What's the most rude/insulting/insensitive thing a competitive friend or aquaintance has said to you?

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I know it isn't good form to start a second thread on same topic...but after my "competitive friend" thread I thought this one might be interesting...

I covered a few of my friend's comments in the other thread but the worst was probably the one about "thank god im not stuck in a tiny flat"... knowing full well I was still living in one!

a lighthearted thread :)

"You're boyfriend is actually quite good looking, but don't worry he's too short for me"

Bloke at work said to me, “You’re not that bad-looking for a middle aged woman” (It’s now a catchphrase that’s repeated at least once a day.)

And my mother has a habit of being brutally honest. A few years ago, I was wondering whether to enter a massive, important (like being on tv important) novel writing competition. My mum said, “Go on — you can’t be any worse that anybody else who enters.” Um...thanks? I had the last laugh that time though. And I got TWO KISSES off Philip Schofield — suck on THAT Mommy Dearest 😏

At a surprise party I threw years back for lovely mum, my uncle arrived and greeted my boyfriend and I with "Bloody hell you've put on weight. Hello ginge"

I had recently overcome a particularly bad phase of anorexia and my boyfriend at the time was the nicest guy and had been bullied at school for having red hair.

The joys of a massive Irish family - no holds barred - they never mean any harm there's just NO filter! I love them really even if they are feckin eejits

Oh and I was about 8 stone then, as I say - eejits!

My old best friend was the classic jellyfish dropper. Mostly it was too funny to take to heart. My all time fave was when she rang me in great excitement and said 'Morris! Are you home? I've been invited to a bad taste party and I'm coming to raid your wardrobe!'

I laughed for days over that gem. Tbf, I did have piles of weird retro disco wear but still. It's the way she said it.

Sorry Ginge, I'm Irish too and while we live for banter, that's not it. It wasn't an Irish thing, he was a prick. Hope you are doing better.

A colleague once asked if I'd ever considered having a makeover. I said no and she asked why not, so I told her that I wasn't unhappy with the way I looked. Cue head tilt and "aren't you? Really?"

Sorry if any offence re us Irish there @SnipSnipMrBurgess - he genuinely thought he was being positive about me getting better and everyone in our family has nicknames so think he thought ginge was an icebreaker / affectionate / the craic, he just doesn't seem to be able to read a room at all!

oooh so many:
In hospital having been diagnosed with leukaemia - aunt comes into my room wagging her finger in my face, laughing, ‘I told you not eating meat was bad for you, I was right, haha’

• ‘friend’ comes to visit after chemo and says ‘what a shame it’s made you so bloated and ruined your figure. And ugh why do you have lines under your eyes’. I had almost died 2 days before.

Same friend a few years later had just moved
in with her much older, much richer new boyfriend and was having a party. I was invited to stay over but would have to sleep on the floor in the conservatory as all the bedrooms were reserved for the real guests, bring my own bedding, not go to sleep until everyone else had retired for the night and make sure I was up early the next morning so they could all have breakfast in the conservatory without having to step over me.
At that stage I was the only person who had said yes to her invite.
I decided I was plaiting my toe hair that night and never spoke to her again.

From an ex-colleague. Not a friend!

"My boyfriend saw you on Sunday, he said you looked a right state. How can you leave the house without make up?" (I was hungover and going to the shop)

"How do you feel feminine when you don't wear high heels?"

"I think it's terrible your mum was allowed to have you when she was a teenager"

With 12 years of wisdom behind me, I can now confidently say that those all said far more about her than they did about me

I've had no contact with my mother for almost 20 years now. My Dad died last year suddenly and my father in law said to me the day he died " Well your practically an orphan now aren't you hahahah"... err yeh cheersTo be fair he is a lovely lovely father in law normally

Gahhh *you're not your

A friend (supposedly) once said to me that if I was to go on big brother I would be "voted out straight away because the public would probably think you're a bit cold, and a bit of a bitch".

How rude.

Colleague - we were discussing World Book day ideas for the dept and decided on Harry Potter. She declared she would be best as Hermione and I should come as Snape.

Ex friend telling her DD I went to our local grammar school (so 30 years ago now) but that I only got in because it was easier to get in back then. Not sure how that explains that she didn't get in?! Ridiculous to be bothered about something like which school I went to 30 years ago...

Just remembered someone told me I'd be good on The Apptentice. So basically called me a cunt based on previous series - not a compliment!

To lighten the tone slightly....

On a birthday, a much younger colleague asked how old I was, I told her, cue...

“I knew you were older than me, but I didn’t know you were THAT old.”

She promptly turned bright red and gibbered for minutes. I decided it was a (backhanded/ hamfisted) compliment - we stayed friends.

Desperately trying to give me a compliment she said "you've got really nice......... hair. "

After having a miscarriage and finding out I was pregnant again she said "try and not get too excited..."

At Uni, the girl I considered my best friend knew about my family situation. Domestic abuse, my mum had operations to deal with the results.

Anyway friend was bemoaning not having a boyfriend/possibly never getting married (at 21!!!). I said sometimes being married is not all it is cracked up to be- look at my family.

'But at least someone wanted to marry your mother' (even if he did then batter her and hospitalize her).

And another one before I finally dumped her. "I am so much prettier than you- why is it all the boys flock to you?'.
(she married an arse sadly)

When I was pregnant with my son and in the heavy uncomfortable phase about 8.5 months in I somehow ended up shopping in mothercare with my MIL. .. who followed me around the shop saying "I'd put that back if I were you, you don't know how big this baby is going to be yet"

I was holding "New Baby" clothes 10.5lbs. DS was an 8.5lb baby when he was finally born, the way she talked was if I was giving birth to a toddler.

Last year I worked really hard to lose around 4 stone.... And she has never ONCE commented on how different I looked.

Not that it matters anymore anyway as she is not my MIL anymore but it has always stuck with me how horrible and vicious she was about my weight!

Was shopping with a friend, we both admired a dress and I decided to try it on. When I emerged from the changing room, friend’s face dropped and she said “ It is amazing that even the nicest outfit can look slutty when you have huge breasts”.

My mother. She had often told me the story of the birth weights of her three children (I was #2). That’s because the doctor and the midwife both said her third would be small, certainly smaller than her first two. But she knew better. And lo, her birth weights were 8-2, 8-4, 8-6, so she was right and the experts were wrong. She delighted in that.

I casually mentioned that at 8-4, my second was the same weight as her second. But seemingly no, all her babies were, and always had been, 9-pounders.

Apparently, birth weights were a competition, and she had to win. Even by lying.

Bloody hell, these are horrible. I'm so sorry to about the 6 year old being told by the b*tch that was her SM that her mum died because of her 😭 my sisters visited us when we'd bought our own place in an expensive city. One sister looked at the decor and clearly impressed, said "this has to be Alex's (DH) idea" when I said "nope, all mine" the other sister said "wow, I didn't think you had it in you". Both have been horrible to me for most of my life- very hot and cold. I don't talk to one at all and the other I'm LC with as they're both quite toxic.

"You look fantastic for your age" - I was 25. Lol

"Friends" are highly overrated.