's not happening.