What's the most rude/insulting/insensitive thing a competitive friend or aquaintance has said to you?

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I know it isn't good form to start a second thread on same topic...but after my "competitive friend" thread I thought this one might be interesting...

I covered a few of my friend's comments in the other thread but the worst was probably the one about "thank god im not stuck in a tiny flat"... knowing full well I was still living in one!

a lighthearted thread :)

This came from my family (not immediate) but all of them always judging my career choice and putting me down over it saying I’d never find a job and be poor forever and I should switch to whatever other degree that x person was doing.

Now that I’ve finished and got a good job abroad, they all want pictures of what I’m doing as it’s on the field. They all want to visit me and they all absolutely adore my career and text me all the time saying how proud of me they are....

I tried on a dress in a shop that she said would be too small for me, and it fitted perfectly- "oh, you're not as fat as you look"!

I had a so called friend tell me that after I had visited her salon where she worked, that the other girls had commented to her that they didn't get what all the fuss was about me, that I wasn't that good looking...

I honestly didn't know what to say to her, my first thought was, what sort of friend even if they had said that, says it back to you? All I could say was who told them I was or t hought I was good looking? Needless to say I don't have anything to do with her or the salon gals anymore , pure and utter bitchiness

"I WANT to say that if you lost even more weight you'd be really attractive"

"But actually I don't think that's true. I think you'd just look older and everything would sag down"

"So in conclusion I think you're better off a bit fat. So you don't get ugly"

The nastiest thing my step mother ever said was to tell my little sister (approximately 5-6 years old at the time) that our mum wouldn't have died if she hadn't been pregnant with her. 'And therefore, you know, it's largely your fault your mum died.' In case my sister had missed the point. Also totally untrue. Our mum had cancer and this was only discovered 3 days before she died. Entirely NOT my sister's fault. (And even if it had been, still not something you say)

Zesty, omg. What a wicked thing to say to a child. That's bloody disgusting. Did your sister remember that?

I told my friend that I was pregnant with my 3rd child and she looked at me in horror and silence. Finally she said "well I suppose this child could grow up to do something significant and there would be a reason for them to exist." She then deleted me off Facebook and I've never heard from her since. It was the most bizarre thing that has ever happened to me.

I have an acquaintance who I was / am really fond of but I said something terrible to her and was then so embarrassed I didn't know how to salvage it, I didn't know her well enough yet and was post partum myself and my brain didn't work. If you're out there Rose, I am so sorry! It would have sounded like something bitchy/competitive...

This is what I said, she had just given birth days before and I went to visit her, she opened the front door and I was stunned by how absolutely beautiful she looked. Her waist was tiny! And instead of saying, "your waist is tiny", I somehow managed to come out with, "you look so lovely and curvy". !!!!! What I meant was, jesus, you are nipped in in the middle and look amazing, i.e., there is a beautiful curve from boobs to waist to hip. But of course. What it sounded like was, you're so fat!

AAAARGH
I apologised and tried to explain but I know it didn't work. I could see it in her face.

I continue to hate myself over that years later.
She was and is a gorgeous woman and I am a knob.

Colleague said to me today - because I biked home - 'if you keep biking you'll vanish'. Because I'm in good shape & don't let myself go lol.

“You know you’re only a 10 because you’re short, you’d be a 12 if you were normal height”. When I was in the weight regain phase of eating disorder treatment (and really hating the fact I needed to buy bigger clothes for my changing body). And I’m 5’5”.

Well this will out me to family, but my dad once raised a toast at a big family gathering and toasted how 'marvellously fertile' our family are, naming and praising Dsis and DBro and their spouses and kids. DH and I were going through IVF at the time and failing. He did it on purpose because he is a horrible horrible man. We both still wish we'd walked out and never come back. That would have saved me years of grief. But I was too young and manipulated by him at the time.

I've had the usual "if you lost weight...,," comments, including ones about how my lack of wrinkles for relatively advanced years is down to my chubby cheeks 😂
Best comeback is that losing weight would be easy if I was so minded, you having a personality transplant probably less so 😂

On a different theme ..... showing friends round my new house after living in a wee flat, brand new, bought it on my own (well, me and the bank) ..... and the best they could come up with was "why would you buy a 3-bed house that doesn't have an en-suite? The master bedroom is too big, it should have an en-suite". No "lovely new house, hope you'll be happy" 🙄

My step grandmother ( hate calling her that, as she was a first class cow)
I had just had 2nd DS ( he was 2 weeks old and I had a toddler as well)
She asked
"how are you was feeling? "

I replied "I was tired" ( of course I was) she replied
"That will be all that extra weight you are carrying " .
She was a nasty spiteful bitch . When she died, my step dad was not upset at all( he was adopted and had a fucking awful childhood with the bitch )
He inherited a bit of money and took us all on a fantastic holiday - she would of hated that 😂😂

Not sure why I'm reminded of my SiL (who to be fair is pretty and clever. Bitch) telling me that some chap at a party hadn't talked much to her because: "He must have thought I was too beautiful to have much of a brain".
Ahh... Those days before we knew what humble bragging was.

A friend's wife has dealt me a couple of stingers. When I told her once that I'd been given a year of monthly facials as a present, she eyed me and said, "Do you think that will be enough?".
Another time I was delighted to find a, to me, gorgeous dress in a cheap shop, she said, "You know, I think you're at the age when you need to spend a little more on your clothes".

A colleague approached me and told me how nice my hair had looked before my haircut.

"You know, adopted kids are not the same as having your own child, not "real" family"

Said to me by my sister, I am adopted, she is a cunt.

Friend of mine told a mutual friend I had a face like a slapped arse but I was ok really... A mum at school who I’d known vaguely for a couple of years suddenly started having a go at me one day for no reason at all, telling me how the other parents don’t like me and never have, and how I was dragged up as a child, and now apparently I’m dragging my own child up, which isn’t true at all. No one at that school knows anything about me or my background, so that was a strange one which still puzzles me to this day.

@Pancakes

Yes, sadly she does It's one of her most vivid early memories.

She's in her thirties now and knows full well it's a) not true and b) was said purely to be nasty.

I was five months pregnant with my first DD after two miscarriages, when DBro and SIL announced their pregnancy at large family gathering saying “We’ve got a bun in the oven first time round!” Absolutely no consideration of mine or DH’s feelings.
This is also DBro who said after my first miscarriage “oh good, you won’t miss my wedding now” because that had coincided with the due date and was abroad.
We are now v low contact. Unsuprisingly. Not the only classics he has come out with over the years.

A friends child is a few days older than my own and when they were younger her child was naturally meeting milestones quicker than mine. Mine wasn’t behind and is perfectly healthy. Which she knew.
But she would ask if my child could XYZ and when I say no, she would head tilt and say ‘don’t worry, he’ll get there’.
Fuck off.

can't believe some of these!

also the ones where people aren't sure why or where the comment came from...it is so strange isn't it! makes me wonder if I have said things and not realised how it has come across, seeing as they seem to be so deluded about it!

That I needed to do a parenting course. Where this lady had moved her child several times to different schools. So I'm not sure I was the one needing to do it...

honestly cant believe some of these

When I said something witty (even if I do say So) to my sister "Did you read that somewhere?"

When I moved into a beautiful, home that I could have only dreamed of a kid. Mum came to visit, looked out of the window to the larger, and infinitely more expensive house across the street and said sniffily"so you couldn't afford that one then".

I still bring those up when I'm feeling a bit minxy!

So many. "You'd almost be pretty of you grew your hair"
My friend described me as her "middle aged mum friend". I'm 33.
After I had a hair cut "are you wearing red lipstick so you don't look butch?"
I lent my friend some clothes for her Holiday, she text me with "there's no way they fit you, I couldn't get any of them done up, do you want me to bin them?" NO, cheeky cow they were all clothes that were actually a bit big on me but if wear messing round with the kids!