My bf of a few months was hoovered by his ex

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

So I had to leave. I'd only been with him a few months. We are both over 50 and seemed to get on so well. I liked him a lot, but long story short, is that she sent him a message and within 2 sentences he said he thought if her everyday and that he loved her.

He showed me the conversation. I didn't snoop. But once I read what he said to her I took my things and left. I didn't say anything or look at him. There was no drama, no flouncing, no slamming doors. I just left.

I'm not sure why I'm posting but I do know I'm sad about it.

Nothavingfun I wasn’t ‘good enough’ for him. It was a sinking feeling when I realised. I had an ordinary job, he earned hundreds of thousands. He wanted somebody in the same league.

He sounds like a fucking arrogant arse, especially considering he was emailing you while with another and then intermittently contacting you. You're well rid.

I guess so but I often think of him.

A while ago he emailed me to say he had bought a new house and wanted to send me photos of it. I can’t help envying the lifestyle hie and his girlfriend and now child have. I don’t envy his complete lack of loyalty although she knows what he is like and is happy with it. I presume she is in ‘his league’ and can walk away at any time. If I had been with him, I’d have left with nothing and would have been heartbroken by him. Again.

A while ago he emailed me to say he had bought a new house and wanted to send me photos of it

Given your previous post Slipper that's one of the most horrible things I've ever read on here. What a vile, nasty piece of work. Look at the message he's really sending you - you weren't up to scratch, if you had been this is what you would be living in now.

Who the hell does that to another person? I'd block him from everything and work on blocking him from your mind. Better to live in a cardboard box with a prince than the castle with the monster.

Hope his knob rots and drops off.

Oh, Slipper, that's awful! Please block him. He is evil. Block him and if he creeps through tell him to stop contacting you. No contact really is the only way you'll heal. He's a nasty, soulless serpent. I'd bet my bottom dollar he has dead eyes.

Idkw hoovering means 😳

I've tried to explain it in my posts

Idkw hoovering means

Hoovering is when someone returns after a period of time to try to suck you back into their realm. It could be that they are looking for confirmation that the person who left left or who they left, still has feelings for them and can feed their ego.

I'd bet my bottom dollar he has dead eyes.

Sadly that isn’t true. He was
(presumably still is) very attractive with the loveliest smile and eyes that creased up when he smiled.

I admire you a lot OP.!

There's no need to admire me. I'm currently cruising online, cougar style, for some ego boosting 😁

You've behaved with dignity and self respect. I wish more women did the same.

Good luck with your cruising

Wish you were my friend op so I can learn from you.

There's no need to admire me. I'm currently cruising online, cougar style, for some ego boosting 😁

Love your attitude hope you have lots of fun xx

Well done you

MNHQ should flag up the OP's thread as an example of good practice in self love and self respect.

Thank you, joystir59.

@Nothavingfunrightnow You're so fucking ace!

You came on here with a problem, dealt with the problem with dignity and now you're supporting other posters with love and kindness!

Absolute legend - thanks for bringing out the best side of Mumsnet

Have you heard from him since you walked out?

thatcurlygirl, that has made me tearful. I'm not ace, but thank you. I'm pretty fucking lonely - no family around, friends thin on the ground. I'm not strong. It's probably that I'm too weak to take on shit!

Not a word, madamedelux. It's been a week and half a day. Not a word.

MNHQ are considering this thread for the Classics section as an example of godd practice in self love and self respect OP.

Hi joystir59

We have a classics section for content like this - we're happy to discuss it at the classics committee!

Best wishes
Lily MNHQ
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So I had to leave. I'd only been with him a few months. We are both over 50 and seemed to get on so well. I liked him a lot, but long story short, is that she sent him a message and within 2 sentences he said he thought if her everyday and that he loved her.He showed me the conversation. I didn't snoop. But once I read what he said to her I took my things and left. I didn't say anything or look at him. There was no drama, no flouncing, no slamming doors. I just left. I'm not sure why I'm posting but I do know I'm sad about it.

joystir59, that's a bit of a mindfuck! Bloody hell. Thank you. MN has helped me with so many things over the years. Your post has opened the flood gates and I gave eventually had a good cry about the whole thing. I'm gutted. I really and truly liked him and I could see long term for us. That's why I had to leave. I had no choice. It was purely out of self preservation that I left.

If my rather dull story helps someone else, then I'm delighted.

Graceful silent exit....nice👍

You pissed all over his chips there op, as he obviously hoping for some sort of reaction.

What a loser 😂