Your opinion on interracial relationships?

[sweetnsuga123]

Hi everyone,

I have been with my partner for 2 and a half years. I am white and he is black. We are constantly stared at in public, I live in area thats not very multicultural in the North West. We have received many comments shouted at us as well which always shocks me. I thought in today's society people wouldn't act like that.

I'm just wondering what your opinion on interracial relationships are and whether you'd stare in public?

I am not.in an interracial relationship, however, when I have been out with male colleagues or friends that are either white or black, I hear the comments and see that dirty looks I get. Its awful. I know some interracial weddings thats have been stopped by force too.

It still amazes me that people think and behave like that about mixed race relationships.

Although I do have family that live in an area which is not very multi cultural and I am amazed and ashamed of some of their views. I can not believe they are well educated in the traditional meaning of the word but so completely narrow minded and dense in this sort of matter, verging on racist.

I’ve lived in some very multicultural areas and wouldn’t bat an eyelid. My daughter however goes to college in a city not so far from Liverpool and it’s incredibly white. One of her college friends who is mixed race even commented whilst in town recently, oh my god there’s another black person!

@Mortgages just because your experience doesn't reflect the data or the majority of what black women experience doesn't mean the reality doesn't exist.

Fair point Iboogy- a lot of these “studies” are based online dating experience or social media/reality tv like love island and I think if people actually interacted with one another in real life they might have a similar experience as mine.

I'm in one my boyfriend is white and much older than me. We get stared at the most by my own race, especially the males. We are in London

@Mortgages spot on. Black female here too and I have never struggled to get attention from males whatever the race. Not sure where this belief comes from that black females struggle to attract men

It must be tough being such a minority somewhere. It wouldn't even blip on my radar seeing an interracial couple, or any couple, but I live in a very diverse neighbourhood.

I’m mixed race, my children’s dad is black. I am in London and mixed race (usually white women/black men) is very very common here. No one would bat an eyelid so it is your area, can’t say I agree people are fascinated by mixed race children they certainly aren’t in London.

Caucasian men's sperm count has halved over last 40 years.

So called 'interacial relationships' are one way through which human race will continue.

However, 'western men' could well disappear as a racial group over the next few generations.

Designating people by 'race' has always seemed a rather weird way to look at the world though.

People falling in love with who ever they fall in love with always seemed like a thoroughly splendid idea to me.

I couldn't care less and wouldn't even notice it, I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

I've been with dh for almost 20 years, he's black, I'm white and we have two daughters.

We're also in London and I don't think anyone here bat's an eyelid now. I do remember in my teens, probably about 17 and being stared at and spat at once when I was with my boyfriend at the time who was black.

You do see the surprise on people's faces sometimes though when they realise dh is black, it's quite amusing at times!

I was in an Inter racial relstionshipfor 6 years. No problems here ( mids based and it's really common in general ) but loads of problems in his home country. Comments. Shouting abuse and I wS also followed around by the village kids constantly

can’t say I agree people are fascinated by mixed race children they certainly aren’t in London.

Im in London. All I heard through the whole pregnancy was "how cute our baby would be" and since he's been born I get stopped 3/4 times a day to be told that by strangers! There are lots of mixed race babies in the area so not sure why there is a fascination.

That's horrible OP.

It just beggars belief in this day and age.

I've no opinion whatsoever on interracial relationships, I mean I just have nothing. I can't believe people do.

It's fucking depressing.

I'm originally from one of the cities in the North West and I would say it is very multicultural. The smaller surrounding towns are too. As an adult, I never witnessed any discrimination, comments or stares. Multicultural relationships are very common these days. In the early 80s, my mother was in a multicultural relationship and we were definitely targets then.

I now live in East Yorkshire and there are very little multicultural relationships. There are few people from ethnic groups here, though that could be because I now live really. I used to work in a pub to earn extra cash and there were some very disturbing comments about multicultural relationships (though these were from the stereotypical "never left the village they were born in" Yorkshire men).

I would say the North West and Manchester - Liverpool region is much more diverse than its eastern neighbours.

Incognito - I’d agree to a certain extent in places like Liverpool but move slightly away towards places like Chester for example and it’s very different.

I've family members in inter racial relationships who've mainly had issues when visiting rural Uk areas sadly but no-one bats an eyelid in London.

@Mortgages Good luck with your wedding. Black female here married to a black guy (shocking)

Yes and it can put a pressure on the healthiest of relationship.

Due to high percentage of white people in my area (NE Scotland) interracial relationships are relatively uncommon here. However I was in a mixed relationship for three years (I'm white, he was Scottish Asian) and I don't remember a single odd look or comment from anyone. I loved becoming a part of a different culture

redbedheadd people think babies are cute generally so being stopped happens whether your baby is mixed or not

I live in Birmingham with my half Black/White Son. I see racism a lot from people of both sexes and all ages and skin.

Tbh it doesn't catch my eye, as fairly common where I am.

Couples that do catch my eye for being different are very big age gaps and also very different physical differences, for example I saw a tiny woman with a very very tall man. I would never stare of course (or make a comment!) but i did a double take as it was unusual.

I'm am very sorry to hear you've had bad experiences. I hope some of the looks are only because it is unusual where you are. No excuse for the nasty comments of course.

It's not just relationships. I used to go running with a black girl and an Indian girl in London (I am white);we got racist abuse from all sides. My cousins are mixed race and people state at us together, unable to grasp why a white women and an Indian man are walking down the street. I find London aggressively racist and rural areas confused racist.