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Samsung Secure Folder

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 14:20

Hello MN I need some advice.
I was going through my husband phone, looking at pictures on his gallery (with his permission). Then I pressed the recent app, something came up as secure folder, I couldn't get into it as it needed a pin to go in. I asked him about it and denied installing it and said that it came with the Samsung phone. I insisted and then he tried a few pins which he says he uses and said it was not working. He later said to me that he managed to unlock it and gave me access t o eh secure folder. I didn't even bother looking as I am thinking, if there was anything incriminating, then he would have deleted it before giving me the phone.
Should I be worried? does anyone know anything about secure folders?
Thanks

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 23:18

Found a single pic, date was Friday... must have forgotten to delete it. I am devastated ..feels like my whole world has crumbled around me.

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shakeitofff · 28/05/2019 23:21

@stupidorparanoid

What pic is it? I'm so sorry I just came on here to say that the Samsung hidden folders can only hide pictures and files so it's not like you can hide txt messages or phone calls meaning it's unlikely that he's txting other women,
Just saw your comment so guessing a picture you have seen points to him doing something

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 23:26

@shakeitoff am sorry didnt give more details. A pic of a female colleague. Sir must have sent it to him when he went out on Friday and that's why the gallery under secure folder was open.
Am guessing there must have been others but it has all been deleted.
Am so heartbroken all I did was cry..couldn't even have a row.

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 23:27

*she not sir!

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Kedgeree · 28/05/2019 23:30

What sort of pic? Normal snapshot or selfie, or something else?

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 23:33

A pic of the woman on a night out, all dressed up and posing. Must have been a club or restaurant.

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shakeitofff · 28/05/2019 23:33

@stupidorparanoid

Do you know who the colleague is? Does he have her number? It could be innocent but I would check his messages nd call lists
Check WhatsApp archive
If there's something going on surely they'd have each other's numbers

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 23:38

Yeah I know of her..last year on December I found out they were texting... flirty not overly but not completely innocent. I told him I didnt think it was appropriate and he apologised and said he didnt think it was wrong as theres nothing going on but he can see where am coming g from so he will stop. After that I wasnt given any reason to doubt that..her number was deleted. And now this

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shakeitofff · 28/05/2019 23:43

@stupidorparanoid
I'm so sorry 😢 I am in exactly the same position with my dp... caught txting a female colleague, nothing happened between them but like you said they weren't innocent txt messages. Now I'm living in a life of paranoia constantly fearing they are still txting and he's hiding messages

I feel your pain completely and can't even advise you as I'm stuck in the same situation. All I can say is just talk to him whatever's in your heart and head just tell him. I did that with my dp literally cried screamed and expressed all my pain and that's when he deleted her number and promised not to talk to her.! However I just don't know what's going on

Does he mention her? Did you know she would be on the night out?

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stupidorparanoid · 28/05/2019 23:49

@shakeitoff I am so sorry that you are going through this. The paranoia since Saturday has been killing me. I've spent hours researching secure folder etc..
I dont know what to do. I will take some time and think.
What does your DP say about your situation. Mine saying am creating problems ... sending you hugs xx

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TooOldForThis67 · 29/05/2019 00:39

Sorry OP but Secure Folder is a pre set App but you have to set it with your own secure pin. There will be nothing in there unless you put it there otherwise. It's easy to delete posts/pics/etc and change the pin. Its set up for secrecy.

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stupidorparanoid · 29/05/2019 03:39

He's refusing to take any blame. And blaming me for being paranoid etc. I cannot sleep. We are supposed to be going away tomorrow for half term break with DC. Still wide awake thinking what to do.

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MsDogLady · 29/05/2019 04:17

OP, I am sorry for your pain.

Why would your H need to exchange flirty, inappropriate texts with this OW, receive & secretly keep her photos, and act dodgy about his secure folder?

He is making a mockery of you and treating you with contempt. How dare he accuse you of creating problems when he broke his word to cease personal contact with OW. Lying about the folder/pin added insult to injury.

He is up to no good with this woman. Do not allow him to manipulate and deflect blame to you by accusing you of being unreasonable, paranoid, etc.

I would tell him to leave as a consequence. You need time and space to process all of this.

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stupidorparanoid · 29/05/2019 04:55

@Msdoglady
Thanks for your response. I feel numb. He's in spare room. He is refusing to talk about it and getting angry (swearing but no violence)

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Frownette · 29/05/2019 05:21

Have you managed to get any sleep at all? Sorry you're going through this, he has an obligation to talk to you

MsDogLady · 29/05/2019 05:33

Stonewalling, anger and defensiveness speak volumes. He is using that to make you shut up and back off. It sounds like he is enraged at being caught. If my husband behaved this way in the face of evidence, I would know that he’d been up to something.

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stupidorparanoid · 29/05/2019 05:51

@frownette didnt sleep a wink.
@msdoglady deep down in my heart i know that something is wrong

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MsDogLady · 29/05/2019 05:59

I’m really sorry that you’re going through this torment.

Absoluteunit · 29/05/2019 06:58

So sorry OP. I too came on to say I have a new S9 and when I just tried it I have to set up a secure folder Flowers

hungryfortheinvisible · 29/05/2019 07:22

What reason has he given for that photo being in the secure folder?

I'm sorry you're going through this.

VirtuallyConfused · 29/05/2019 07:22

The folder can also have versions of apps, so a version of WhatsApp etc with different contacts, separate calender etc.

Needs to be set up tho and can be renamed so hard to spot.

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stupidorparanoid · 29/05/2019 07:31

@hungryfortheinvisible
The most ridiculous reason- he had that ages ago and his phone must have back up this photo there! (Now hes treating me like am stupid)
@virtuallyconfused there was no what's app just email notes contacts but all empty except for that one pic. He must have cleared everything and somehow forgot that one pic. It wasnt in gallery but Internal storage something

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NomDeQwerty · 29/05/2019 07:41

There are so many ways of disguising dodgy behaviour on phones that you'd drive yourself mad searching. You know he's being dishonest. He's stepped over the line before with no serious consequences to himself. Your peace of mind is ruined. His current behaviour speaks volumes.

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stupidorparanoid · 29/05/2019 07:57

@nomdequerty all night I've been on Google trying to find out about things. You are right, all it does is give me more questions/doubt/ suspicions than answers.

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Peppapigisdrivingmecrazy · 29/05/2019 07:58

I have been exactly where you are and I feel your pain. If you go into the secure folder then go into the gallery app on the top right hand corner is 3 little dots.press this and a drop down will appear and with it the recycling bin all pictures deleted will be stored for 15 days before they're gone forever unless it's been emptied. Sending hugs