Mixed bag of responses!
The 43 year old hasn’t bought a house before. At the moment he is living with his parents as rent is expensive. As far as I’m aware he doesn’t have any friends locally and doesn’t know the neighbours. Sex is okay but he lasts only 30 seconds without a condom. When he is done then we just go for a shower separately and that’s it!
The first one might be good but my brain is telling me not to rely on sexual chemistry. We did fancy each other was soon as we laid eyes on each other though. We see each other few times a week through a hobby and he seems to always come up to me. He’s asked me to go out with him for dinner and drinks about 5 times this month and he texts me almost every day.
My mum is adamant that I date the second guy because she thinks he will look after me (like a kid). She thinks it is awesome that he is mature and not a player. She isn’t supportive of me dating around. She said if I did date around I would be ‘loose’, ‘player’,’you’re just in it for the sex’, and warns me that ‘they’ll cheat on you’. Just for the record I’ve only had 3 long term relationships.
She wants me to take a chance on 2 and marry him. She said that marriage is a gamble. Try it out for a few years. If it doesn’t work just get divorced. I’m getting a bit too old not to be married.
Trying not to listen to her advice! That sounds why I am here!! I do find dating apps daunting though and don’t wish to use them.