The next stage of my life WILL be better...

[Dumbledior]

New thread for me to moan...

just try to be extra careful not to give him the chance. i too am quite self-depreciating and i don't necessarily think it's a bad trait but if you've got someone toxic in your life then they will exploit it.

one step at a time, you don't need to mention the solicitor at all, ever, depending on their advice and what you choose to do with it.

fair enough re: dh, probably a good decision LOL

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he is a todge bag hun....just keep telling yourself that

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((((((((big hug)))))))))) just incase you need one.i don't really have any words of wisdom, it's normal for you to feel like this about G but shit happens,if he cant be a grown up and be your friend without wanting to get in your pants then it's his loss.how do you feel about your situation at the moment with H ????

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Good luck tomorrow Dior.
Will be thinking of you,

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Hallooo I'm back. Cold free at last. It was a horrible one, stayed in bed for three days which I haven't done since I had flu five years ago and only ate soup, so at least I feel a bit thinner. Am now coughing so hard that one of the interns suggests I should give up the cuban cigars !

Dior, how things have moved on! How did it go with the solicitor today? H certainly needs a kick up the *! I love his idea of family time - meaning, doing what HE likes. If you WERE to stay together, there will come a time when ds has his own ideas about how he wants to spend 'family time' (probably, out with his mates, leaving the old parents to bike alone) - how would H cope with THAT little rebellion and the slow, sad, hard realisation that Life isn't just all about HIM?

I haven't managed to sort out Facebook yet. DD has put up a photo on my profile for me - it's from Guy Fawkes Night and all you can see is a squiggle of light and a shadowy figure holding the sparkler. Not very informative but it preserves the mystery. Guess I'll have to master the technology myself.

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No, it's not ideal. My friend went through that - she slept on the sofa, he had the bedroom as a sort of bedsit. He was still there AFTER they divorced for a year until he finally found a flat. He claimed he couldn't afford to move out and that she should go, but she had the kids and didn't want to go on the social and get a council place since they were in a nice area. It made for a horrible atmosphere but she says it was definitely worth it in the long run. I don't know what their four children made of it, though.

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Just caught up Dior. It sounds like you are really moving on in your head, and it's practicalities to sort out now.

I stayed with xp for 6 months after we agreed to split (finally) and it was unpleasant, in fact horrendous at times, but it was doable.

I think you will have a hell of a fight on your hands though, taking control from a control freak. But you sound like you're ready - or nearly ready? Congratulations on the weight loss, and feeling sexy again! Hold on to that.

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