What's the most rude/insulting/insensitive thing a competitive friend or aquaintance has said to you?

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I know it isn't good form to start a second thread on same topic...but after my "competitive friend" thread I thought this one might be interesting...

I covered a few of my friend's comments in the other thread but the worst was probably the one about "thank god im not stuck in a tiny flat"... knowing full well I was still living in one!

a lighthearted thread :)

After losing DD at 20ish weeks, SIL called to give DH a bollocking as to why I didn't want to attend a family party two days later, surrounded by small children and new babies.

Announcing my pregnancy with DS, MIL said 'best not get too excited'. No congratulations and just ignored me for another five months. We'd had several loses before, but it really got to me.

Former friend: "How come you don't have any wrinkles? You must have had an easy life". Then in REALLY nasty tone: "BITCH!!!" Needless to say that friendship came to a rapid end, especially after she tried to blame me for something that was entirely her fault, but she was trying to get out of a court case and would have used anyone to avoid it.

Another "friend", who I only now am realising is only ever around when she needs something, help with something, or needs company to go on walks with and is NEVER there for me when I am sick, have problems etc. (have had flu recently and have been practically bed ridden with it and not ONCE has she asked do I need anything - despite having a car and living a 10 minute drive away - and friends without cars have offered to help....), also seems to be very catty and envious, I think it's because she is overweight, and occasionally she will comment on how slim I am and say "BITCH". It also seems to be delivered in such a nasty, jealous way too, not like a joke.

I just realised I've been called a bitch by two supposed friends. You find out who your real friends are!

I can't believe some of these!

Growing up my mother came out with all the gems - from telling me I'd look better in dresses if I was thinner (never wore a dress again until I was in my mid twenties!) to telling me how when she saw other girls at weddings etc she wished her daughter would look like them.

In my 20s I moved abroad for a while, got into a good routine and lost some weight, she came to see me and I refused to tell her about the weight loss. My friend said to her "have you seen how much weight iwantanewusername has lost" mum spun on her heel, looked at me and said "have you seen how much weight I have lost?!" My friend's face was a picture - she was so shocked whereas I was expecting it.

When my ex and I bought a big house (in comparison to the rest of my family), DB and SIL came to see it, now SIL does not like me at all but even she managed to be polite, DB on the other hand kept pointing out flaws in the paintwork etc. No congratulations etc, nothing nice.

Years ago I used to work with a girl who was useless at the job but had the right face/personality to get ahead and she decided to just drop me as a friend after a couple of years of being really close. She got in touch when I was leaving and we were civil, both got engaged and suddenly everything became a competition, how much she was spending on her outfits, how much her henna was going to cost, how I was 'lucky' I only had to find one outfit etc. It was so surreal, even our mutual friend's death was used to garner sympathy (I was lucky our friend was there for my civil wedding but died before my Indian one)!

Two things of mine come to mind. First one was years ago my DH came to collect me from work due to my car conking out and the next day a colleague said ' He's good looking for you isn't he' 😮
The second one was a friend who was moaning about her husband being sex mad. She came out with ' He would shag a dog in the middle of the road if it cocked it's leg up.... even you!' 😮
I mean, I might not be the best looking woman in the world, but even so.....

Ex friend commented about my husband to be, 'well some people go for the plain ones, don't they?'

Then another friend got her back by saying, 'I've got the same blouse as you. I have to say, it does look better on a fuller figure....'

These are all so sad ☹️
A friend of mine, knowing full well that my relationship with my adult DD was very strained due to her refusal to talk to or visit me for about 6 months (still have no idea why several years later ☹️) talked constantly about her wonderful relationship with her DD of the same age. All the wonderful shopping trips they went on and how they spoke every day on the phone. When I said I wish I could do that she said I was lucky as her DD was always wanting something from her and I should be happy about it. Bitch ☹️

My Mum has come out with some choice ones too.

Fairly recently she nagged me over and over that long hair looked bad on me, I am too old for it, middle aged women should have short hair. I got a cool pixie cut, I had been thinking of going for it for some time, and she initially loved it... then began complaining about it, the colour I chose, the style..... now it's getting longer she keeps saying "thank God your hair is longer, you had such lovely long hair". WTH????

Another one.. standing waiting at the bus stop to go for a day out, I put my leg up to tie my shoe lace. I was wearing shorts that showed off my suntanned legs. She said.. in front of several other people: "Lovely legs..... JUST like a man's". Two elderly people in the bus stop looked at me as if to say "you poor thing".

I had to walk with a stick for several weeks a couple of years back after a virus left me dizzy and my sight was also affected. It was only temporary thank goodness. My parents had to care for me though, as I was bedridden for a wee while. My first time out of the house for a little walk, with my stick, my Mum said "Don't use it when you walk past the neighbour's house. Best not let them see you actually" Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaattttttt????????????

When I was much younger, I had a flatmate who was competitive over men.
She once slept with a guy I was into and then knocked on my bedroom door the next morning to ask if she could borrow the price of the morning after pill.

Mum's bizarre comments again - I was dating a guy way back who was a bit younger than me. My Mum was curious about him so we all met up for lunch. I think he was nervous and kept looking around the pub all the time, maybe he felt scrutinised. Afterwards she said "Mmmm, I don't like him much, he was on the lookout for another woman all the time we were together". Then later on she said "Well if he told you he liked your legs, he's a LIAR"

A woman i work was asking me what my dds done at the weekend. I said dd1 stayed at her bfs, she said oh I didn't think you where that kind of mother, I was totally speechless as her own son had got his ex gf pregnant at 14. Like wtf is she judging me for. My dd sleeps on the sofa and his family are in the house.
I made no comment to her as she is the bosses sister.

My dd has severe anxiety which has really marred her teenage years. My close friends know this.
On my birthday last year one friend actually said. I bet the school can’t wait to see the back of her.
I called her out and she did it again in the next sentence!

Jools omg all of that is awful! It did remind me of the time my mum suggested that my bf (now exH) was bribing me to be with him by taking me on nice holidays...as if I was that shallow.

ihatethecold that is unforgivable, your poor DD.

A few from the "boyfriend":

"You should be lucky that someone loves you at your age"

"I know every grey hair on your head"

I have a very sedentary occupation. "You need to make sure you don't get a fat arse"

After being in an abusive relationship, I ended up back on mother's sofa for a while, confused, broken and in need of some support.
Me - "I just don't get why me, why he chose me, what did I do?"
Mother - "Well, he was very good looking for you"

This was the ultimate really, she's said things like "I didn't think you could get good looking men like that"

Then states she doesn't know why I lack self confidence.

Asked a sporty friend if she wanted to join me in a sponsored 10k, cue patronising laughter “oh bless! A 10k, haha no, as IF anyone would sponsor that”

It was a big deal for me

I sent a close friend a ta-dah picture of my hand with my brand new engagement ring on it after DH proposed.
I got a congratulations text followed closely by a second text telling me I really needed a manicure as my nails were a mess.
Stupidly I had her as a bridesmaid, roll on 2 years, masses of self esteem gained due to amazing DH and can safely say she’s no longer part of our lives because of comments like that

2 weeks after my first wedding I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. Told close family straight away. Miscarried a few days later. My 'D'M told my sister she was glad I lost the baby as she didn't want the embarrassment of explaining to people that I was pregnant before the wedding.

I'm now NC for reasons far worse than that!

I met a friend from school who I hadn’t seen in a while. It had just been announced on TV that the place I worked was closing and I would be loosing my job. Her words to me were Oh, you’ll have to sell that big house you’re living in.

Not a friend but MIL.

"I could never leave my child at a childminder all day like that. I'd miss them too much." (When I had to go back to work and get childcare)

"The nurses in the hospital said how good my newborn was because he was sleeping through for 12 hours" (when I was sleep deprived with a one week old)

To name but a few.....

Grieving after my 1st miscarriage.

We were renovating our house.

Dh’s friend visited and looked around the living room and commented:

“It’s not a bad thing you lost it, you couldn’t bring a kid up in this”.

Ooh forgot, same friend, (who’s mum did all her childcare), when I was taking about DC going to nursery when I went back to work asked me if I “wasn’t worried she’d be abused”. Time of a few nursery nurse scandals but a bloody awful comment

'You're so lucky you have a boyfriend, you don't need to make an effort'

Whilst out in a bar with boyfriend and his mates

Disclaimer - I had made an effort

My best friend to me when we were about 18: "People say you look like your dad, but I don't think you do, because he's dead skinny."

This was kind of true - I look like my dad facially but have a much more solid build (and anyway he'd look silly with a pair of 32H's on his frontage). But she could have phrased it better.

We are still friends but possibly because she lives quite far away now...

A colleague at a conference - I was eating a yoghurt with some berries on, and she mentioned how nice it looked and she wished that she was like me, and didn't care about her appearance, so that she could have some too.

She was very svelte. At the time, I was a size 12.

And she meant exactly what she said