The next stage of my life WILL be better...

[Dumbledior]

New thread for me to moan...

wow dior so much has happened

excellent news that you went to the sol and are now getting mentally ready to take the next step

I think that move, combined with the weight loss, seems to have given you a real boost and you can tell.
Sounds like the barber may have a crush back. Certainly a few signs there. Obviously you don't yet know if he has a partner or not, but even if he does, there is no harm in knowing that he finds you attractive back. Enjoy the moment and enjoy the crush. You just never know...

keep up the good work! xx

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definitely sounds like he was acting cool when he obviously had seen you in the car, but then just did a bit of a nonchalent wave when you waved

but things like when your eyes meet and it's for more than a split second, that sort of thing generally doesn't happen unless people want it too. i know i don't maintain eye contact for more than a second unless i am staring at someone because i find them attractive
(other than friends/family of course)

i just get the feeling that he is attracted back. even if he is attached, just knowing that is a good start. it all helps to brighten the day

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dior your doing fab hun.i dont think it will be as hard as you think to tell him it's over,you have alreadu emotionally detached yourself from him which IMO is far more harder to do than physical.at the end of the day he has brought it on himself and you are not to blame,and he has mentally abuse you for years.

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It's entirely possible that once the axe falls, so to speak, it could be amazingly anti-climactic. He must be aware that you are working towards this, and he's doing all he can to put off the moment - but once the moment comes, he'll accept it? I'm not putting this very well, but going on the fact that my break up was similarly long drawn out, the actual final decision was a blessed relief for both of us. Although I'd left in my head years before, so emotionally it was very much harder for xp, and I think being aware of that helped me treat him kinder, which hopefully has contributed to the very amicable arrangement we have now.

I know he's a control freak, and will hate you making the decision, but sometimes the waiting in limbo is the worst part and this has dragged on and on for both of you.

On a tangent - I love labradorite, very good supportive crystal for you to be wearing right now!

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Dior, congrats on your weight loss - and enjoy your crush, whether it's real or not. It proves you can look beyond H and see a life without him, which you couldn't a few months ago. It's just a case of sorting out the practicalities and taking the plunge. It WILL be hard, but you can do it.

I'm having a crabby day as dp's become so self-absorbed with this play - he always does panic just before a show starts, worried about not knowing his lines, but this time seems worse than usual and not sleeping well. So now he's sleeping in the spare room cos he says he sleeps better there than with me!!!! After a terrible night last night, when I scarcely slept or had dreams in which I had it out with him, I was scarcely speaking to him this morning. Feeling very , neglected and sorry for myself. I'm trying to look at it from his perspective, but feel a bit like I'm giving and giving and giving and getting very little back. Not the best mood in which to see him off this week and I won't be packing a birthday present into his suitcase. (big virtual pressie will be on its way to you, though .

Pity, it was all going so well until I caught this cold and he discovered the delights of the spare room bed ...

Dior

Please dont take this the wrong way - but what if your H is really now trying to make a huge effort and is just feeling at a loss as to what to do?

I cant say i know your whole story but i have followed your progress and you are definitely stronger of late.

I am not saying you are wrong either just that surely this is not what you want and while i appriciate just how difficult this is for you is this fair on your H either? I feel that if a man were to 'prolong' the ending for whatever reason he would be slated by us.

I am not saying rush into anything either but if this what you truely want then you should go for it and be true to yourself and have faith in yourself.

I hope you dont think this is too harsh - you have helped many of us here and you know you would get tremendous support whatever you do.

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No dont think you are stringing him along and i know how hard you are trying to get through all this. You are being strong though and i hope you can see just how great a person you for being so supportive of us here.

hey Dior, sorry to hear things are still pretty rubbish for you! don't know what to say really

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lol, it seems a bit established.. You are lovely! do you know(?)

Dior, thanks for the hot toddy, it went down a treat . Had a bit of a laugh in the office as we have a bottle of tequila that someone gave us, and I checked out a site for cocktail recipes. It has some very funny videos of how to make cocktails - and how not to! (Videojug.com)- the best bit is the bartender's arch expressions.

Hope you're gathering courage - we'll all send you bits.

And how's the hairdresser?

Oh well, going home now to face dp. Must try to be friends before he goes...

MOH, it's always open to new blood - I've only recently got involved .

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