Would you be with someone who says being gay is unnatural?

[joliejoleen]

This man that I've been seeing thinks that being gay is unnatural. He wouldn't go out in the street and protest against gay people or ever attack them. He just thinks that being gay is unnatural and doesn't want his children to grow up thinking being gay is okay because it isn't. Would you ltb?

@Arusedmoose

Why? Are you a bigot as well?

4.5% of the population - if it's based on statistics then it's unnatural to have red hair (2%) and natural to be obese (26% in UK); unnatural to have A negative blood type (2%) and natural to have worms (25%); unnatural to own a hamster (1%) and natural to own a dog (26%).

My ds is gay. The man would be out before he had finished his sentence...

Being gay isn't normal. (4.5% population)

Wtf?

2% of the population are redheads - is that also abnormal?

Don’t conflate uncommon with abnormal.

No I wouldn't.

It is homophobic, no matter what he "thinks".

And don't worry a toss about whether he thinks you're "reasonable" to dump him or not :o WTF business is it of his? You don't owe him a relationship. You could dump him because you didn't like his socks if you wanted to.

@BIWI I just don’t care enough about the issue for me to be bothered either way what my boyfriend thinks

I would most definitely end the relationship there and then

Being gay is normal for the percentage of the population who are gay.

No, I absolutely couldn't be with a partner who thought that way.

I have always said that I accept my children for whoever they are, and whatever orientation. So does my DH.

Are you already married to this man? What are you going to do if any children you have turn out to be gay, lesbian, trans etc. and he either refuses to accept them or comes out with some homophobic shit on a regular basis?

That would be a dealbreaker for me as it is so opposite to my own views and values. If you had children with him would you be happy with him passing those opinions on?

I just don’t care enough about the issue

So yes then.

No way could I stay with someone who believed that. I'd wonder what other nasty stuff they believed.

@TinselAndKnickers well his opinion doesn’t impact me does it? There are plenty of things we disagree on but it’s not like we discuss those things constantly

People who are accepting of homophobia are no different to those who are accepting of racism, sexism or nationalism.

I would have been out the door like a whippet 😡

No, I couldn't be with that person. And to pass on that attitude to kids is disgusting. And horrifying if they turn out to be gay but cannot come out to the person who is meant to love them unconditionally.

Fuck no. I don’t associate with bigots.

Without question I couldn't be with someone with that view.

Nope and would have no interest in hearing his reasons either.

@Arusedmoose

Tolerating his views makes you complicit in homophobia IMO 🙄

No! My db is gay, I can't even be friends with bigots

No because he’s both bigoted and ignorant. Homosexuality occurs across the animal kingdom so is clearly natural.

His denial of scientific fact comes from a position of bigotry and judgement. Plus it makes him look stupid. Not attractive qualities

@MyBlueMoonbeam ok well, that’s not anything to me tbh. It’s not like I’m going to dump my boyfriend based on one opinion that is irrelevant to our lives together

@Arusedmoose

It becomes very relevant if you decide to procreate

The likelihood of having a gay child is pretty slim though isn’t it? Baring in mind how much of the population is gay